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Post by Handy on May 2, 2020 21:25:49 GMT -5
Saarinista, there was not much of a response. She did ask why I said I would like to be with someone that seemed to appreciate me as company and found me to be sexy in some form, because my W is a taker. I said my W doesn't demand much but she takes as long as someone is around to giver and it seems to me my W rarely gives or does anything for others since she became the co-dependency expert 20+ years ago. This individual person was the woman I took with me to yoga for a couple of years. She likes my company and the rides I offer her but that seems that is about it. I dropped hints every now and then but nothing advances. She lives on my bike route so every once in a while I stop in to socialize for 30 minuets. Her memory is not what it used to be (one reason she doesn't drive) so I do not push things. She has other single friends that help her with transportation and going out to eat. Planning ahead is not one of her strong skill sets. And for the record, I always figured people had sex until they died.That is where my experience is different. I heard women close up shop when a certain event happens, all of my life, so I just assumed most women just got to a point of not being interested is sex, but they still want all of the other perks that long term relations usually encompass. As a reminder, not everyone in the world is like our spouses, or so I hear. Or so I also hear. I know these women that like sex exist but finding the clues to those women in real life, the clues seem evasive. OH well, I still look for clues in my local area.
BTW, I am not interested in just sex, I want a long term relationship to benefit both of us.
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Post by worksforme2 on May 3, 2020 16:45:50 GMT -5
I received a message from a cousin in Michigan. He woke from a nap as his wife was demonstrating her love for him. She was placing a pillow over his face to protect him from the corona virus.
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Post by Handy on May 3, 2020 17:05:59 GMT -5
Maybe your cousin in Michigan snores and because hiw W is annoyed by his snoring, she placed a pillow over his face. I hear lots of women complaining about their H snoring. Some women are not nice about the snoring stories they tell so if that is the case, I can imagine a W putting a pillow over the guys face. If she pressed down on the pillow, that is a whole other ball game, which isn't something he should put up with.
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Post by greatcoastal on May 3, 2020 19:13:11 GMT -5
northstarmom , you are an inspiring and insightful. I would never presume to know what the future would hold if I divorced.. That's one reason I'm still married. I guess the other reason is that my refuser is supportive in many ways and I know he would be hurt if I filed for divorce. I struggle with hurting a person who has been good to me in most ways. It's a huge decision to divorce. I don't think I'm the greatest woman for him either. But he's not too interested in looking for anyone else. Fact of the matter is, not everyone gets a fairy tale. So, life goes on. I thought of you when I read this and wanted to pass it along. Hope you like it! psiloveyou.xyz/still-the-best-advice-i-got-from-a-therapist-ea1a9229521a |
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Post by northstarmom on May 3, 2020 20:16:26 GMT -5
Good article. Link didn’t work so I Googled the title.
“ There isn’t a cure for every ailment. That one therapy session helped me come to grips with the fact that my husband was seriously injured by the same trauma making him unable to re establish intimacy in his marriage. Sometimes we just have to accept when our partner can’t hold the cards.”
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Post by saarinista on May 3, 2020 21:06:23 GMT -5
Thank you, greatcoastal. That was a good article. I might have more to say about it later. |
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Post by Handy on Jun 14, 2020 12:33:43 GMT -5
Covid 19 risks related to activities.
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 15, 2020 1:01:08 GMT -5
Well, we re-opened bars, gyms, casinos, and dine-in restaurants here a couple weeks ago, and our daily infection rate has grown just about 5x in that time - more than double the highest peaks we had previously. So, standby for round 2, in which we don’t do lockdown, for economic reasons.
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Post by lessingham on Jun 15, 2020 5:04:21 GMT -5
The UK shops open today. I am desperately trying to think of things I want to buy. So far, nada. We have shopped at the food stores that remained open and built a hearty pantry. I have never been a clothes horse so the tempting offers go over my head.
The only thing I rage about is the churches. They remain shut and the singular kack of leadership by the clergy is hear breaking
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 15, 2020 7:03:57 GMT -5
The UK shops open today. I am desperately trying to think of things I want to buy. So far, nada. We have shopped at the food stores that remained open and built a hearty pantry. I have never been a clothes horse so the tempting offers go over my head. The only thing I rage about is the churches. They remain shut and the singular kack of leadership by the clergy is hear breaking Churches and other houses of worship open here in NC officially a couple weeks ago. Thus far there have been no reported incidents of covid transmission . Our church is taking enhanced measures to protect it's members. I suspect other churches are doing so as well. In addition to masks we hand sanitize before and after services and we purchased a "fogger" to treat the sanctuary between services. The fogger pumps out a fine mist of sanitizer into the air covering a large area with each pass. We can fog our 7,000sqft. area in just about 5 minutes. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 15, 2020 12:24:57 GMT -5
I recently did a bit more reading on what people who die from Covid19 have in common. There were 5 traits common to people who died. Turns out I have 4 of the 5. So I have been paying even more attention than usual to what others are doing around me when I'm out and about. It's pretty shocking how many people are without masks. And how often I see then in close proximity as they have conversations. I was not surprised to read this morning that NC has one of the highest current newly confirmed cases. It's a wonder we don't have more as I see how little people seem to respect or fear this disease.
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Post by Handy on Jun 15, 2020 12:34:01 GMT -5
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Post by saarinista on Jun 15, 2020 13:48:55 GMT -5
worksforme2 Then you need to socially isolate as much as possible! And wear a mask when out and about. I'm glad you're seeing the light here. A few weeks ago you were talking about riding your motorcycle with abandon, weren't you? 😎😏 Actually, taking out the bike probably is less risky than many other activities. Just avoid people breathing and coughing in the vicinity. A motorcycle helmet should help protect you....
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 15, 2020 15:48:05 GMT -5
worksforme2 Then you need to socially isolate as much as possible! And wear a mask when out and about. I'm glad you're seeing the light here. A few weeks ago you were talking about riding your motorcycle with abandon, weren't you? 😎😏 Actually, taking out the bike probably is less risky than many other activities. Just avoid people breathing and coughing in the vicinity. A motorcycle helmet should help protect you.... I am still riding my motorcycle when the weather permits. I plan to continue to do so. As far a people breathing or coughing on me, if they can keep up while running along side me when I'm on my bike, I don't think I have to worry about them infecting me. I'm pretty socially isolated, just me and the dog. I always wear a mask when I go out and am around other people, and I hand sanitize pretty often. In the meantime I say..... Get your motor running, Head out on the highway, Looking for adventure, Or whatever come my way....... |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 17, 2020 8:29:18 GMT -5
Good news in my extended family. My oldest son's wife has been recalled to work. So both of them are gainfully employed again. Which means "grand daddy daycare" opens for business again next week.
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