The only fool? Aug 28, 2022 10:45:51 GMT -5 via mobile
Post by deadzone75 on Aug 28, 2022 10:45:51 GMT -5
Sex was great once we started (prior to and into the marriage), then lessened to once per month after maybe 10-12 years. Like many here, I'd kill for once a month.
I still remember the night, maybe 3 weeks after I'd moved in, when she looked at me in bed and said - can we just read tonight? LOL - I thought "what the heck?".
I know quite a few women who "settled" because of the biological clock. Some worked out, some didn't.
Yes I definitely I also thought I would be able to manage the situation! The sex was great when it happened which was at least once a week in the early stages. I was sure I could improve on that with. But by the time we got engaged I was beginning to have my doubts, but 30th birthday was looming and I desperately wanted to start a family. I told myself it would be fine.
I had had a healthy variety of short and long-term boyfriends in my teens and 20's and had never had any issues on the bedroom front. I genuinely didn't think this could happen to me, a sexually confident, loving and warm young woman. I was able to talk in an upfront way. Surely we would just address the problem if it became one and all would be fine. Such optimism. I was very very niave indeed.
My sex life was already showing signs of worry when I was engaged. I was dumb enough to think that since I had heard marriage generally kills your sex drive, the opposite would apply to me. Kind of like, okay, the bad stuff is already out of the way. Or maybe part of me knew exactly what would happen.