It's not a "Crisis" to experience change in your Midlife
Apr 19, 2017 9:16:39 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on Apr 19, 2017 9:16:39 GMT -5
Huge, mega pet peeve of mine is the term "midlife crisis." To label that on one's self (or let others label you as experiencing it) demeans the actual, real self-evaluation of your life that you are doing.
"Oh, that's just midlife crisis - he's crazy - he'll come back around eventually."
(UGH!!!)
I tried to find some good reading material on this topic but apparently much of our world still buys into the notion that it is a "crisis." So if you have anything, please post it here in the comments!!
I will share what I did find and this quote:
In other words, a crisis during midlife is not proof of midlife crisis. That may work for researchers, but for the rest of North America, “midlife crisis” has far too much deeply ingrained cultural resonance to abandon. Its force pulls us – but I tend to agree that that force tends to limit our thinking and narrows the aperture of our vision.
Evaluation and discernment are impossible when only one term is meant to describe every change in a life over the course of a roughly 20-year period – especially one with built-in negativity. “Crisis” implies a judgment that might often be unfounded.
Midlife is definitely tumultuous in every way: in our relationships, our careers, our bodies and selves. If we are to begin to make sense of it, what we need most is a set of fresh eyes, not one clouded by stale clichés.
I think I agree with the sociologists – it’s time to drop the “midlife crisis.”
www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/why-its-time-to-drop-the-myth-of-the-midlife-crisis/article32452487/?
click=sf_globefbthriveology.com/4-myths-of-midlife-crisis/
"Oh, that's just midlife crisis - he's crazy - he'll come back around eventually."
(UGH!!!)
I tried to find some good reading material on this topic but apparently much of our world still buys into the notion that it is a "crisis." So if you have anything, please post it here in the comments!!
I will share what I did find and this quote:
In other words, a crisis during midlife is not proof of midlife crisis. That may work for researchers, but for the rest of North America, “midlife crisis” has far too much deeply ingrained cultural resonance to abandon. Its force pulls us – but I tend to agree that that force tends to limit our thinking and narrows the aperture of our vision.
Evaluation and discernment are impossible when only one term is meant to describe every change in a life over the course of a roughly 20-year period – especially one with built-in negativity. “Crisis” implies a judgment that might often be unfounded.
Midlife is definitely tumultuous in every way: in our relationships, our careers, our bodies and selves. If we are to begin to make sense of it, what we need most is a set of fresh eyes, not one clouded by stale clichés.
I think I agree with the sociologists – it’s time to drop the “midlife crisis.”
www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/why-its-time-to-drop-the-myth-of-the-midlife-crisis/article32452487/?
click=sf_globefbthriveology.com/4-myths-of-midlife-crisis/
