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Post by jim44444 on Dec 18, 2018 17:43:25 GMT -5
For me vocal music must have something besides a cute rhyme. The lyrics must evoke an emotion. For this season I like the following
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Dec 18, 2018 18:40:26 GMT -5
Question for today: What was one thing your parents taught you that stayed with you? Stay away from dad after he's been drinking. Life long lesson there.
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Post by flounder on Dec 18, 2018 19:31:54 GMT -5
I love all music. I have everything from Eminem to Ralph Stanley. From Metallica to Maria Callas.
The older I get the softer I like it. Allison Krauss and Union Station’s New Old Favorite album right now. Some Ray Lamontange and a splash of The Temptations.
It really keeps me sane.
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Post by isthisit on Dec 19, 2018 4:51:09 GMT -5
Since you all got fancy and copied links to your fav songs, here’s mine. Watcher beware, tho. This is the first time I’ve seen the music video. It’s hot! I should have known! Ooooh good spot SK. The music isn’t for me but that guy is delicious. My music heroes are past their best now aesthetically speaking, but I can watch the lovely Brett on mute and listen to Paul Weller!
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Post by isthisit on Dec 19, 2018 6:12:06 GMT -5
Question for today- something that requires less introspection. Do you like music? If so, what is your current favorite song on your playlist? I’m unapologetically a huge country music fan. My current favorite song is “Here Tonight” by Brett Young. Looking forward to seeing your choices! Recently I have found myself digging out my favourite music from my youth, so The Smiths, Elvis Costello (not the fat jumpsuited one), Paul Weller, The Stone Roses, Oasis, Ocean Colour Scene to name a few. I have been pondering why this is for a few weeks, and now think I am trying to reclaim that happy go lucky, ready to embrace every experience girl I used to be. Today I also appreciate classical music and opera which I did not appreciate in my youth so while I remain monogamous to my heroes of old, my tastes are changing too.
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Post by sadkat on Dec 19, 2018 10:25:43 GMT -5
I enjoyed all your answers from yesterday’s question! It’s fun seeing how varied everyone’s taste in music is!
Back to a more introspective question today. How did you meet your spouse (or ex for those of you who have left)? AND- what made you decide to get married?
For me, my spouse and I met while working in the same hospital. It was my first salaried position straight out of college and he was working part time trying to finish college (which he eventually did about a year later). We dated for 6 years ( some of that long distance). We got along well and mostly agreed on major issues (money, work ethics, trust). The sex was good back then too, although we were both quite young, inexperienced, and learning as we went along. When we were both firmly established in our careers 6 years later, we naturally progressed to getting married. I guess, to us, it was the thing to do.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2018 12:09:33 GMT -5
My husband and I met on an online dating service. I had been divorced for about 4 years and living happily on my own just taking care of the kids and enjoying being single again after having been together with my ex almost 20 years. My husband had never been married and had a daughter out of state, so had only been a part-time parent. He had never lived full time raising a child. He ended up moving in very quickly once he met my kids (he had lost his job) and about a year later we got married. Marriage was important to him. He really wanted to be married and settle down. I could have been fine just living together as I'd already been there and done that. lol! Plus, admittedly, there were issues early on that caused me concern. Call me crazy - or a hopeless romantic - but I agreed to marry him even though he was (and had been) out of work for a while and we were still working out the kinks in parenting styles, etc.. I knew I loved him though. That was something I was 100% certain of and so, hoped all the rest would be worked out. I wanted it to work. I was crazy about him. Still am. He makes my knees weak and we had so much fun early on. Anything seemed possible. I was happy. We've been married 5 years now.
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Post by isthisit on Dec 19, 2018 17:03:13 GMT -5
I met my husband through a sport we had in common. I remember the first moment I ever set eyes on him- I was dumbstruck with how perfect he was. I remember the first time he spoke to me, the first time I told him my name. The world literally stopped spinning, time stood still and I knew right at that moment with complete certainty that I had met the love of my life- despite knowing absolutely nothing at all about him. (All very out of character for a super sensible, grounded, safe pair of hands like me). I fell headlong in love and the sex was off the charts amazing. Spontaneous, plentiful and enthusiastic. I married him because I adored him and could not imagine being happy without him by my side. I would never, ever have been able to foresee that I would end up where I am today- it’s just so sad. I had it all, got married and slowly had nothing.
