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Post by lightblueeyes on Mar 27, 2016 21:21:08 GMT -5
Hi, Everyone:
It lightblueeyes here. I was sorry to read about EP closing down, but I guess that is the nature of the beast and the times we are in now.
I stumbled upon EP in February, 2014 after Googling "sexless marriage". At the time, I was in a miserable sexless marriage with a very selfish man. We were married in 1999, began having issues during the honeymoon (sexual ones) and totally stopped having sexual relations 6 months into the marriage. I always thought I would stay in the marriage, regardless of how miserable it was. Luckily for me, reading the stories on EP and befriending people who were in marriages like mine helped me to see that I didn't have to stay, that I deserved better. I filed for divorce in October, 2014 and couldn't be happier. I remained on EP so I could share my experiences with others, especially my friends, and those who are still trapped in their God-awful marriages. Many of my experiences deal with finding myself after leaving a sexless marriage, in addition to my experiences in the dating world.
It is good to see so many familiar names here. I am not a computer whiz by any means, so please bear with me if a post ends up in the wrong place (or whatever.). For any new friends, I will try to link my EP stories in my profile page here.
I am looking forward to continued communications with my old friends, as well as making new ones here.
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Post by scrimshaw on Mar 27, 2016 21:28:43 GMT -5
scrimshaw from EP here. I know I haven't been very active in ILIASM, but a couple of you graciously invited me here, so I figured the gentlemanly thing to do is show up. :-)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:51:17 GMT -5
OK, you know everything reminds me of some song, and I have been in a Rolling Stones phase for a few days now. So, I have to say, every time I come here and see this forum title, "Introduce Yourself," I start hearing "Sympathy For the Devil."
Since the song is stuck in my head, I thought I would pass that along. You're welcome. :-D
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Post by Chatter Fox on Mar 27, 2016 22:14:54 GMT -5
Hi, I'm an ex-EP user that went off the grid a while back. I was an active member in the EP ILIASM experience for about 7 months. Reading everyones stories was life changing for me. I decided to drop my account for personal reasons but I would check in on the group regularly to read stories and gain more insight as needed.
I just learned about EP shutting down and I'm so grateful to know that this new forum is up and running. I have been on the fence regarding the future of my marriage and I'm starting to finally get answers. Sadly, the answers point to the door.
I'm feeling quite positive that it's not a question of if, but rather when, my marriage ends. Things got better for a while but they are quickly deteriorating to a point of no return for me. Its ok though. I'm finally coming to a state of acceptance of things. I just really still struggle with how this will effect my kids. I know in my heart and mind where this is headed but I am working hard on a strategy to kind of ease my wife into the same emotional state of acceptance and trying to figure out how to make this transition as painless as possible for the kids.
Its been a rough ride, but I have learned lessons that will benefit me for the rest of my life. I have learned how to love myself and not be a martyr anymore. I have learned self respect and I have grown in ways unimaginable. The future may not look like I imagined it.... but it is still a bright future none the less. I still have any miles to go before I can sleep soundly, but I'm forging my path, and my children's path, and I feel strongly that my wife will be better on the other side as well.
I know it's going to be a hell of a ride getting there though. Which is partially why I'm here making a new account here in this new forum. I'm going to need you guys as this road gets rocky. You guys know what it's like and many of you may have some valuable insight to help see me to the other side. I miss having you as a support system. I also want to pay it forward. I want to share my lessons and insights for others that are starting their own journeys through this confusing road called a sexless marriage. Its not something I'd wish on anyone else and if I'm able to help others navigate their way through it, then I would feel like I've been lucky to be able to play such a positive role in someones life.
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Post by sand5280 on Mar 28, 2016 4:34:00 GMT -5
Addendum to initial introduction: Technicality bothering me, a “disclosure” for lack of better word. I am not married but joined this site during the EP exodus. We are 3 years into relationship we consider to be quite permanent, so it's comparable but agreed not the same. I have not seen anyone else here not married, but I have not read every single post. I too am living in misery.
Google sexless relationship basically produces marriage sites. I had to create my own group on RTT.
So my experiences and sentiments are similar. Is anyone else here in the same category? I hope I'm not gonna get booted out of yet another site, or maybe I have to sit at the kid's table like at Thanksgiving.
