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Post by bballgirl on Jun 2, 2016 11:28:38 GMT -5
dancingbear70For me I had to be out of love totally with my husband. By nature I'm monogamous. Once I no longer was in love (due to the dysfunctional shithole of a marriage), I was able to with a clear head. In fact I got along better with him after I did outsource because I was in a great mood so it benefitted both of us, just me more directly!!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2016 18:06:16 GMT -5
Is it really so bad to outsource or fool around? The practice is as old as the concept of marriage itself. It seems that it is only in modern times that a single act of infidelity has become a deal breaker. Historically humans have never been so puritanical. Getting caught or confessing are the things that might bring pain to a marriage. The act itself in the context of an already dysfunctional relationship? In my view, not so much. Au contraire, mon bear :-) Humans are historically very puritanical if it's the woman outsourcing. |
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Post by unmatched on Jun 2, 2016 18:40:50 GMT -5
Is it really so bad to outsource or fool around? The practice is as old as the concept of marriage itself. It seems that it is only in modern times that a single act of infidelity has become a deal breaker. Historically humans have never been so puritanical. Getting caught or confessing are the things that might bring pain to a marriage. The act itself in the context of an already dysfunctional relationship? In my view, not so much. I think the most important part of what you just said is 'in the context of an already dysfunctional relationship'. If you are in a perfect marriage, then secretly outsourcing will make it dysfunctional, purely because you now have something in your mind that you will always have to avoid when talking to your partner. If you are in an already dysfunctional relationship, then secretly outsourcing will make it more dysfunctional, although it might make your life better and easier to live with. (It MIGHT, it might not...) The question is how far are you willing to go to keep a dysfunctional relationship at the centre of your life? |
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Post by ModCasper on Jun 3, 2016 7:17:11 GMT -5
Updated thread title to make it clear we are discussing an article in the popular press... rather than this being a sort of "How To" thread.
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