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Post by ballofconfusion on Sept 18, 2018 19:07:03 GMT -5
God, I'm glad I got to skip the whole "looking for love" step and found my little ballofconfusion... I'm lucky as hell. - likewise Shammy. ❤️ |
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Sept 18, 2018 19:24:32 GMT -5
God, I'm glad I got to skip the whole "looking for love" step and found my little ballofconfusion ... I'm lucky as hell. YES! You are and I can only speak for myself, "the rest of the dating world is not all rainbows and unicorns." So true! I looked around on dating sites and was so disappointed! Anyone I might have been attracted to was only into women 10 years younger than me. Also, a lot of the profiles are just awful...not a turn on at all! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 18, 2018 20:13:08 GMT -5
YES! You are and I can only speak for myself, "the rest of the dating world is not all rainbows and unicorns." So true! I looked around on dating sites and was so disappointed! Anyone I might have been attracted to was only into women 10 years younger than me. Also, a lot of the profiles are just awful...not a turn on at all! I read where that is what I should be doing at my age. I don't agree and I am not there....yet. I am going to be patient, personally there's going to be a lot more trial and error. However I had an experience today on line. A local woman (55F- one year older than me) responded to my text where i asked her to clarify where she lived/ ( It was a 60 mile difference). Her answer? Do you ever go to Lous Blues bar there? ( it's 2 miles from my house). I answered her question and told her more about myself. I told her that i looked forward to a fun evening, and that I am not one of these "experienced men". ( that's a term a lot of them use.Another double standard and contradiction. They want to have a long term relationship with a guy who is "experienced"?) I did not hear back from her, but she was on line this morning? So, I asked? "did I say something wrong, to turn you off?" I got a response. She said, "no I am not meeting ppl right now as I am busy with work." I responded " I look forward to hearing from you in the future. Have a pleasant day!" I heard right back from her, " I go to Lous Blues every now and then, do you go there?" I told her " hardly ever, I've been there twice in the past 2 months with a group. I live close by. I don't drink, but I like to dance. let me know if you have a time or day in mind?" I still don't get a response, yet I saw where she checked out my profile 3 more times during the day. Not a turn on at all. Not a single thing about herself. She's busy. What a total opposite from these 30 to 35 yr old woman who want to send me paragraphs about their search for love, family, relocating, children and a husband. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 18, 2018 20:34:26 GMT -5
“I’m looking for love, romance and I am a very giving person”. What’s their first question, “where do you work?” greatcoastal my guess is that with this question they’re just trying to get to know you, not that they have ulterior motives. Most people talk a lot about their work so I think this is a pretty standard question to ask someone you are interested in. I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world. |
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 18, 2018 20:49:18 GMT -5
I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. They probably don't tap dance either. |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 18, 2018 21:11:48 GMT -5
You are correct. Where you are not correct is that one doesnt need to have a dating profile to understand human dynamics. If you are so concerned about being fleeced, just tell them on the first date she took all your money. See if they call back greatcoastal my guess is that with this question they’re just trying to get to know you, not that they have ulterior motives. Most people talk a lot about their work so I think this is a pretty standard question to ask someone you are interested in. I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world.[/quote] |
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Post by ironhamster on Sept 18, 2018 21:23:17 GMT -5
“I’m looking for love, romance and I am a very giving person”. What’s their first question, “where do you work?” greatcoastal my guess is that with this question they’re just trying to get to know you, not that they have ulterior motives. Most people talk a lot about their work so I think this is a pretty standard question to ask someone you are interested in. I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world. I was on a couple dating sites. One was a hookup site. I seemed to have decent luck, there, even though the date quickly went to hell when she found out I was still married. Another site had plenty of chatbots and scammers, which paid no attention to my bio. To avoid the young women looking for a sugar daddy, maybe "ourtime" or another mature dating site would make more sense. |
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Post by jamesbonding on Sept 18, 2018 22:40:32 GMT -5
“I’m looking for love, romance and I am a very giving person”. What’s their first question, “where do you work?” greatcoastal my guess is that with this question they’re just trying to get to know you, not that they have ulterior motives. Most people talk a lot about their work so I think this is a pretty standard question to ask someone you are interested in. I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world. I was one of the likers, and yes, I did spend more than a year on dating sites, about 9 years ago. OKCupid was the best, plentyoffish had more members, so more people nearby to check out. From what I've read, the quality of all dating websites has declined in recent years. I agree with choosinghappy, "where do you work?" is not, by itself, a red flag that the person asking is a golddigger. It's most likely just a way of breaking the ice, getting to know someone who is, up to this moment, a complete stranger. I had women from far-away places contact me, and most of them were probably golddiggers. One unhappily married woman in Malta contacted me about something I mentioned in my profile. Apparently she just wanted to "talk" via email, and we had an interesting discussion. In Malta, divorce is extremely difficult. I also contacted some women outside my local area, sometimes about something interesting in their profiles, sometimes just to offer some encouragement: "You seem like an interesting person. If I lived nearby, I would want to meet you. I'm just writing to offer some encouragement and wish you good luck in your quest." One woman I contacted seemed to be interested in me for a couple weeks and I was hopeful that we might meet and become lovers. Then she backed out, but we remained email friends and we have occasionally stayed in touch through the years. I also agree with you, greatcoastal, finding people with whom you might be compatible, and dating, are difficult, sometimes stressful, and often cause disappointment and depression. (So is job hunting, which is a similar sort of activity!) I met my wife through a mutual friend who introduced us to each other. I met my AP through an internet forum (not a dating site). So those are other ways of meeting people. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 19, 2018 14:04:42 GMT -5
God, I'm glad I got to skip the whole "looking for love" step and found my little ballofconfusion ... I'm lucky as hell. - likewise Shammy. ❤️ Sometimes the love of your life, comes after the mistake of your life! |
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Post by ballofconfusion on Sept 19, 2018 15:01:26 GMT -5
Sometimes the love of your life, comes after the mistake of your life! Indeed greatcoastal! The love of my life would honestly be an understatement when it comes to shamwow. I hope for you and everyone here to also find this kind of love. It is a true gift - undeserved but cherished. |
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Post by Isabellas39 on Sept 22, 2018 6:26:51 GMT -5
GC, I always summed up the bullshit I encountered on AM as something specific to the outsourcing environment. However, after reading your stories I think maybe I forgot how bad the dating world was when I was single? I think the negative experiences can truly change the way we view others, so we have to be careful. I find it all difficult, and I am very happy for those who found someone special.
