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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 19:38:40 GMT -5
A while back, JMX introduced a thread “Darth Vader’s Father”. I DO NOT wish to continue that thread, which spiraled out of control regarding “immaculate conception” and religion. So I am starting a new thread, “Rogue One”, and moving it to the “Other Topics”(Even though I do believe it probably should still be in 'SM Problems') This time I hope to bring back several of the points JMX was making, and I think there is room for comment about a number of issues: 1) Do you believe that if you and your spouse have a wide difference in opinion about what can be called “entertainment”, is that a sign of trouble to come in a relationship?? 2) Do you think it tied up questions between Star Wars movies number 3 & 4?? 3) Did you like “Rogue One” compared to other Star Wars movies?? 4) Fire away at anything not involving politics or religion! |
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Post by JMX on Dec 22, 2016 19:57:09 GMT -5
Fun thread!
1.). I would like to think I am open-minded enough to try and enjoy someone else's preferred forms of entertainment. That being said, I WILL NOT play video games (even though husband says I am a hypocrite now that I am on level 432 of Candy Crush, Soda Saga and he may have a point). I DO ask him to tell me about his fantasy novels if I cannot sleep - it's better than Ambien 😀. He was able to get me to read Game of Thrones series and I did love it. It took him a year to convince me I should, and I am glad he did.
I think someone with different interests helps introduce you to varied points of view in a way. I definitely understand introversion (and some of it's activities) a lot more now, and think that in a normal situation, this would be a strength in our relationship.
I would have to think of other examples that I cannot handle - I am a guys' girl. I pretty much like all sports, not opposed to a hotdog or a beer. If they didn't like to do something I liked or vice-versa, it's a chance to develop our own interests and hang out with friends.
2.). Yes! We watched A New Hope right after.
3.) It was entertaining, but I want more of the Skywalkers. I cannot explain that any better (without spoiling for anyone) but to say, it was a nice little "chapter".
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 20:15:37 GMT -5
Fun thread! 1.). I would like to think I am open-minded enough to try and enjoy someone else's preferred forms of entertainment. That being said, I WILL NOT play video games (even though husband says I am a hypocrite now that I am on level 432 of Candy Crush, Soda Saga and he may have a point). I DO ask him to tell me about his fantasy novels if I cannot sleep - it's better than Ambien 😀. He was able to get me to read Game of Thrones series and I did love it. It took him a year to convince me I should, and I am glad he did. I think someone with different interests helps introduce you to varied points of view in a way. I definitely understand introversion (and some of it's activities) a lot more now, and think that in a normal situation, this would be a strength in our relationship. I would have to think of other examples that I cannot handle - I am a guys' girl. I pretty much like all sports, not opposed to a hotdog or a beer. If they didn't like to do something I liked or vice-versa, it's a chance to develop our own interests and hang out with friends. 2.). Yes! We watched A New Hope right after. 3.) It was entertaining, but I want more of the Skywalkers. I cannot explain that any better (without spoiling for anyone) but to say, it was a nice little "chapter". Interesting! I did not mean you have to answer all the questions, or in order as JMX did. My wife has not seen Star Wars 1, 3, or 6. She did not go to Rogue One, not interested. If she does not share an interest(such as tennis) or feel like it(such as sex or anything else for that matter) she will not participate. I wish this was not so, that she would share interests that I have with me, but it is not in her personality. I do not think Rogue One will win an Oscar for best picture, but I was pleasantly surprised with the film. If you like Star Wars you will like this film. |
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 22, 2016 23:05:13 GMT -5
I always took an interest in what my husband liked. When he talked I listened,when he wanted to see a certain movie I enthusiastically went and enjoyed it. My husband did not afford me that luxury, Star Wars Episode 1 - I went to by myself. It got to a point I did so much by myself even adult Halloween parties and other social events with mostly couples. So I came to realize that alone was better than lonely for me.
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Post by obobfla on Dec 23, 2016 1:09:55 GMT -5
Saw Rogue One and loved it. Thought it was great because it brought us characters outside the normal story lines of the rest of Star Wars yet fit nicely in with rest of the series. I saw a little bit of the Seven Samurai, which is one of my favorite movies of all time. I also loved the diversity of the cast. No white American male comes to the rescue, yet I identified with almost every character. Plus it fills the biggest plot hole in the New Hope, which is why the Death Star was made with a glaring defect.
Now to the entertainment differences with my spouse: I'm the type that needs the constant input of entertainment. I can't drive my car unless there is music playing. I want the TV on, even if it's just background noise. And I hardly go anywhere without my iPhone and/or my iPad. My tastes are so eclectic that no genre is out of bounds for me. Yes, I like the whole Star Wars/Lord of the Rings/Star Trek/Game of Thrones scene. But I also love anything that gives me the emotional tug, be it country music, "The Fault of Our Stars," "Silver Linings Playbook," or a close game. An added bonus is anything that challenges my earlier beliefs or takes me out of my comfort zone. That is why my favorite movies are "Pan's Labryinth," "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon," or the previously mentioned Seven Samurai.
My wife would rather keep things quiet and safe. There was a time when we both wanted to explore new things. But lately, she wants to stay home all the time. She never has the TV on, never reads books anymore, and would prefer if I kept the car sound system off. Since I drive, the music stays on. But at home, both my son and I wear headphones.
Last night, all three of us were invited out to Splitsville at Disney Springs for my nephew's birthday. It is a combination bowling alley/restaurant at Walt Disney World. My son and I both love bowling, and since the place serves both pizza and sushi, it is the perfect place to bring a child and still get what I want. My wife wanted to stay home, so my son and I went. We had a great time! As we left, we saw the Drone Light show, where lighted drones made images in the night sky. Had my wife come, we would have been forced to leave early and miss the surprise show.
