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Post by Admin on Mar 29, 2016 11:10:16 GMT -5
Perhaps a separate category for those in the process of leaving/getting a divorce? One of Mountainrunner's posts gave me the idea, having had no real place to put her story. I recommend -- for now -- a thread discussing "currently pursuing a divorce" would best be placed in Sexless Marriage Issues board. A quick terminology recap (using the ProForums/FreeForums lingo): - This whole site is a FORUM - A CATEGORY is a major subdivision or section. (We only have one at this time: "General") - Then there are BOARDS (like "Welcome" and "Sexless Marriage Issues") - There members start THREADS with an initial POST - New POSTS are appended to the bottom of the THREAD. THREADS with the most recent activity float to the top of the listing in their BOARDS. Thus older discussion naturally age out, and get bumped to page 2, then page 3... etc. But renewed interest (via a post) brings it back to the top. |
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Post by Admin on Mar 29, 2016 11:20:26 GMT -5
Going to add one cool feature of this site: Notifications. Profile, you have them set as instant or however, as you prefer, whatever email notifier you have will go off, such as phone sitting nearby. You are notified of what you choose. Lots of emails to delete later, but it works well. Nobody wants to refresh page to see news. Good deal with this, I think set up rather well. Thanks for pointing this out. Let me clarify two things: 1) If you view your profile, there is a tab labeled "Notifications". This is a bit like the "Activity Log" at EP. 2) If you want to be emailed upon these events (as sand5280 is describing), click the "Edit Profile" button, then look for the (different) "Notifications" tab there. |
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Post by Admin on Mar 29, 2016 11:25:36 GMT -5
Also, the “Sexless Marriage Issues” Board will fill up quickly with Subjects. I am hesitant to begin offering my details, don't know where to put it because it really is highly unusual. Not married but would like to be, neither party is sexless by choice, filled with physical health issues, more. And I need help. So should we all continue to create our own Subjects, with the hopes that when Board is filled it will be found and read? Maybe soon there will be 600 members, Board has 400 Subjects, nobody will see your new one? Sorry I'm rambling. As more subjects are added, older ones (those with less activity) merely get pushed back to "older pages" in the board they are in. No problem; that's how these forums work. As for where to put an ARBITRARY relationship issue, assume "Sexless Marriage Issues" is the right place for now. As Admin, I can create new boards as needed, and can move threads there for better organization. It is hard to anticipate every possible need, and offering dozen's of "specialized boards" may introduce its own problems. That said: reply to this if you think we should add a catch all such as "Other Relationship Issues". (Want to seek advice on how to handle a pesky mother-in-law? Maybe that would go here.) |
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Post by Admin on Mar 29, 2016 11:34:12 GMT -5
I participate in another forum [...] and they have one feature I like that can help solve Sand's problem about a message getting lost in the clutter. They have a "Latest forum posts" display on the homepage. I don't see that available as a separate "panel" or "widget", but note the panel "Forum Information & Statistics" on the Home page; it includes links for The way those URLs work, you can even bookmark them; just make that your "entry point" in to ILIASM, if you'd like. Related: in most cases, if you click the little purple "NEW" icon, it will take you directly to the next item you haven't read in that thread. |
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miestas
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Post by miestas on Mar 29, 2016 12:07:06 GMT -5
I do not know how flexible the structure of this site is, so my suggestion may be impossible. I now see what the other website I was describing has done. The list in the box is a list of the ten threads which have most recently received posts, in order from most recent at the top. When you click on that link, it takes you to the most recent post in that thread. So its a combination of "Recent threads" and "Recent posts". It is a very useful box, making it instantly obvious to anyone visiting or using the site, which topics are currently actively being discussed. Active threads stay near the top, dead threads quickly drop off the bottom. The stats board on oir site simply tells you which threads have posts that you haven't read yet. Its similar, but you still have to "click around" to get to the threads which are active. And as the thread list gets longer, it gets much too easy for a thread in which you might be interested to get lost in the crowd.
Is there any way to add something similar to our site, or is the structure of the site immutable?
