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Post by scrimshaw on Dec 30, 2016 18:08:44 GMT -5
My ex-wife, who we're good friends with (bygones are long since bygones), called earlier ... her Stage IV breast cancer has metastasized to her spine. They will treat aggressively, but "there are no guarantees". Fuck.  |
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 30, 2016 18:13:13 GMT -5
Prayers for this special lady, for you,and both families involved. Send her strength, comfort, and courage. Help ease the pain, through this tragic event.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Dec 30, 2016 18:14:41 GMT -5
Oh, that's awful. So very sorry to hear. Sending strength and best wishes to all.
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 30, 2016 18:59:00 GMT -5
I am truly sorry.
This is never an easy diagnosis. Be strong and have faith.
May love kindness and blessings be with you both.
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Post by scrimshaw on Dec 30, 2016 19:14:52 GMT -5
Thanks to you all. Being active in the breast cancer community, my wife and I know people who have lived 10 years with mets, and some that have died within mere months.  |
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 30, 2016 19:40:15 GMT -5
I'm so sorry and sending prayers and positive energy to her and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2016 23:43:16 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2016 8:15:35 GMT -5
2016 has been a real bitch. I know of no words to comfort you. I'm so sorry for the battle your family is facing. Several of us have been through it with parents, spouses, etc. if you need a shoulder or sounding board.
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Post by scrimshaw on Dec 31, 2016 11:41:38 GMT -5
Andie, thank you for your kind offer, it is very much appreciated.
Sadly we are too familiar with the battle. My DW is a breast cancer warrior, though thankfully not mets (metastatic). We just got back from a trip to New Orleans for hopefully her final reconstruction surgery (she had a prophylactic mastectomy a couple years ago, and we're coming up on 11 years post-diagnosis). We are active in the breast cancer community, and we know far too many mets women, some that have been mets for I think 10 years and are still battling, some that sadly lost their war after only a few months.
As well, my ex-wife is about 2 hours from us, I don't think (but, you never know what the future will bring) we'll be very involved with her treatment. My DW may go out to visit her, and/or join her at a support group occasionally, but logistically there isn't much we can do, except be here if she calls or texts.
Talking helps, in person or virtually in a place like this. I can't post on the book of face because my ex-father-in-law is in poor health and my ex-wife hasn't told her parents yet because of this. Her parents have already buried one daughter; killed by a drunk driver ~40 years ago. I fervently hope they don't have to bury another.
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Post by becca on Dec 31, 2016 13:21:32 GMT -5
scrimshaw, I am so sorry to hear the struggles your family is going through. Cancer is vicious and doesn't care how healthy you are beforehand. I lost both parents to cancer before I turned 30 and my sister is a 10 year cancer survivor (colon). Sending warm thoughts, prayers and positive energy to you and yours.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jan 3, 2017 16:34:33 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. My best friend has stage two breast cancer. It was caught early. She says the type of BC she has metastasizes to bone cancer. They are treating her aggressively with chemo even though there's no indication that it has spread.
Going through this with them is distressing, the fear we feel for them and not knowing what to say or do.
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Post by scrimshaw on Jan 5, 2017 21:07:05 GMT -5
Becca, wow. I understand colon cancer is one of those that isn't typically found until it's too late. Glad to hear your sister's was found in time.
Rhapsodee, So sorry about your friend, even a heightened risk for mets is so scary. I often feel so powerless, and so distressed over what the cancer has taken from her, and from us as a couple (and not just sexually). Most survivors I've talked to say that just being there is the greatest gift you can give.
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Post by becca on Jan 6, 2017 8:40:11 GMT -5
Becca, wow. I understand colon cancer is one of those that isn't typically found until it's too late. Glad to hear your sister's was found in time. Thank you, Scrim. We were glad too. The world would have been much more dull without her in it. The downside (other than the obvious) of having a sister diagnosed with colon cancer, was I had to have my first colonoscopy at 30.
I have to ask, do you engrave/carve?
I realize it is still early but I hope your 2017 is looking brighter than 2016! |
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Post by scrimshaw on Jan 6, 2017 17:19:20 GMT -5
Becca, sadly, no, I haven't an ounce of talent for that kind of thing in my body. My talents are far more cerebral; I'm one of those people who has come to love math, and I spend an inordinate amount of time dorking on my home network. "Scrimshaw" is merely the name of a beer I like.  I kept that nick because I had it on EP for years and years. I would choose differently today. I've already had the first of my "magic finger" exams. One of the few (IMHO) downsides to being male. |
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I kept that nick because I had it on EP for years and years. I would choose differently today.