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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2017 17:27:27 GMT -5
Oh the dreaded reunion. Fake smiles hiding the truth behind the fake stories people tell...
You are NOT overreacting. This must be pretty difficult for you and I'm not sure I'd even go if it were me. But the desire to see old friends may supersede the unease of it all.
Remember, you owe an explanation to no one! Share your feelings with those you trust, but only if you choose. Take the high road. I hope you have a great time!
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 10, 2017 17:49:54 GMT -5
I don't think you are overreacting . Those feelings can hurt .
And let them know that you are better off without him.
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Post by baza on Jun 10, 2017 18:46:37 GMT -5
I had a blast at my school re-union. Interesting was, that the basic personalities of people hadn't really changed much, although their looks and some attitudes had. Jerks then were still jerks now. Nice people then were still nice now. The class clown then was still that way inclined. Discovered that this chick had had a crush on me back in the school days - I was oblivious to this at the time - and had missed out on a root there. We had a good laugh about that. I'm inclined to suggest you go Sister LEXUS46. If it turns out to be a dud function, you really lose nothing. And there is always the option of a gutful of grog if all else fails. |
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 10, 2017 19:36:48 GMT -5
I would advise going. I am not trying to be morose but there will be old friends there that will be dead before your 40th. And it is good to catch up with people, to learn where their life journey has taken them.
Since you still are on good terms with your ex, you can just ignore any questions about your divorce. Some folks just love to gossip.
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Post by lwoetin on Jun 11, 2017 19:21:35 GMT -5
I haven't gone to any yet, probably never.
Have fun, Lexus! It's good you get along great with your ex. Who are you going with?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2017 19:30:32 GMT -5
I dreaded my 20th, but I still went. I planned ahead of time to take a few days off from work and go to the beach after the reunion was over. That way, if the reunion really sucked, I would at least have the beach to look forward to afterwards.
The reunion turned out pretty well - I was glad I went. And I still got to go to the beach!
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Post by JMX on Jun 18, 2017 10:02:50 GMT -5
I have only been to my 10 and 20 - honestly, the 10 was the most unbearable for fake - but it was the age. Everyone still making their way, trying to feel important in their lives. 20 year was fabulous as most had dropped their bull shit. I could only imagine he 30 would be even better.
The small talk is a little nice - the catching up too. But the truth of the matter is - no one really cares that much about what is going on with your life beyond the niceties.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Jun 18, 2017 15:43:33 GMT -5
I have never been to and will not likely never go to my high school reunions. I was not a preppie, stoner, geek, jock, thespian, or honor student. I flew under the radar, was in no clubs, no sports, and no extracurricular activities. There is one photo of me in the year book and I don't know what it is because I dont own one. I am in contact with everyone that I want to be in contact with, so there is no need to go.
I discourage everyone from attending their high school reunions. They are generally intended for those people who peaked in high school and are already up in everybody's business anyway. These days you can identify those people because they are the ones that have 2000+ "friends" on Facebook, are still finding a way to be in the high school (volunteer, PTA, maybe a teacher), or go to high school sporting events even though they have no children participating in the event.
Stay home and watch Gross Pointe Blank instead, it captures the essence of the high school reunion while simultaneously being far better then any reunion could be.
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 18, 2017 20:07:20 GMT -5
I have only been to my 10 and 20 - honestly, the 10 was the most unbearable for fake - but it was the age. Everyone still making their way, trying to feel important in their lives. 20 year was fabulous as most had dropped their bull shit. I could only imagine he 30 would be even better. The small talk is a little nice - the catching up too. But the truth of the matter is - no one really cares that much about what is going on with your life beyond the niceties. You may be right about most people not caring. I suspect there are differences based on the size of the class and the community structure. I graduated in a class of 133, it was easy to know everyone by name. At my last class reunion that I attended I was good-naturedly challenge by a woman as to what her name was. I gave up, admitting that I was drawing a blank. When she told me I then remembered her, we had been more acquaintances then friends in high school. She even mentioned how we never really interacted much back then. We actually sat and talked for over an hour about our lives. She related how her MS issues had affected her marriage and changed her outlook in a positive manner. It seemed sad that we had never connected back in high school but we were different people then. I guess my point is that going with a positive expectation will probably produce a positive outcome. |
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Post by JMX on Jun 18, 2017 20:30:59 GMT -5
jim44444 - it has been my experience - and mine alone - that those that have anxiety due to others' potential judgment are typically very judgmental (and they don't have to be brazen about it) towards others. It's where they got the idea. I have a friend that is constantly worried about what others will think of her. It's exhausting. Every single thing she worries about them passing judgment on her - are the very things she uses to judge the outside world. It's kind of entertaining, actually. I also don't think judgment is necessarily a bad thing. There are a lot of people in the world to choose to spend your time with - without judgment, circles could be too big and less intimate. I make judgements every day about who I choose to spend time with out of necessity (let's put aside the marriage here, because that's laughable) because I don't have a lot of time. And to your point about getting to know someone you didn't know back then - I absolutely understand. There's a girl from my high school - we were in completely different groups, but I like and admire her a lot. I wrote to her once that it was a shame we didn't know each other that well back then, I am thankful I know her now!
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 3, 2017 6:53:05 GMT -5
I'm not going to sugar coat my feelings about highschool reunions. In my case, I did not like most of my classmates and they didn't like me. There are perhaps a dozen people I'd like to see, and they aren't going to go to a large reunion, either.
If you want to go, go. I'd rather pick up an extra shift.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 3, 2017 11:00:24 GMT -5
I am glad you are going. I can see why it may be an emotional/hard journey, though, since that is where you and your ex started together. Life has weird twists and turns, though -- just take care of yourself and let us know how it goes if you want. Take care!!
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