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Post by h on Dec 19, 2018 21:02:01 GMT -5
I enjoyed all your answers from yesterday’s question! It’s fun seeing how varied everyone’s taste in music is! Back to a more introspective question today. How did you meet your spouse (or ex for those of you who have left)? AND- what made you decide to get married? For me, my spouse and I met while working in the same hospital. It was my first salaried position straight out of college and he was working part time trying to finish college (which he eventually did about a year later). We dated for 6 years ( some of that long distance). We got along well and mostly agreed on major issues (money, work ethics, trust). The sex was good back then too, although we were both quite young, inexperienced, and learning as we went along. When we were both firmly established in our careers 6 years later, we naturally progressed to getting married. I guess, to us, it was the thing to do. I met my W in highschool. We didn't have the same social circle though. We didn't start dating until college. We married after college. I can't go into more detail here as this folder on the board is open to the public and I don't want to risk being identified by anyone in my community. Some of my posts here could jeopardize my job.
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Post by ironhamster on Dec 19, 2018 21:26:31 GMT -5
...Back to a more introspective question today. How did you meet your spouse (or ex for those of you who have left)? AND- what made you decide to get married? My best friend in high school was her best friend in college. She paired us up. I had been through some really wild relationships. This girl was different. She felt safe. I could see building a life with her. I thought I could make it work. In the aftermath, I allowed her to be lazy, and I built the life for her. It has been discussed some time ago that we look for different characteristics in a sex partner than we do in a lifelong mate. I am certainly guilty of that.
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Post by baza on Dec 19, 2018 22:07:00 GMT -5
Met my missus at a party. I had gargled numerous beers prior to getting to said party and then had a heap more at the party. Suffice to say I was really hammered...to the extent that when I went to pick her up for a date a few days later I only had a vague memory of what she looked like. Anyway, after this alcohol fuelled beginning, off we went on our journey to eventual ILIASM - which took a while.
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Post by Handy on Dec 19, 2018 23:20:16 GMT -5
My employer (Uncle Sam) loaned me to a kids summer camp one summer. My W was the camp LPN nurse. The camp director said she could trust handy but not the other guys. We dated for the summer and she wanted to get married. I was only getting $128 a month and sending some of that home to support my mother so marriage was out of the question. That lead to a partial break-up but we were still in contact with each other. Once I got out of (Uncle Sam's Army) and earning a just barely living wage, a year later we got married. We were both working and saving for a house. No house but I had a much better job offer so we moved to her home town and kid #1 was made. Next our own house and kid #2 was made.
I was the sexually reserved person at first and loosened up. Several years later, I had a work related injury, then surgery. I wasn't my W's hero/can do anything man and the sex cooled off quite a bit. When she went back to work (with 2 teenagersin the house) sex even happened less. Her income became her money. About the same thing happened with her sexuality.
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Post by sadkat on Dec 20, 2018 10:53:26 GMT -5
Question for today- I’ve read a lot lately about kissing and how it is the first casualty in a long term relationship. Why do you think that is? If you had the opportunity to kiss again, how would you make sure you kept it in your relationship long term?
I have no answers for this one. It’s been so long since I’ve been truly and thoroughly kissed that I’d rather sit this one out and see what the rest of you think.
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Post by deadzone75 on Dec 20, 2018 11:27:07 GMT -5
Question for today- I’ve read a lot lately about kissing and how it is the first casualty in a long term relationship. Why do you think that is? If you had the opportunity to kiss again, how would you make sure you kept it in your relationship long term? I have no answers for this one. It’s been so long since I’ve been truly and thoroughly kissed that I’d rather sit this one out and see what the rest of you think. My wife doesn't kiss me passionately unless it's during sex. It's always the quick lip kiss going to work and sometimes before bed, and even that is pretty rare these days. I'd have to go back 14 years or so since I engaged in a passionate, wet kiss with her that didn't involve sex. I'm sure I miss it, and I'm sure I don't realize how much.
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Post by Handy on Dec 20, 2018 11:47:43 GMT -5
I’ve read a lot lately about kissing and how it is the first casualty in a long term relationship. Why do you think that is?
For me there is a connection between kissing and thinking about doing more. When there is no "more" then the lead up process gets short circuited. I think this works from the partner's perspective. They avoid anything that might lead to more so avoid the preliminaries.
I think it is similar to going to the candy store and find the hours and supply of candy diminishing over time along with prices that risen dramatically. After a while of no transactions I don't want to be disappointed, so I quit going to the candy store.
A similar situation such as going to work and getting paid on some commission scale, where the rate decreases and decreases, why go to work. It isn't paying off and it is better to look for a different job, or interests in this case.
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