I'm still "in the closet" re: dealing with my SM; she knows it is an issue, but not about how we are dangerously plodding steadily toward a divorce. I guess I figure she should hear it from me before some mutual acquaintance sees my pic and asks her what's that about. So, no, no photo as my avatar at this time. Probably would be willing once I move on.
However, I have been told recently: "I think you did a good job depicting yourself in your cartoon avatar!"
So with that, you should be apparently be able to pick me out of a crowd... here, click this and look for me in this:
When I came to EP and discovered that my stbx's feelings about sex/intimacy/connection had very little to do with what I was or wasn't doing.... I had to make a decision. Was I prepared to continue pretending that we had a good relationship or was I going to own my future in a way that was genuine? It really wasn't a question since I suck at pretense. I talked to friends, family and anyone on the forum that would listen...and I told him what the group was about. Learning to be honest with myself and not feel ashamed was my goal. Saying that this is what I'm dealing with, this is my life, this is what I think, this is how I feel, is the only way I know how to do that. For me, posting my picture was a big part of saying "I am enough". Even though I had no idea that was what I needed at the time, it felt right. Doing that small thing just for me was an important part of reclaiming myself. My journey is unique - do what feels right for you.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
worksforme2: I'm reading about flash flooding in south east Australia. I think that might be near you Baz. Are you located on high ground?
Oct 14, 2022 10:16:46 GMT -5
greatcoastal: Thanks for the B.D. wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D. dance with the Ladies tomorrow!
Oct 14, 2022 16:38:40 GMT -5
petrushka: Hope you haven't had to resort to snorkles yet, Baza. I just saw a figure of 12m for some place. Yeesh. And according to the flood warning map you're in the red zone...
Oct 15, 2022 6:09:38 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday misssunnybunny.....
Oct 23, 2022 5:06:17 GMT -5
wewbwb: The best of birthday wishes to misssunnybunny , a special woman who deserves the best!
Oct 23, 2022 9:56:58 GMT -5
petrushka: Ditto, many happy returns!
Oct 24, 2022 1:27:01 GMT -5
jim44444: Was that a shootout from the long absent wewbwb?
Oct 24, 2022 17:38:53 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thank you for the birthday wishes! It was a very happy birthday!
Oct 25, 2022 10:05:56 GMT -5
wewbwb: Yes jim44444 I only appear on misssunnybunny birthday. But that doesn't mean I don't watch what you hooligans are up to.
Oct 25, 2022 19:03:38 GMT -5
mirrororchid: What if we say your name three times?
Oct 26, 2022 19:15:10 GMT -5