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Post by aquacat on Sept 20, 2023 5:21:20 GMT -5
Our kids and finances are the main reason I haven’t looked at leaving. We moved a long distance from where we lived before for her job, and we have a bit of debt we can pay off most of with the proceeds of our house sale, but this would prevent us from buying another anytime soon. My income still eclipses hers by quite a bit so splitting would devastate her and our kids as I don’t think she’d be able to afford a place of her own. I still think based on what I’ve read that a divorce would cost me several thousand a month for support.
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Post by toughtiger on Sept 20, 2023 9:39:06 GMT -5
Our kids and finances are the main reason I haven’t looked at leaving. We moved a long distance from where we lived before for her job, and we have a bit of debt we can pay off most of with the proceeds of our house sale, but this would prevent us from buying another anytime soon. My income still eclipses hers by quite a bit so splitting would devastate her and our kids as I don’t think she’d be able to afford a place of her own. I still think based on what I’ve read that a divorce would cost me several thousand a month for support. It is a major consideration and you know your situation. People when married build a financial house and divorce takes a wrecking ball to it. starting over has costs and things it really is a big adjustment financially for all parties. I often heard from other sites or people "just leave"........ but i have seen what splitting items and assets and income does ... so trading a sexless marriage for financial problems worth it ... i do not see that it is yet. so i will try for a workable life until it no longer is possible. |
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Post by h on Sept 20, 2023 15:04:11 GMT -5
Our kids and finances are the main reason I haven’t looked at leaving. We moved a long distance from where we lived before for her job, and we have a bit of debt we can pay off most of with the proceeds of our house sale, but this would prevent us from buying another anytime soon. My income still eclipses hers by quite a bit so splitting would devastate her and our kids as I don’t think she’d be able to afford a place of her own. I still think based on what I’ve read that a divorce would cost me several thousand a month for support. It is a major consideration and you know your situation. People when married build a financial house and divorce takes a wrecking ball to it. starting over has costs and things it really is a big adjustment financially for all parties. I often heard from other sites or people "just leave"........ but i have seen what splitting items and assets and income does ... so trading a sexless marriage for financial problems worth it ... i do not see that it is yet. so i will try for a workable life until it no longer is possible. That's where I'm at too. The potential financial pain of a divorce is currently more than the pain of involuntary celibacy so I will tolerate it until it's no longer tolerable. If the marriage gets worse, or if the financial situation improves, I'll reevaluate my situation and change my decision accordingly. |
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Post by heelots on Sept 20, 2023 18:51:11 GMT -5
It is a major consideration and you know your situation. People when married build a financial house and divorce takes a wrecking ball to it. starting over has costs and things it really is a big adjustment financially for all parties. I often heard from other sites or people "just leave"........ but i have seen what splitting items and assets and income does ... so trading a sexless marriage for financial problems worth it ... i do not see that it is yet. so i will try for a workable life until it no longer is possible. That's where I'm at too. The potential financial pain of a divorce is currently more than the pain of involuntary celibacy so I will tolerate it until it's no longer tolerable. If the marriage gets worse, or if the financial situation improves, I'll reevaluate my situation and change my decision accordingly. Yup, me too |
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 20, 2023 22:08:41 GMT -5
When I talked to a divorce lawyer, I found out that half of all marital assets (except inheritances) and debts were mine. That made it possible for me to divorce and to live on my own. Talk to a divorce lawyer.
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