Post by WindSister on Apr 14, 2017 9:10:59 GMT -5
Doesn't it drive you batty when people are arguing (ha, that's the word, even) over nothing because they are all saying the same thing, just saying it differently? I don't know why I bother clicking to read comments on Facebook "news" because it makes me sad for humanity every single time.
This time it wasn't a political or controversial topic, but still, there was conflict in the comments because people just don't get the meaning of words and how words carry meaning, tone, etc. Words matter. I have always said that.
This is the article. The title is of course something that will "reel you in" to read it. "Why Couples Who Argue Love Each Other More."
www.powerofpositivity.com/couples-argue-love/
Okay -- "Argue" --
Does THAT look anything like remotely healthy??? No.
Trying to persuade my partner to share my view is manipulative. Exchanging opposite views in a heated or angry way leads to stress, a breakdown of the relationship.
Some voice of reasons tried to explain this in the comments, but the sheeple don't get it. It perplexes my mind.
Within in the article it's stated that "arguing is non-combative." Yes, the way a person argues matters greatly. It COULD be combative or it COULD be soundly, sanely with the intent of understanding, not just "persuading." Maybe. But I still hate the word and the title.. I hate it so much I am wasting 10 minutes of my time to share with you all how it bugs me. (laughing) It's Friday - work load is light.
Anyway, I guess for me, I would word it as such: "Couples who engage in honest, direct, respectful communication stay happier together longer." But, again -- semantics.
This time it wasn't a political or controversial topic, but still, there was conflict in the comments because people just don't get the meaning of words and how words carry meaning, tone, etc. Words matter. I have always said that.
This is the article. The title is of course something that will "reel you in" to read it. "Why Couples Who Argue Love Each Other More."
www.powerofpositivity.com/couples-argue-love/
Okay -- "Argue" --
ar·gue
ˈärɡyo͞o/
verb
1.
give reasons or cite evidence in support of an idea, action, or theory, typically with the aim of persuading others to share one's view.
"defense attorneys argue that the police lacked “probable cause” to arrest the driver"
synonyms: contend, assert, maintain, insist, hold, claim, reason, allege; More
2.
exchange or express diverging or opposite views, typically in a heated or angry way.
"don't argue with me"
synonyms: quarrel, disagree, squabble, bicker, fight, wrangle, dispute, feud, have words, cross swords, lock horns, be at each other's throats; informalspat
"the children are always arguing"
ˈärɡyo͞o/
verb
1.
give reasons or cite evidence in support of an idea, action, or theory, typically with the aim of persuading others to share one's view.
"defense attorneys argue that the police lacked “probable cause” to arrest the driver"
synonyms: contend, assert, maintain, insist, hold, claim, reason, allege; More
2.
exchange or express diverging or opposite views, typically in a heated or angry way.
"don't argue with me"
synonyms: quarrel, disagree, squabble, bicker, fight, wrangle, dispute, feud, have words, cross swords, lock horns, be at each other's throats; informalspat
"the children are always arguing"
Does THAT look anything like remotely healthy??? No.
Trying to persuade my partner to share my view is manipulative. Exchanging opposite views in a heated or angry way leads to stress, a breakdown of the relationship.
Some voice of reasons tried to explain this in the comments, but the sheeple don't get it. It perplexes my mind.
Within in the article it's stated that "arguing is non-combative." Yes, the way a person argues matters greatly. It COULD be combative or it COULD be soundly, sanely with the intent of understanding, not just "persuading." Maybe. But I still hate the word and the title.. I hate it so much I am wasting 10 minutes of my time to share with you all how it bugs me. (laughing) It's Friday - work load is light.
Anyway, I guess for me, I would word it as such: "Couples who engage in honest, direct, respectful communication stay happier together longer." But, again -- semantics.
