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Post by sand5280 on May 12, 2016 19:00:31 GMT -5
I'd just like to request once again a Discussion Thread where we can talk about living in a long term sexless marriage. Coping tips and advice about finding sex outside the marriage. I think I may know what @jasonl is getting at. The board for Sexless Marriage Issues is currently loaded and overflowing with all kinds of subjects. Many of them are old and have gone dormant, but some are still active. Some may still be of interest to you as a member. Add all of these to the other many many subjects going on, and the increasing number of members, it gets very busy in here. This applies to all boards also getting quite full. I think unfortunately, this cannot be easily avoided. If you approach the site reviewing recent posts and moving down, you have gone through several pages before even getting to posts a few hours old. Especially since this includes the chatty posts that go back and forth. If you don't have hours to sit in front of the site, or if you miss a day, you will miss something important and probably never see it. Or if you are a new guest, you may see a 'conversation' by way of posts. Unless you go into Sexless Issues, the site's original purpose, and dissect it. I think the original board is what you had in mind Jason, or am I barking up the wrong tree? |
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Post by TMD on May 12, 2016 20:06:50 GMT -5
@sand - so like a "sticky" thread. Maybe with the basic EP advice (stay and put up with it, stay and outsource, or leave?), with convo around it all?
Sticky thread makes sense.
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Post by unmatched on May 12, 2016 20:13:26 GMT -5
I'd just like to request once again a Discussion Thread where we can talk about living in a long term sexless marriage. Coping tips and advice about finding sex outside the marriage. You mean a separate topic area for people who have no intention of leaving? So we can cut out all the stuff about whether/when to leave and just deal with finding ways to live with it without going insane? |
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2016 0:03:23 GMT -5
Yes exactly. More people stay in sexless marriages than leave them. We need a section where people can talk about how they cope.
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Post by worksforme2 on May 14, 2016 20:06:01 GMT -5
I am not very teck oriented so as I try to participate here I find the site exceptionally user unfriendly. And for me the support section may as well be the sports page in the NY times. It's even less friendly than the forum layouts.
One of the stated purposes is to enable those who reply to a thread to communicate with each other or reply to a reply. Maybe I just missed it but I cannot find a way in the Help or Support section that addresses this task. So where do I look?
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Post by unmatched on May 14, 2016 20:12:45 GMT -5
I am not very teck oriented so as I try to participate here I find the site exceptionally user unfriendly. And for me the support section may as well be the sports page in the NY times. It's even less friendly than the forum layouts. One of the stated purposes is to enable those who reply to a thread to communicate with each other or reply to a reply. Maybe I just missed it but I cannot find a way in the Help or Support section that addresses this task. So where do I look? If you are using a web browser then you can click on the Quote button to the right of a post. That will open a window for you to type a reply with the original post text above it, and you can edit that original post to make it shorter or just leave in the bits you want. If you are using Tapatalk you can do something similar except there is a left hand arrow at the bottom of the post which does the same thing. Another option if you don't want to mess around with the original quote text is to type a general reply but to tag the other person by putting @ before their name. So for you I would write worksforme2 and this will send you a notification that I tagged you in this thread. Does that help? |
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Post by Rhapsodee on May 16, 2016 1:11:31 GMT -5
The logo is very nice, but is there any way to make it more discrete? I screwed up my tapatalk so I use the mobile site. I'm afraid someone will see the huge I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE across the top of my screen. In fact I know my son has seen it. He now pauses at the door if he sees me on my iPad and says "don't worry I won't look." He's a good guy.
