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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 9:49:04 GMT -5
My kids both (girl and boy -- twins) started riding at about that age. And, I must say, I really dig that 690. If I weren't such a clutz, I'd consider riding a dual sport. I'd just kill myself. No, you wouldn't. It is an awesome bike. You can turn down the power for tight stuff if you need to and it will go pretty much anywhere a 450 will. And it is a blast on the road. It is not very comfortable though, after a few hundred miles you have to keep shifting from one butt cheek to the other fairly regularly! And I don't know where you live but you wouldn't want to ride it at 80mph+ for any extended length of time. My current plan is to downsize to something a little more manageable and purpose built. The new Yamaha "X"s or a Beta have me wishing. Maybe when money comes back around. |
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Post by whisperingthunder on Apr 1, 2016 17:59:25 GMT -5
Hi all... *waves*
I did the bulk of my posting on EP in 2012 (using same name). I've updated a couple of times, but it's been about two years since I have done anything on the site. I just happened to check in recently -- and was very surprised to see them shutting it down!
Thanks for getting this set up - I hope all the regulars I knew find their way here.
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 1, 2016 19:38:56 GMT -5
I am reintroducing myself as TheBumble (formerly HMRypsi61) because I think TheBumble is much easier to be friendly with..........like, "Hey, Bumble! What's up, man?!"
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Post by lycheechan on Apr 1, 2016 19:45:12 GMT -5
Hi Everyone! I am LycheeChan and recently I posted on EP about re-entering my ILIASM deal and trying to make it work with my husband. So here I am...let's continue this thing.
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Post by mariposa43 on Apr 2, 2016 5:53:18 GMT -5
Hi Everybody,
I found you all through EP, which I had only recently discovered. I am in a nearly 16 year marriage, and I like charmedheart's description of "emotionally negligent". That fits the bill for me as well. Sexless almost 6 years now. I can't begin to tell you all what a blessing it is to have found this community. I feel like I have been struggling alone for so long, and I know now that I need to gather the strength to leave, that despite the hell it will bring in the short term, it is better for me and my kids. He and I are well known and loved in our community, and everyone thinks we have this great marriage, not to mention this is going to be a terrible shake-up to the tiny church congregation we're a part of. And yet I still know that this will be for my own survival--I haven't arrived at this lightly. I'm sure I will be able to give more of my story in upcoming posts, but again, I'm very happy to have found you all!
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 2, 2016 17:28:53 GMT -5
Hi Everybody, I found you all through EP, which I had only recently discovered. I am in a nearly 16 year marriage, and I like charmedheart's description of "emotionally negligent". That fits the bill for me as well. Sexless almost 6 years now. I can't begin to tell you all what a blessing it is to have found this community. mariposa, you are definitely not alone in your quest for freedom and survuval here. Your story and details are not uncommon at all. You can do this. It's your life -- find yourself again. It will be worth everything to do so. |
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 2, 2016 23:54:41 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
I am new here, but not to the group on EP. While on EP, I had joined and deleted my account a few times but always came back to the ILIASM group. I mostly just read the stories and place a few comments here and there, and that has been about it. All in all, I had been on and off the site for about 3 years. Still in a long-time sexless marriage and I know that won't change any but reading others stories helps me understand a little more about my own.
I am glad to see this group survive, and I am confident that this will be a much cleaner and better environment than EP. I can see already that this will be a better place.