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Post by misssunnybunny on Mar 29, 2016 18:25:35 GMT -5
Also, the “Sexless Marriage Issues” Board will fill up quickly with Subjects. I am hesitant to begin offering my details, don't know where to put it because it really is highly unusual. Not married but would like to be, neither party is sexless by choice, filled with physical health issues, more. And I need help. So should we all continue to create our own Subjects, with the hopes that when Board is filled it will be found and read? Maybe soon there will be 600 members, Board has 400 Subjects, nobody will see your new one? Sorry I'm rambling. As more subjects are added, older ones (those with less activity) merely get pushed back to "older pages" in the board they are in. No problem; that's how these forums work. As for where to put an ARBITRARY relationship issue, assume "Sexless Marriage Issues" is the right place for now. As Admin, I can create new boards as needed, and can move threads there for better organization. It is hard to anticipate every possible need, and offering dozen's of "specialized boards" may introduce its own problems. That said: reply to this if you think we should add a catch all such as "Other Relationship Issues". (Want to seek advice on how to handle a pesky mother-in-law? Maybe that would go here.) I like the idea of the "other relationship issues" catch-all. =) Would help with the not an In an SM/not a Post SM issues |
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TheBumble
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Post by TheBumble on Mar 30, 2016 2:10:24 GMT -5
First off, thanks for setting this up! I am on the vergiest of verges in finally leaving my SM and I so need the support of people who get it! This is that place!
Secondly......I think the ShoutBox could be a really cool way for people to share 'live', just to chat (explicitly sexual stuff gets you banned, etc - same guidelines)......group chats.....but people don't often look down there. Could a section be added called something like "MEET ME IN THE SHOUTBOX!" and people could post if they're down there looking for chatters..time-stamped..I think it would help draw some attention down that way, and it seems like such a cool tool to have. I'm sitting here proctoring a test, and would love to be able to chat down there! Thanks for considering!
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Post by sand5280 on Mar 30, 2016 4:09:33 GMT -5
I think the ShoutBox could be a really cool way for people to share 'live', just to chat (explicitly sexual stuff gets you banned, etc - same guidelines)......group chats.....but people don't often look down there. Could a section be added called something like "MEET ME IN THE SHOUTBOX!" and people could post if they're down there looking for chatters..time-stamped..I think it would help draw some attention down that way, and it seems like such a cool tool to have. I'm sitting here proctoring a test, and would love to be able to chat down there! Thanks for considering! I like the ShoutBox. Had fun with it this morning, an opportunity to chit chat idly with those that are on from all different locations. Found out someone grew up near where I live, and the weather across the world. I simply have that open in a different window, and refresh page often (no good on phone obviously). Keep it clean please, there's a place for that stuff in the Flirty board. |
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Post by TMD on Mar 30, 2016 18:25:37 GMT -5
Given how often the topic arises, would a separate topic for, "outsourcing," work for this new forum?
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 1, 2016 10:30:25 GMT -5
How about a hobbies section? Books, movies, cars, precision shooting (all mine) so we can distract ourselves? Maybe a sub group off "lighter side" or "off topic"?
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Post by Admin on Apr 2, 2016 21:26:16 GMT -5
Thank you for these suggestions: Given how often the topic arises, would a separate topic for, "outsourcing," work for this new forum? Since outsourcing is specifically an approach/technique for dealing with marital sexlessness, let's stick with such discussions in the "Sexless Marriage Issues" board. How about a hobbies section? Books, movies, cars, precision shooting (all mine) so we can distract ourselves? Maybe a sub group off "lighter side" or "off topic"? I think this is EXACTLY what "Off Topic" board is for. It both cases, I think if we find SO MANY of the above topics dominating those boards that other important discussions are drowned out, that would be a good reason to consider separate boards at such time. |
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Moetse Tau
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 10, 2016 22:59:43 GMT -5
Not sure if it is possible or enough members would even want it, but what about a PM chat popup?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 13:11:51 GMT -5
Is there an easy way to make a poll on here?
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Post by LITW on Apr 15, 2016 13:52:52 GMT -5
I'm all for the "no dick pics" policy. Should we clarify that "boob pics are welcomed"? ;-) But... Diapers? To each their own, but if you're into a niche fetish, you should be conscious of the "niche" part - I.e., not widely appreciated... How about boob pics are encouraged? lol I agree about no diapers though .... there are enough places on the internet for that kind of .... well ... to each his own as you say. |
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Post by LITW on Apr 15, 2016 13:55:04 GMT -5
Not sure if it is possible or enough members would even want it, but what about a PM chat popup? I would use a chat popup if there was one. That was one of my favorite features of the old EP. I don't know how easy that is to incorporate though... might require a third party chat server. |
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