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Post by DryCreek on May 16, 2016 1:39:29 GMT -5
The logo is very nice, but is there any way to make it more discrete? +1 for discreetness. I lobby for much smaller font, and potentially removing the text from the banner altogether (leaving just iliasm.org?). The page banner is front-and-center with every page load, and far too easy to read quickly at a distance. It'd be good if it was subtle, innocuous, boring, or ridiculous. ;-) "iliasm.org... you know why you're here." "... The truth is out there." "... Your source for scented candles, bath salts, and more!" "... Diagnosing your Highly-infectious Disease" "... Comprehensive guide to chess references in industrial-era English literature." |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 2:14:16 GMT -5
+1 for discreetness. I lobby for much smaller font, and potentially removing the text from the banner altogether (leaving just iliasm.org?). The page banner is front-and-center with every page load, and far too easy to read quickly at a distance. It'd be good if it was subtle, innocuous, boring, or ridiculous. ;-) "iliasm.org... you know why you're here." "... The truth is out there." "... Your source for scented candles, bath salts, and more!" "... Diagnosing your Highly-infectious Disease" "... Comprehensive guide to chess references in industrial-era English literature."  And I agree! Logo is an easy read across the room or over the shoulder - not in a good way. Great suggestions, DryCreek. I'm partial to "Diagnosing your Highly-Infectious Disease." Hahaha! Then again, that might cause people to look again. Perhaps we should go with the scented candles, etc. |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 2:16:13 GMT -5
And I would still like to see the thumbs up button change to a much brighter color. I see how my name appears when I like something, but then it becomes a 2-step process to check if I really pressed it. And, if I am 3rd in line, I'm just the 'and 1 more' and then I'm back where I started, can't tell if I pressed it or not.
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Post by sand5280 on May 16, 2016 2:26:24 GMT -5
Another option if you don't want to mess around with the original quote text is to type a general reply but to tag the other person by putting @ before their name. Courtesy may require a tag, to let that person know they have been mentioned, or call their attention to it. Important that you tag the member's original username, which can either be found under Members or it pops up when moused over their displayed name. I was displayed as Sand, but I would be tagged as @ followed with sand5280 |
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Post by greatcoastal on May 16, 2016 7:03:23 GMT -5
The logo is very nice, but is there any way to make it more discrete? I screwed up my tapatalk so I use the mobile site. I'm afraid someone will see the huge I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE across the top of my screen. In fact I know my son has seen it. He now pauses at the door if he sees me on my iPad and says "don't worry I won't look." He's a good guy. That's what kept me from doing an avatar for so long. The computers are in the school room, full of kids, constantly. When I need help, ( which is always) . My 17 yr old asked me what's it for? I said" I'ts a group that talks about the struggles with marriage". |
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Post by Admin on May 16, 2016 8:36:28 GMT -5
It's really hard to tell if I've pressed the thumbs up button. It goes from gray to pale pinkish-gray if I push it. But, I can't always tell if it's changed. Could it be brighter? Like from gray to hot pink?? Just an idea... Love the forum though. Thank you to all those who run it!! Welcome indeed! For one thing, if you hit the thumb for like, your name will appear at the top of the post as a Like. If there are many, the number of 'others' will increase, your name will be in the window you can open. This is desktop, much easier obviously. I agree with the sentiment. I think this is possible, but I'd have to drill down really far in to the HTML and CSS templates that drive this site. I'm afraid that for that amount of work, this suggest has to go on the "nice to have list", with a fairly low priority. |
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Post by Admin on May 16, 2016 8:43:16 GMT -5
The logo is very nice, but is there any way to make it more discrete? I screwed up my tapatalk so I use the mobile site. I'm afraid someone will see the huge I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE across the top of my screen. In fact I know my son has seen it. He now pauses at the door if he sees me on my iPad and says "don't worry I won't look." He's a good guy. This has been a concern of mine, personally, too. I am constantly "scrolling up" a bit to get that out of sight. Anyway, the "quick fix" is just to change the text, so you should see that I have done that just now. To mess with the font or to use an image instead (thanks to unmatched for a candidate image with a very subtle "ILIASM" embossed) would take more fiddling. |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 8:48:05 GMT -5
Another vote for discreteness or just using the ILIASM logo to identify the group. I know folks can find it with a simple Google search, I'm just concerned about our conversations being used without permission. We already had a reporter solicit us for a story, albeit in an upfront manner. Not everyone is guided by the same set of principles.
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And I agree! Logo is an easy read across the room or over the shoulder - not in a good way. Great suggestions, 