From EP - DesolateSoul64
(also used to be known as Clandestine1, CaptainRum)
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Post by mariposa43 on Apr 3, 2016 7:05:30 GMT -5
Hi Everybody, I found you all through EP, which I had only recently discovered. I am in a nearly 16 year marriage, and I like charmedheart's description of "emotionally negligent". That fits the bill for me as well. Sexless almost 6 years now. I can't begin to tell you all what a blessing it is to have found this community. mariposa, you are definitely not alone in your quest for freedom and survuval here. Your story and details are not uncommon at all. You can do this. It's your life -- find yourself again. It will be worth everything to do so. Thank you so much, Bumble! I read your "What You Have to Look Forward To" post as well as another similar one, and let me tell you, with the exception of suicidal thoughts and some of the house cleaning stuff you mentioned, that is my life. The mask is sooooo heavy. I believe it's a miracle that I don't have suicidal thoughts and also that I have a positive self image and no body image issues. Still though, I feel like all my time now is wrapped up in trying to escape reality. Not good. It was also a relief of sorts to hear from others with experience that these things don't work out. A relief because I can't shake the feeling that I do not want to try and work on things. I know in my gut that he will not change for good, and I don't want him anymore. I can forgive, but that doesn't mean staying in a bad situation. I think these feelings must be self-preservation on my part. |
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 3, 2016 8:34:52 GMT -5
We need to organize Mask-burning Parties (-: My suicidal thoughts were never more than just wishing I could end the pain somehow. I thought the best way would be to roll my scooter into this little closet space in the garage. The 2-stroke engine would surely spew enough CO2 to do the job. But there's no way I would have ever seriously considered it. But......I do now understand how people can get to that point.
I think a positive self-image (physical and otherwise) is crucial to getting out. And as far as 'working on things'.......if you have tried to talk about it and just gotten gaslighted, twisted, mocked, scorned, and ridiculed........that's the end. There's nowhere to go from there. That's how my last attempt at telling her what was wrong went. It was then that I gave up trying and started to focus on getting 'me' back together again. It takes time, but I'm finally there and I can't wait to breathe in my freedom and rediscover the man that got buried in what was supposed to be 'forever'.
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 3, 2016 23:23:14 GMT -5
Hello, wdftbc from EP here now. Just wanted to check in and say thnks for setting this up. I know we are losing a couple of veterans, but I also feel that this will weed out some of the trolls that were over there, so that we can really speak freely and garner support from others.
Thats all. Later.
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 3, 2016 23:25:34 GMT -5
Hi y'all. This feels a bit like going into a new bar. You know lots of the people there but you are not quite sure where everything is... Yeah, I know... I'm looking for the gin right now... not sure where it is on this site... Big thank you to Dan (and liltree I think?) for getting this up and running so quickly. Thanks to liltree and all other EPers helping me to publicize the new site. Thanks to SmartKat for drafting the Community Guidelines. double Jack neat? Yes thats me, right here, thanks. |
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Post by abitofadilemma on Apr 4, 2016 1:21:09 GMT -5
Just checked back in at EP and saw the news. As I occasionally lurked on the other site from time to time when I was at my wits end, I made the transition over to this site with the rest of you. I don't believe I ever posted on EP, but have read many of your stories and certainly feel the same pains and frustrations that most of you do. I hope to eventually add my story to all of yours. But for now, I will leave you with this bit of insight into my life - I am walking through a store today and said "maybe some day I will buy one of these <whatevers>". My wife said "You know I never say no". I looked at her and she said then added: "...to purchases." Ha ha she laughed. I gave her a polite pat on the shoulder. The struggle...
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 4, 2016 3:12:40 GMT -5
dilemma, that is a micro-tragedy right there. It's one of the saddest things I have read here because it resonates so deeply. When they KNOW what they are doing, but laugh it off. It's just truly horrific.
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Post by sand5280 on Apr 4, 2016 3:57:27 GMT -5
My wife said "You know I never say no". I looked at her and she said then added: "...to purchases." Ha ha she laughed. This laughing it off, or perhaps more accurate not realizing how important it is: It's a deep stab which hurts. It seems to happen often, and it's not too funny to us. Dilemma, you're in good company. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 10:43:39 GMT -5
Hello My name is Mike. I'm 58 And been married 40 years, the last 7 being sexless. She says she loves me but NEVER touches me in any way, just constantly complains she is not happy... And on occasion remarks She is not attracted sexually to me anymore:( Sounds very much like my situation, Mike. I'm not really looking to get out, but it's tough living as roommates. |
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