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Post by miestas on Mar 28, 2016 6:03:21 GMT -5
Miestas from EP here. Thanks for setting up the new site, Dan and Smartkat, and anyone else involved! However, I will warn you that I am like a harbinger of doom. Every great site I find closes soon afterward. SecondLife group: dead, EP: dying, My marriage: On life support. Hope this one survives my presence.
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Post by Chatter Fox on Mar 28, 2016 9:02:20 GMT -5
I hope I'm not gonna get booted out of yet another site, or maybe I have to sit at the kid's table like at Thanksgiving. I can't speak for everyone obviously but I believe the more the merrier. Regardless of specific situation, we all have similar frustrations and can all benefit from as much support and shared experiences as possible.  |
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Post by DryCreek on Mar 28, 2016 9:58:54 GMT -5
Addendum to initial introduction: Technicality bothering me, a “disclosure” for lack of better word. I am not married but joined this site during the EP exodus. We are 3 years into relationship we consider to be quite permanent, so it's comparable but agreed not the same. I have not seen anyone else here not married, but I have not read every single post. I too am living in misery. Welcome, Sand. We don't distinguish here. Sexless is sexless, regardless of legal status. "Sexless marriage" is just a convenient label. And, yes, there are others here in your same situation, though for simplicity they may not distinguish. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2016 14:35:45 GMT -5
Addendum to initial introduction: Technicality bothering me, a “disclosure” for lack of better word. I am not married but joined this site during the EP exodus. We are 3 years into relationship we consider to be quite permanent, so it's comparable but agreed not the same. I have not seen anyone else here not married, but I have not read every single post. I too am living in misery. Google sexless relationship basically produces marriage sites. I had to create my own group on RTT. So my experiences and sentiments are similar. Is anyone else here in the same category? I hope I'm not gonna get booted out of yet another site, or maybe I have to sit at the kid's table like at Thanksgiving. I was not legally married to my refuser. We were together monogamously for 14 years (10 years cohabitating.) We both considered ourselves to be emotionally married, if not legally married. |
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Post by snowman12345 on Mar 28, 2016 21:58:31 GMT -5
Hello everyone! It's me Snowman12345! From EP. Sorry to see EP going the way of the wind. But, you know the old US Army motto - Adapt and overcome! I actually have not been on EP in awhile - life has a habit of pulling in many directions. I am thankful for the message in my box on EP directing me to this site. It will be interesting to see how many folks migrate to this site. Talk to you all soon!
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Post by obobfla on Mar 28, 2016 23:11:40 GMT -5
Hi, it's Obobfla here. Glad to have made it. I have lived through three sexless marriage sites. Hope this one sticks around.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2016 19:19:33 GMT -5
Testing.
If one of the nice folk here could check my profile and let me know if anything is hanging out, I'd appreciate it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2016 19:20:29 GMT -5
Hi y'all. This feels a bit like going into a new bar. You know lots of the people there but you are not quite sure where everything is... Unmatched, do you ride? |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2016 19:36:56 GMT -5
Quick Notes About This Place:
1: Folks that moved from EP are WAY more open here than they were there. I feel like I already know WAY more about most of you than I did at EP. Is it because the Avatars are bigger, or because you've just decided to let your hair down?
2: I noticed some of you flirting in a "Flirting" forum. The hair is definitely coming down.
3: I'm having trouble navigating.
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Post by pinkjeanie70 on Mar 29, 2016 20:26:22 GMT -5
Good evening! Thank you, Dan, for giving us a sanctuary to meet up with our friends and share thoughts, laughs, and stories. I am post SM. I am on the Other Side, but I am not special because I was so scared to do anything about my SM for years...things happened and I took advice from my EP friends to take advantage of a situation gone amok from day one. Just recently, though, I realized that when things went amok, my now ExH was probably very unhappy, too. I'm post SM. I am in a post SM relationship, and I am rediscovering myself as a woman and as a partner...as a whole person. Not as someone who has arms and legs and can provide only sweat equity or contribute to a vacation budget. Anyway, so glad to stay connected to my friends from EP. XOXO
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