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Post by northstarmom on Jun 11, 2017 6:45:34 GMT -5
" I have a theory why boobs are no longer a "thing" for men -"
I have not found that to be true.
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Post by Caris on Jun 11, 2017 13:35:01 GMT -5
Jim, isn't it human nature that men find young, smooth skinned women more appealing? Men (in general) want healthy, fit, young women to bear their offspring. Men are very visual, so I think it's got more to do with biology than advertisers. The reality is that I can't compete with my younger self, and more men found me attractive then than they do now. That's just a fact of life when you develop age related wear and tear. For the purpose of procreation I would agree with your statement, men want young women. By the same token, women want an older, proven successful men to father their chldren. It is a matter of raising the odds that a child will survive to adulthood. Those standards served humanity well during our evolution but are less important today. Even the concept of procreation has changed from having as many children as possible to only having the ones you want. My point in the original rambling was why do we as a society today, with all our enlightenment, still ascribe to the ancient mores that only the young are attractive? Why are we unable or unwilling to admit that sexy and attractive can encompass strech marks, curves, wrinkles, gray hair, bald heads and all the other characteristics of humans as they age? I will concede that it is only my opinion but I feel that sexy is a state of mind first and body dynamics second. I am not disparaging the idea that a resonably fit body is conducive to being sexy in that being able to physically engage with each other is a good thing. However, resonably fit is not what is shoved down the throats of men and women as a life goal. The 'ideal' presented in supermarket tabloids, pseudo-health magazines or even tumblr represents something that few people can achieve or maintain. Genetics and life get in the way. I do understand what you mean. For myself, personality and character, plus shared values are the main attraction, but physical attraction and chemistry has to be there, or else it's just friendship. Not that I actually have any male friends, or boyfriends for that matter. I've becom man-shy with all I've been through, but I have no problem talking to men in conversation, except if they were interested in me, then I pull back. Bald heads, wrinkles, grey hair doesn't bother me. It's How a man presents himself to me that's important. He must be a deep thinker, and not shallow. |
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 11, 2017 22:41:26 GMT -5
"My point in the original rambling was why do we as a society today, with all our enlightenment, still ascribe to the ancient mores that only the young are attractive? "
Some people feel that way, but everyone does not feel that way. Among famous senior citizen women who are considered to be gorgeous are Helen Mirran, Tina Turner and Robin Wright. Check out the new French president whose wife is 22 years older. I have close guy friends who adore their fiancee/wives who are 12 and 22 years older (one is about 55, the other is 70) and very attractive women. One of the women is a college professor who manages to belly dance each year in her communications class.
That men are considered handsome as they age is well known, so I won't bother to mention the many well known senior men who are considered handsome and sexy.
At almost 66, I am far more confident sexually and generally than I was when I was young and slimmer. So much of how we are perceived is a reflection about how we feel about ourselves. I remember my grandmom at my age looked sedate. She wouldn't wear bright colors. She wore old lady shoes and high necklines. I refuse to act like I should be put on the shelf and fade in. I was slimmer when I was younger, but I feel that due to confidence, I sparkle now, something I didn't do when I was young and wary of being overshadowed by my beautiful friends.
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