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Post by baza on Apr 29, 2021 22:58:08 GMT -5
All members who have been in their ILIASM deal for at least a year are invited to vote in the poll, and make a comment if they so desire.
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Post by Handy on Apr 29, 2021 23:31:14 GMT -5
I am not happier but I am also more independent and do not look for any support from my W. I am still faced with some lingering medical issues so I am in coast mode.
I keep my eyes open for new friends and support but this Covid crap put a damper on that idea. I still have no idea which way things will go in the future. All of the women my age seem to be done with romantic relationships.
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Post by jim44444 on Apr 30, 2021 16:06:17 GMT -5
Happier? Not sure so I vote no. I can say that I am.less dissatisfied than I was at beginning of 2020. I have embraced the concept of self-validation, I do not expect my wife to supply me with fulfillment. That is my job not hers. I no longer see her as owing me sexual pleasure although a mutually satisfying sexual relationship would be fun. If I want a sexual experience and she does not (with me) then it is up to me to create the circumstances for that experience. Her reaction, if any, to my expression of sexuality is her's to deal with, not my circus not my monkeys.
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Post by jerri on May 5, 2021 23:56:42 GMT -5
Yes, I was uneasy during the pandemic. At least there seems to be a slight clearing in the USA As far as H is concerned- I love him more each year.
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Post by jerri on May 6, 2021 0:23:16 GMT -5
Happier? Not sure so I vote no. I can say that I am.less dissatisfied than I was at beginning of 2020. I have embraced the concept of self-validation, I do not expect my wife to supply me with fulfillment. That is my job not hers. I no longer see her as owing me sexual pleasure although a mutually satisfying sexual relationship would be fun. If I want a sexual experience and she does not (with me) then it is up to me to create the circumstances for that experience. Her reaction, if any, to my expression of sexuality is her's to deal with, not my circus not my monkeys. I think that is the best way to feel more serenity. if we stay stuck in any negative feeling, better just to move on whether it be a different mindset or just move on out. I wore sexless like a badge of honor for over a decade and it just didn't work. I won't cheat, be disloyal, after all he is a good man all just to feel better about sexless. Then reading that I could remain loyal and get sex at the same time, that I deserved sex, was just a blow mind. You haven't caged yourself. That's healthy. IMO I can get it if I want it. HEALTHY and great attitude. I L💜VE it!
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Post by shamwow on May 7, 2021 15:01:40 GMT -5
Happier? Not sure so I vote no. I can say that I am.less dissatisfied than I was at beginning of 2020. I have embraced the concept of self-validation, I do not expect my wife to supply me with fulfillment. That is my job not hers. I no longer see her as owing me sexual pleasure although a mutually satisfying sexual relationship would be fun. If I want a sexual experience and she does not (with me) then it is up to me to create the circumstances for that experience. Her reaction, if any, to my expression of sexuality is her's to deal with, not my circus not my monkeys. Family court can truly be a circus complete with poop throwing monkeys 😂
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