We moved a few months ago and I am looking at a completely sexless life. When I allow myself to dwell, the scariest part is knowing that continuing down this path means many more nights sleeping alone, and all that entails. I am just tired of being stuck ! Anyway, not high jacking the thread, but I just wanted those who haven't outsourced to know that it's not all sex and fun times.
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Post by shamwow on Sept 22, 2018 12:46:31 GMT -5
“I’m looking for love, romance and I am a very giving person”. What’s their first question, “where do you work?” greatcoastal my guess is that with this question they’re just trying to get to know you, not that they have ulterior motives. Most people talk a lot about their work so I think this is a pretty standard question to ask someone you are interested in. I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world. Just curious. Could you post your dating profile? Redacted of course. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 22, 2018 13:26:35 GMT -5
I find it 'interesting' that the 6 people who like your comment , as far as I know have ZERO experience with having a PROFILE on a online hookup/dating site (pasion.com/AFF). Correct me if I am wrong. We are comparing apples to oranges here. Totally taken out of context. Two totally different worlds. After you have posted and responded to a couple of hundred people, ( or a few months) then come on here and talk about, outsourcing and the dating world. Just curious. Could you post your dating profile? Redacted of course. Sorry, I just don't get it? (no comprende'?) Are you trying to be supportive, humoriste, derogatory, smart a__? For now your comment has negative value  . |
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Post by shamwow on Sept 22, 2018 15:04:30 GMT -5
Just curious. Could you post your dating profile? Redacted of course. Sorry, I just don't get it? (no comprende'?) Are you trying to be supportive, humoriste, derogatory, smart a__? For now your comment has negative value . Honestly? Just curious. And supportive. I kind of view a dating profile like a resume. Two people can have the same information and it can read totally differently. The "redacted" part was about taking off your personal information of course. It's a bit like when. I posted the letter to my wife way back when I chopped out personally identifying information. Im just saying you have access to a number of women here who may look at your dating "resume" and have some pointers. It helped me look at my letter with a woman's point of view and soften my sharper edges. It helped make the divorce process amicable to no end. I suspect that you might have the wrong "resume" that is attracting the wrong offers. But I reserve the right to be wrong 😉 |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 22, 2018 15:33:37 GMT -5
Sorry, I just don't get it? (no comprende'?) Are you trying to be supportive, humoriste, derogatory, smart a__? For now your comment has negative value . Honestly? Just curious. And supportive. I kind of view a dating profile like a resume. Two people can have the same information and it can read totally differently. The "redacted" part was about taking off your personal information of course. It's a bit like when. I posted the letter to my wife way back when I chopped out personally identifying information. Im just saying you have access to a number of women here who may look at your dating "resume" and have some pointers. It helped me look at my letter with a woman's point of view and soften my sharper edges. It helped make the divorce process amicable to no end. I suspect that you might have the wrong "resume" that is attracting the wrong offers. But I reserve the right to be wrong 😉 That makes a lot more sense. Thanks for clarifying that for me! I'll strongly consider that,and find the proper place to post it. lately I keep getting messages, and my profile viewed,from women 20 years younger than me, while I am messaging and viewing profiles of woman, who are my age, a few years older or at the most 10 yrs younger. And I recieve little response. You would not believe the conversations I am having. The desire for me (online only, my recent pics and honest answers) is so strong, it is way outside my comfort zone. let me put it this way, "not what I would aim for if meeting people face to face". Either they are looking for a "sugar daddy", an honest kind man , who wants a LTR* or I have been selling myself short for all these years. ( that can happen men/woman when you've been locked in to a SM for 25 yrs) Side note: I am also meeting widows. That's a whole new experience. |
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