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Post by WindSister on Apr 24, 2017 12:29:03 GMT -5
 The Loverman sent me this yesterday. Hm. Even though I don't really know what to make of that (him sending it to me), I love Paulo Coelho & WindSister 's above post made me want to share it. hmmm..... maybe it reminded him of you? It's true, though. I find that true even with my mom who can be SO difficult sometimes. It's better on my soul just to love her, difficulties and all. My brother doesn't feel the same and they have a tumultuous relationship as a result. In the end, I think I will have the most peace when she leaves. That keeps me going. I can't change her nor fix her, all I can do is love her. There's a reason she is the way she is - I get that, where my brother does not even try. Doesn't mean I cow-tow to her, though - I stand my ground. I am direct and honest. But, with love. My brother uses avoidance, passive-aggressive techniques and well, we all know how "well" (sarcasm) those work! But, that said, I sure do offer her a lot of room just to be who she is with forgiveness, choosing love over needing to correct or fix her. I actually feel bad for her restless, never-at-peace soul, that must suck. I have had tastes of that in my life. I am glad I learned more joyful ways to live. When I think of that saying with my husband, yes, 100% agree. When/if he passes (but I vow to go first because I am selfish like that), I have lost nothing by loving him. That would carry me on till it was my turn. But, man, if I let myself think about it or dwell on it at all, the tears want to flow, I can't imagine life without him at this point. So then I think, "Why the hell are you thinking about it???" He's here now -- we are here now - life is good now -- enjoy it! And I do. Another fear I thought of that is actually a core one that drive my behavior in various unpleasing ways would be the one I am always trying to overcome: "I am not good enough." Always working on overcoming that one! |
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Post by WindSister on Apr 24, 2017 12:31:44 GMT -5
ugh... I mean, obviously it reminded him of you, that's why he sent it to you. But, maybe it's something he knows you would agree with, say? I don't know. I don't know enough of your story with him to even comment so I will retract....  lol But thanks for sharing with us!!  |
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Post by appleaday on Apr 25, 2017 14:45:10 GMT -5
Failure. It stops me from trying sometimes because if I don't try I didn't fail right? Only not trying at all is the biggest failure of all.
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Post by petrushka on Apr 28, 2017 7:28:59 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not
try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion.
This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's
youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something.
Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time.
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 28, 2017 7:33:07 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. I am so sorry. That is tragic. I can understand your concern. You are correct about failure. However it's still my biggest fear. |
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 28, 2017 7:40:01 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. I find that very scary too. And not much can be done to prevent it. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Apr 28, 2017 13:11:40 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. I have no understanding of what it is truly like to lose a parent but I just wanted to say I am very sorry for your loss. Watching the ones you live turn into shells of their former self is heartbreaking. Just seeing my grandfather that way was enough for me, I cannot begin to imagine the grief inside of you while you watch your father struggle the same way. I hope you can stay strong and let yourself grieve. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 28, 2017 14:16:47 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. Oh Petrushka. I am so sorry for your loss. |
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Post by lyn on Apr 28, 2017 19:49:51 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. I'm so sorry for your loss petrushka. There is nothing similar to losing a parent. My thoughts are with you- |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2017 17:53:48 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. I don't know what to say to comfort you. My heart goes out to you, my friend. Watching a parent deteriorate is brutal. But I can't imagine where you're sitting, with heredity. That would scare the shit out of anyone. I wish you comfort and love, and the hope of medical research to find treatment. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2017 20:00:07 GMT -5
Dementia. My mother died, a mindless husk of a human being earlier this week. My father has dementia and his doctor recommended I not try to tell him about my mother's death because he would not be able to grieve and not be able to process or retain the informantion. This is very very scary. Gods, I hope I will not travel down that road. Several of my mother's siblings lost their mind. My father's youngest brother, too. Genetically speaking, I am holding a bad hand of cards. Maybe I should start stocking up on Ketamine or something. Failure, as some here have said, does not phase me. Failure is a chance to learn and do it better next time. So sorry for your loss. |
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Post by DryCreek on May 2, 2017 21:15:41 GMT -5
Losing control / being helpless. I have a fiercely independent streak, and I hate being helpless to influence a bad situation. This translates to airplane turbulence, roller coasters, income Plan B, losing my facilities in old age, and many other manifestations. Bondage play would involve a crazy amount of trust.
On the softer side... not living life to the fullest. Not innovating / inspiring / chasing dreams as much as I aspire to.
Failure, not so much. Failure is essential to learning and growing, as long as you gain experience from it. We all fell down an awful lot while learning to walk, learning to ride a bike, skateboard - it's overcoming the failure that leads to success.
"Fall down 9 times, get up 10."
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lol But thanks for sharing with us!! 
