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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 22, 2016 22:13:11 GMT -5
LOL. these are great too!
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 22, 2016 22:44:13 GMT -5
LOL. these are great too! Deeranged Deesorderly
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 23, 2016 10:26:28 GMT -5
I know it is late in the game but I am considering a change of user name. I'm trying out Rhapsodee.
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Post by itsjustus on Apr 28, 2016 22:12:12 GMT -5
I have to agree with RumRunner and Petrushka, No one brush can paint everyone's situation or the how's and why's of what they choose. I for one, found that I shouldn't have married her in the first place. That at that age, I knew so little of what love was, what I should do or even expect of love and intimacy. I was the White Knight savior and proud of myself. What my particular "fault" was, was staying for so long after I did find out that it wasn't what I thought it should, or could, be. That destroyed any hope for her and I both. Together, we circled the drain for way too many years, watching each other fade further and further away from each other. As LITW notes...leaving is hard, but so is staying. Neither is what I wanted...or expected...in my life. They are choices each person has to look deep inside to make. No one brush can paint all.
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Post by theghostofwinterfell on May 9, 2016 15:49:15 GMT -5
Thanks flashjohn. You are spreading some good energy to me and others. I kind of needed to hear this from... well, anyone.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 16:19:03 GMT -5
Thanks for this post Flash. I'm new here as of today and really needed to "hear" all this. I forget on a regular basis that it's HIM, not me. I've had so much compassion for this jerk over the years that I am still here taking his emotional and verbal abuse and his rejection. Sometimes, I still believe I should stay because without me, what if he drank himself to death? And yes, the worries about finding someone else. And the damage he's done to my self-esteem. Such a sad situation I've let myself be in all these years. Working on my way out...
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 16:32:29 GMT -5
Thanks for this post Flash. I'm new here as of today and really needed to "hear" all this. I forget on a regular basis that it's HIM, not me. I've had so much compassion for this jerk over the years that I am still here taking his emotional and verbal abuse and his rejection. Sometimes, I still believe I should stay because without me, what if he drank himself to death? And yes, the worries about finding someone else. And the damage he's done to my self-esteem. Such a sad situation I've let myself be in all these years. Working on my way out... With naturally pink hair, you won't have any trouble finding a new sober man. Guaranteed.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 1:48:33 GMT -5
With naturally pink hair, you won't have any trouble finding a new sober man. Guaranteed. @creelunion, you made me laugh tonight. Thanks, that's worth a lot.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2017 11:08:39 GMT -5
Just a bump for new folks to read
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2017 13:29:25 GMT -5
Thank you for your post flashjohn. I’ve been dealing with a really bad self-esteem those days, and my husband can make me feel worse trying to blame me for the ending of our wedding. Like I posted recently on a thread, for 3 months I can’t have any intimacy with him. I just can’t. My body don’t want him touching me, kissing me... so besides living in a SM for 7 years now, he says the end of our marriage is my fault cause I don’t want to try anymore. According to him he never knew there was a problem, everything is perfect (like having sex with your wife once or twice a year was something normal). I admit I might not have talked to him about it, but I tried so many things to improve our sexual life... always initiating the sex with affection, trying to look sexier, in the last 2 years working out hard at gym and even dressing and make up more “sophisticated “ to be noticed... nothing. In fact things only got worse with less and less physical contact. Yes, there were always hugs and quick kisses, but no cuddling or something more intimate. Actually we don’t even share the same blanket - he alleged that we used to fight for it during the night. All those little things are killing me inside and lately I’m struggling to see me as I used to be... so reading your post now is really important to me. Thank you
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2017 10:15:18 GMT -5
Thank you for your post flashjohn . I’ve been dealing with a really bad self-esteem those days, and my husband can make me feel worse trying to blame me for the ending of our wedding. Like I posted recently on a thread, for 3 months I can’t have any intimacy with him. I just can’t. My body don’t want him touching me, kissing me... so besides living in a SM for 7 years now, he says the end of our marriage is my fault cause I don’t want to try anymore. According to him he never knew there was a problem, everything is perfect (like having sex with your wife once or twice a year was something normal). I admit I might not have talked to him about it, but I tried so many things to improve our sexual life... always initiating the sex with affection, trying to look sexier, in the last 2 years working out hard at gym and even dressing and make up more “sophisticated “ to be noticed... nothing. In fact things only got worse with less and less physical contact. Yes, there were always hugs and quick kisses, but no cuddling or something more intimate. Actually we don’t even share the same blanket - he alleged that we used to fight for it during the night. All those little things are killing me inside and lately I’m struggling to see me as I used to be... so reading your post now is really important to me. Thank you You are certainly welcome. I am so sorry for your situation.
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Post by LEXUS46 on Jan 27, 2018 23:45:50 GMT -5
Great post!
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