Update... My apolgies for being a big baby
Jun 3, 2022 10:15:50 GMT -5
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Post by onempty on Jun 3, 2022 10:15:50 GMT -5
Hello everyone, I thought I'd come back and give an update but also I want to apologize to everyone who gave advice and just told me the hard, cold truth. I appreciate that now and I hope anyone who chimes in doesn't feel the need to sugarcoat anything.
It's been a few months now and it's still ongoing. Court dates are set for Aug but I'm hoping it's over soon. my wife and I have been amicable and carefully trying to negotiate a lump sum buyout. There's alot of parts to this and I'm probably better off just splitting everything 50-50 but I want this over and I never want to deal with her again. I know whateve settlement we come to she will blow it and need more money. That's a big reason the buyout sounds appealing. I should know more in a couple weeks.
My mental state is excellent. With all the time I've had to think about this I know this is for the best. At first I was hoping we'd try and reconcile but now I just want the hell out. I'm amazed that after 24 years together I'm not sad at all. I feel like I've awakened. I have so many plans. I want to move from our condo to an apartment in the biggest nearby city. I found a place and its expensive but the location and amenities are amazing. I can literally walk everywhere including work. It's going to be great. I want to travel and see and do all the that I've always wanted to do but she didn't. Every trip is where she wanted to go. Not anymore!
I have a feeling sex might be less than even being married for me but I dont even care. I don't feel that resentment eating at me every night. I feel pretty relaxed for a 55 year old man starting over with literally the clothes on my back. I don't have a problem with paying her off because I know with my paycheck all to myself with the opportunity to work as much OT as I want, I will not only be fine but probably better off.
Her lawyer is proving to be far better than mine. In fact mine hasnt done a single thing to help me. He's been on a 2 week vacation right when I need him. His paralegal only works part time. It's a pain in the ass.
Anyway thanks again everyone.
It's been a few months now and it's still ongoing. Court dates are set for Aug but I'm hoping it's over soon. my wife and I have been amicable and carefully trying to negotiate a lump sum buyout. There's alot of parts to this and I'm probably better off just splitting everything 50-50 but I want this over and I never want to deal with her again. I know whateve settlement we come to she will blow it and need more money. That's a big reason the buyout sounds appealing. I should know more in a couple weeks.
My mental state is excellent. With all the time I've had to think about this I know this is for the best. At first I was hoping we'd try and reconcile but now I just want the hell out. I'm amazed that after 24 years together I'm not sad at all. I feel like I've awakened. I have so many plans. I want to move from our condo to an apartment in the biggest nearby city. I found a place and its expensive but the location and amenities are amazing. I can literally walk everywhere including work. It's going to be great. I want to travel and see and do all the that I've always wanted to do but she didn't. Every trip is where she wanted to go. Not anymore!
I have a feeling sex might be less than even being married for me but I dont even care. I don't feel that resentment eating at me every night. I feel pretty relaxed for a 55 year old man starting over with literally the clothes on my back. I don't have a problem with paying her off because I know with my paycheck all to myself with the opportunity to work as much OT as I want, I will not only be fine but probably better off.
Her lawyer is proving to be far better than mine. In fact mine hasnt done a single thing to help me. He's been on a 2 week vacation right when I need him. His paralegal only works part time. It's a pain in the ass.
Anyway thanks again everyone.