Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 22:12:47 GMT -5
What will be the likely outcome if you say you are considering leaving? Will that really change anything? Maybe for a while, but permanently? Only if you say unless this or that changes you ARE leaving. And stick to it. And forget timelines. Changes begin now or you ARE gone.
Telling people what you think doesn't usually get results. Telling them what you will do and convincing them you're serious does.
You may want to talk to a lawer before you say you are leaving. In case it goes down that way, you want to already have your plan in place.
Edit: I see you're done, so I guess it doesn't matter whether she wants to change or not. The way the beginning of the letter is worded though sounds like you haven't made up your mind yet. But if you are done, you only need to say three words: I'm divorcing you. This is a legal matter now, and in a legal matter the less you say the better, especially in writing. If you want to pour out your heart it might be better to do that after everything is settled. That's unrealistic I know, this is a legal matter but it's also an emotional upheaval. Just try to say as little as possible.
Telling people what you think doesn't usually get results. Telling them what you will do and convincing them you're serious does.
You may want to talk to a lawer before you say you are leaving. In case it goes down that way, you want to already have your plan in place.
Edit: I see you're done, so I guess it doesn't matter whether she wants to change or not. The way the beginning of the letter is worded though sounds like you haven't made up your mind yet. But if you are done, you only need to say three words: I'm divorcing you. This is a legal matter now, and in a legal matter the less you say the better, especially in writing. If you want to pour out your heart it might be better to do that after everything is settled. That's unrealistic I know, this is a legal matter but it's also an emotional upheaval. Just try to say as little as possible.
