miestas
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Post by miestas on Apr 1, 2016 21:29:04 GMT -5
I came on here to make an announcement, and got distracted by reading other people's posts. Now I feel like my post is banal. But, darn it, I'm making it anyway.
I have my first appointment with a lawyer this coming Thursday. I made the appointment today. I could have had one this Tuesday, but Thursday is my day off so it is much more convenient.
After everything I have done in my life, it is hysterical to me that this small step was so damn difficult! I look back to what I was doing before I got married, and it boggles my mind that this decision was so enervating.
No matter. It is what it is. And I now feel like a complete ahole because I made an appointment to just investigate the possibility of maybe getting a divorce. I mean, Jesus! I had to check to make sure they weren't shot off and I didn't notice until now, lol.
The problem is that the wife is bff with 2 of the most powerful lawyers in my city, and also with one prominent judge. This is going to be ugly.
And of course, the lawyer I am going to see has his office right across the street from one of those lawyers.
What do you think? Ski mask? Nah, I'd probably be arrested. Maybe a floppy hat, sunglasses, and a trenchcoat?
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Post by TMD on Apr 1, 2016 22:11:51 GMT -5
I replied! Did my reply get deleted?
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 1, 2016 22:19:26 GMT -5
No. Thats how i go to the bank. I usually end up getting frisked, so thats an upside. Human contact. Anyway. Im glad you are moving forward. Stay the course. It will work out.
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miestas
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Post by miestas on Apr 1, 2016 22:22:54 GMT -5
I replied! Did my reply get deleted? Must have. I don't see it anywhere. Try again, please. |
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miestas
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Post by miestas on Apr 1, 2016 22:25:12 GMT -5
No. Thats how i go to the bank. I usually end up getting frisked, so thats an upside. Human contact. Anyway. Im glad you are moving forward. Stay the course. It will work out. I suggest going to the airport with scissors in your pocket and refusing the body scan. You might get a full body cavity search. |
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Post by TMD on Apr 1, 2016 22:27:20 GMT -5
I think that booking the appointment with a lawyer is HUGE, far from banal. Especially if you go to app't in floppy hat, shades and trench.
Wait. Maybe trench not a good idea.
How about a hoodie?
Perhaps not. Both are associated with criminals these days. You might end up calling too much attention to yourself.
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 1, 2016 22:31:31 GMT -5
Its a date! Cswb! (Cavity search with benefits)
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miestas
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Post by miestas on Apr 1, 2016 22:56:49 GMT -5
I think that booking the appointment with a lawyer is HUGE, far from banal. Especially if you go to app't in floppy hat, shades and trench. Wait. Maybe trench not a good idea. How about a hoodie? Perhaps not. Both are associated with criminals these days. You might end up calling too much attention to yourself. But I look so awesome in the duster. Kind of like a cross between Matrix and Dresden Files. Really. Yes, I am that awesome. |
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 2, 2016 2:38:20 GMT -5
I came on here to make an announcement, and got distracted by reading other people's posts. Now I feel like my post is banal. But, darn it, I'm making it anyway. I have my first appointment with a lawyer this coming Thursday. I made the appointment today. I could have had one this Tuesday, but Thursday is my day off so it is much more convenient. After everything I have done in my life, it is hysterical to me that this small step was so damn difficult! I look back to what I was doing before I got married, and it boggles my mind that this decision was so enervating. No matter. It is what it is. And I now feel like a complete ahole because I made an appointment to just investigate the possibility of maybe getting a divorce. I mean, Jesus! I had to check to make sure they weren't shot off and I didn't notice until now, lol. The problem is that the wife is bff with 2 of the most powerful lawyers in my city, and also with one prominent judge. This is going to be ugly. And of course, the lawyer I am going to see has his office right across the street from one of those lawyers. What do you think? Ski mask? Nah, I'd probably be arrested. Maybe a floppy hat, sunglasses, and a trenchcoat? That is a big step, I wish you luck! What a shame about your wife's lawyer friend. You could consider to hire her best friend  That would leave her with less options. And go for an awesome disguise ! |
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Post by sand5280 on Apr 2, 2016 2:51:50 GMT -5
Now I feel like my post is banal. But, darn it, I'm making it anyway. I doubt that anyone could feel more inhibited about posting their story than I do, so this helps. Of course we want to hear about this big step, and all progress along the way. So you are up against famous lawyers, big deal, you will be more persevering. Outsmart your opponent. Not Might makes Right, but rather " Right makes Might" - Abraham Lincoln 1860. |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 2, 2016 6:36:11 GMT -5
Let us know the progress you make and hurdles you overcome on your path.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2016 8:34:54 GMT -5
I don't think your post is banal in the least! Calling a lawyer and making an appointment was huge for me . I actually cried when I was making the appointment with one of them. (A lawyer friend of mine recommended I see more than one lawyer to find the one I felt most comfortable with.) It was so bad that I actually made the appointment with the second lawyer by email! No matter how ready you feel to take this step, its still emotional. You can expect quite a rollercoaster of emotions over these next days. Just know that's totally normal.
What you're doing is very smart - think of it as research. That might help take some of the emotional edge off. Getting information doesn't commit you to getting a divorce. Let us know how the appointment goes!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Apr 2, 2016 9:31:21 GMT -5
This is a huge step! I was so nervous when I went to see my lawyer the first time. I probably looked like a deer in headlights. It was helpful for me to have a list of questions, and I brought important information like finances and such. She and I clicked and were able to work together from the first day. I was fortunate that the ex and I were able to settle with a mediator, but having a separate lawyer on my side to review the documents was so helpful. Hope all goes well, and keep us posted!
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 2, 2016 10:41:31 GMT -5
Prominent, powerful lawyers, and judge? Aren't they all? Or at least they think so! My sister in law got divorced, married over 20 years, three almost adult children, her husband was a narcissist , they owned several hotels together, houses, big home on the River, West Palm beach, (were Trump Lives) her husband was a scam artist, once was a car dealer. Anyways... She had a female judge, she worked for a law firm, she was always with the children. He got the gold mine, and she got the shaft!
My point is, you really don't know how things will turn out!
It's tax season, bring this year or last years tax returns. Bring your monthly budget. Right down your children's birthdays and social security numbers. Google on line questions to ask an attorney when seeking a divorce. The consultations are free, you will have a better understanding of what to ask with each visit.
You will now have some ammunition in your camp ( like genie and Alladin!) it will change your approach !
Keep us informed, pullin for ya!
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 2, 2016 13:56:17 GMT -5
What a shame about your wife's lawyer friend. You could consider to hire her best friend That would leave her with less options. It depends on locale and what constitutes conflict-of-interest, but a devilishly clever tactic I once heard... One party consulted with every heavy-hitting law firm in town, essentially precluding them from representing the spouse because it would be a conflict-of-interest. It's doubtful you could pull that off unless her friend's firm is fairly large, but it would be delicious to gag her friend from giving free advice (to keep you from being at a disadvantage). |
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That would leave her with less options.
