Post by northstarmom on Dec 2, 2022 11:27:17 GMT -5
Lessingham "There was a casino that won big. The roulette showed black five times in a row. Everybody bet on red. Black came up. So agsin they piled in on red. Again black. Two fallacies, past results predict future ones and gamble to win losses is a good bet. I did a lot of work in therapy and yes she did improve me. But the sessions ended in stalemate. I could not get over the final hurdles and she became as frustrated as me. I will keep on the journey though and try hard to get over them."
I've had 5 therapists, 2 of which I saw only once because I didn't like them. With 2 of the others, I made progress. One I stopped seeing because my insurance had run out and I was unemployed. However, he had helped me a lot through the severe depression after I was fired from my job. One I stopped seeing after I moved to a new state. However, I had gotten lots of help from her in understanding how dysfunctional my family of orgin was. One of the others, however, was awful. He did some unethical things such as flirting with me and offering me a job. I didn't make progress with him! My last therapist was whom I made the most progress with. She was an amazingly good fit with me and that's how I became the person whom I am very happy to be now.
A stalemate means you had gotten all the help you could get from that particular therapist. It doesn't mean that you can't get help to heal and change your life more. Invest in yourself by taking the time and spending the money to find a therapist who is a good fit for you. You are worth it.