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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 14, 2017 11:37:55 GMT -5
Well, had a....REALLY good evening last night. 😁😁😁😁
Course not expecting it to last but H and I had a fun interlude before bed.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 14, 2017 11:59:31 GMT -5
Why wouldn't it last? You have been the refuser. What would keep you from having great sex frequently? After all, you have been the uninterested one. What changed yesterday?
Did you tell him with words how much you enjoyed it and specifically what he did that was pleasing? Being refused erodes most people's' confidence about their sexual abilities and attractiveness.
What is your husband's love language? There are quick tests one can take online to find this out. If he knows you'd like him to take one so you could communicate better with him, he may happily do that. I'd bet that in general, he has felt unappreciated and unloved just as you have. Maybe both of you yesterday communicated in ways the other understood.
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 15, 2017 0:33:21 GMT -5
Many of us here are trapped by the notion that we might evoke an awakening / pleasure like this in our refusing spouse. That "if only we could just..."
If you had an amazing time that makes you desire the same more regularly... make sure he's damn clear on what he did right. And you might need to be rather blunt about it. You will both benefit from the clarity.
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 15, 2017 6:39:44 GMT -5
Why wouldn't it last? You have been the refuser. What would keep you from having great sex frequently? After all, you have been the uninterested one. What changed yesterday? Did you tell him with words how much you enjoyed it and specifically what he did that was pleasing? Being refused erodes most people's' confidence about their sexual abilities and attractiveness. What is your husband's love language? There are quick tests one can take online to find this out. If he knows you'd like him to take one so you could communicate better with him, he may happily do that. I'd bet that in general, he has felt unappreciated and unloved just as you have. Maybe both of you yesterday communicated in ways the other understood. Well, the reason I said I'm not expecting it to last it because of what has become routine for us. Sure we've had a few good days but ultimately something pops up and he goes back to complaining about something and therefore making me feel like I'm not good enough in some form or fashion. Guess we'll have to wait and see. |
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Post by lwoetin on Jun 15, 2017 7:17:35 GMT -5
Funny how you put this in the Off Topic section. Feeling good should be in the Main Topic.🙌
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 15, 2017 7:21:21 GMT -5
Funny how you put this in the Off Topic section. Feeling good should be in the Main Topic.🙌 Lol maybe it should |
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