My video is too big to upload, so here is the YouTube of it:
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Post by baza on Dec 23, 2016 1:22:45 GMT -5
"1) Do you believe that if you and your spouse have a wide difference in opinion about what can be called “entertainment”, is that a sign of trouble to come in a relationship??"
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Could be, but in my personal situation with Ms enna, not even a little bit.
I do think however, that once your marriage degenerates in to ILIASM shithole status, all sorts of what were once minor annoyances start to become epic
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In regard to parts 2 and 3 of the questions, concerning Star Wars, I'll recuse myself as I have practically no knowledge of, or interest in, the series.
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Post by tamara68 on Dec 23, 2016 6:20:19 GMT -5
I recognize the words 'star wars', the rest of the first post is totally unclear to me. Probably because watching star wars and everything to do with it was not encouraged in the presence of my stbx. Without him I'd definitely would have watched it.
Stbx very much controlled the tv. That meant that only things suitable for 12 years and younger were allowed. No violence, no sex, no excitement.
The antique road show was pretty popular.
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Post by Lithium92 on Dec 23, 2016 6:29:19 GMT -5
So much to chew on.
Rogue One - haven't seen it yet, but we both want to. Star Wars (the originals) were part of my childhood, and she's into SF. Last Saturday was a possibility but we could've only gone at teatime, and given it was the opening Saturday and just before Christmas, it was clearly going to be annoyingly full of kids so we didn't. (Off topic... any other Wittertainees? You'll know who you are, if you are...)
Entertainment differences more generally - not necessarily a but as Baza said, any differences get exacerbated by the SM shithole (love that phrase). I do think that in my case, it could've indicated something though. I'm a musician, music is a fundamental joy in my life, nearly up there with sex. It lifts me like nothing else, cuts through me emotionally like nothing else, I'm always listening to new music and finding new stuff I adore (as I would be with sex, if I could). My wife sees it as social context though, and has no interest in anything new since her early twenties. I think she could easily go without it and not particularly notice (bit like sex). There's something to do with emotional detachment going on in both cases, I think.
Which isn't to say it's related to her basic asexuality - I couldn't care less about visual art for example. It doesn't touch me. I just think the parallel is interesting.
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 26, 2016 7:31:57 GMT -5
I recognize the words 'star wars', the rest of the first post is totally unclear to me. Probably because watching star wars and everything to do with it was not encouraged in the presence of my stbx. Without him I'd definitely would have watched it. Stbx very much controlled the tv. That meant that only things suitable for 12 years and younger were allowed. No violence, no sex, no excitement. The antique road show was pretty popular. Omg I never realized the abuse was so severe. |
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Post by tamara68 on Dec 26, 2016 7:54:45 GMT -5
I recognize the words 'star wars', the rest of the first post is totally unclear to me. Probably because watching star wars and everything to do with it was not encouraged in the presence of my stbx. Without him I'd definitely would have watched it. Stbx very much controlled the tv. That meant that only things suitable for 12 years and younger were allowed. No violence, no sex, no excitement. The antique road show was pretty popular. Omg I never realized the abuse was so severe. LOL oh yes... the horror... He has deleted things I recorded. I had taped Dexter. (that was not suitable for me, I think he was afraid I might got inspiration from that. He had a point....) |
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 26, 2016 7:57:02 GMT -5
Yesterday the Frigidaire and I saw Rouge One. We both enjoyed it. Even with the obvious plot mechanics. I freely admit to being a sci fi geek and the kid who played D&D. We have much different areas of interest. Through the years, we shared these interests and learned and taught each other why we liked these things. It is the one area of our marriage that worked. It worked well. I view the world differently because of her influence. And I'm thankful for that. As far as does Rouge One carry the story from 3 to 4, sure it does. I felt it was more "darker" than other episodes and enjoyed it. obobfla yes I saw the seven Samurai influence in the story telling. She exposed me to both "classic" movies and British mysteries. |
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Post by nancyb on Dec 26, 2016 9:38:06 GMT -5
I recognize the words 'star wars', the rest of the first post is totally unclear to me. Probably because watching star wars and everything to do with it was not encouraged in the presence of my stbx. Without him I'd definitely would have watched it. Stbx very much controlled the tv. That meant that only things suitable for 12 years and younger were allowed. No violence, no sex, no excitement. The antique road show was pretty popular. tamara68: I am sorry to hear this. Did I hear you say earlier that you are getting your drivers license? Good for you.  |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Dec 26, 2016 23:45:11 GMT -5
1. It helps if one in the relationship is wiling to be flexible when choosing entertainment. It is also beneficial if the partners encourage each other to enjoy their own interests.
2, 3, & 4. We haven't seen the movie yet. I'll input my response when we do.
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 31, 2016 16:24:06 GMT -5
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jan 1, 2017 19:02:59 GMT -5
A while back, JMX introduced a thread “Darth Vader’s Father”. I DO NOT wish to continue that thread, which spiraled out of control regarding “immaculate conception” and religion. So I am starting a new thread, “Rogue One”, and moving it to the “Other Topics”(Even though I do believe it probably should still be in 'SM Problems') This time I hope to bring back several of the points JMX was making, and I think there is room for comment about a number of issues: 1) Do you believe that if you and your spouse have a wide difference in opinion about what can be called “entertainment”, is that a sign of trouble to come in a relationship?? 2) Do you think it tied up questions between Star Wars movies number 3 & 4?? 3) Did you like “Rogue One” compared to other Star Wars movies?? 4) Fire away at anything not involving politics or religion! I saw the movie yesterday. 2). I didn't realize that I had any questions but I am satisfied that they were answered. 3). Yes, enjoyed the movie. I'd like to see it again. 4). Darth Vader lives in the Tower of Mordor? Where was Sauron? |
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