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Post by M2G on Oct 15, 2017 9:26:54 GMT -5
Maybe I'm just too old, or anti-social, but I just don't get it. Do I really need to know when someone just came back from the grocery store, how their pets are running around, that they had a bagel for breakfast or the cat ate all the cheese?
If I want to talk to someone I pickup the phone or send an email - but this constant announcement of every minuscule action a person takes throughout the day just strikes me a bizarre and stupid.
People even getting killed, about remarks made on Facebook - not to mention all the bullying and such - what a waste.
Am I alone in this?
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Post by misssunnybunny on Oct 15, 2017 9:55:15 GMT -5
I use Facebook to keep in touch with friends and family, as I live a few states away from them. I also follow some news sites, and stuff for fun.
The post-everything-they-do people are few and far between in my group of friends, so I am lucky there.
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Post by jim44444 on Oct 15, 2017 10:45:58 GMT -5
M2G, it sounds like you need better FB friends. Like misssunnybunny I use FB to keep in touch with distant family and friends. I also belong to multiple private and public groups based on personal interests. Hide the posts of the morons and the divas. Block posts from sites that are offensive. Make it work for you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2017 12:32:14 GMT -5
Facebook is a bit like power: it depends how you use it, good, evil, or just complete stupidity.
I like keeping in touch with family and love that I have friends with similar interests and views. This is a good thing.
I don't care to see your gym check-ins, your fifth taco meal this week, or how many 'amens' the sick little boy can get. Fuck that.
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Post by jim44444 on Oct 15, 2017 12:48:54 GMT -5
Facebook is a bit like power: it depends how you use it, good, evil, or just complete stupidity. ... or how many 'amens' the sick little boy can get. Fuck that. Amen to that @andie. As bad as FB is I think similarworlds is worse. It is becoming the cesspool of the world's morons. |
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Post by petrushka on Oct 16, 2017 0:44:38 GMT -5
Well you know what I always say: Facebook is facile, and Twitter is for twits.
I just don't want to go there. I like my privacy too much. Facebook, just like Google,
treats you as a commodity to be sold. And they do a bunch of really creepy, invasive
things that most people never trip across. I had an extremely creepy experience with
Facebook sniffing out an email address of mine that they should not have had any knowledge
of at all. I immediately left, wiped my account, and there's no way I'll go back.
What a joke: I had not even got around to actually using the account I signed up for.
And now I never will.
If I want to talk to someone, I can call them, I can skype them, I can send a text or
write an email or a {gasp} letter. I don't need Facebook in my face.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Oct 16, 2017 9:57:45 GMT -5
My cousin's wife is one of those people that feels compelled to post everything that happens in her life on Facebook. I could go and look on Facebook right now and tell you what she's doing. Personally that's not my thing but if she wants to do that then more power to her. I use Facebook to share photos of my kids, that's it. It saves me a bunch of time in that respect.
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 16, 2017 12:07:11 GMT -5
FB depends on how you use it. I've established close relationships with some people due to the similarity of our values and interests reflected in our FB posts. I've maintained relationships with some cherished relatives and college friends due to our sharing info and occasionally chatting on FB.
I've learned about important current events and issues and have established relationships with others who cae about such issues. I've also gotten useful recommendations for plumbers and others who provide services.
And I've had a great time at parties, movies and other socials due to FB invited from friends. Sadly, some of my friends who aren't on FB have missed invitations from me. It is much easier to invite people via FB than to use email or the phone.
I've gotten great advice from strangers by joining FB groups related to places where I'm considering traveling to or retiring in. FB helped me meet in person at least 15 nice people in the country where I'm considering retiring. One, a dentist, even picked me up from the airport and gave me a city tour with her family. Another gathered a group of expats to meet my partner and me for dinner. A real estate agent showed us houses even though we told her we don't plan to buy for at least a year.
I created a FB group for friends interested in doing the creativity book, The Artists' Way with me.
I have almost 2,000 FB friends including some who are in iliasm. The rare times I have been bothered by people's posts, I've either unfriended them or unfollowed them. I've had far more delightful. Inspirational or informative encounters than ones that bother me.
Typically the most bothersome posts to me are by chronic whiners or those who post pictures of their food. I stop following such people. Overall FB has informed and enriched my life.
Example of FB' helpfulness today: I was able to contact my dental hygienist of 25 years and find a new dentist. Both my dental Hygentist and I had gotten fed up with my former dentist. I trust my Hygentist and now can get care at the office where she now works.
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Post by tamara68 on Oct 16, 2017 13:14:32 GMT -5
I think I need to join Facebook or else I will have this regret:
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Post by h on Oct 17, 2017 15:11:17 GMT -5
I use it to keep in touch with family and friends all over the world. I have lots of military family so calls are difficult with the different time zones. It makes it easier to leave a message or picture that can be seen later.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 4, 2018 15:50:50 GMT -5
One day from the divorce and my STBX posts a tribute to fathers on fakebook?
Just another example of living with a manipulative controller. her daddy has been living with us for 11 yrs.
Her daddy is constantly showering her with words of praise and affection. She barely grunts at them. That would mean saying thank you or I love you.. That's giving up a tiny amount of control... it doesn't happen.
Much safer to post a tribute on Fakebook. Her daddy's vision is so poor he'll never see it.
But it makes her look and feel so "super daughter/mom". All for her handful of fakebook minions.
The iriony of it all is, it's about being a good father. Well the man who she is getting divorced from (me) is the father to her 6 children!
Oh, the manipulation, it's so twisted!
Then there is a picture posted of a wheelchair ramp for our house,that was made by a church member for her daddy. It's hardly needed. The front step is 3 inches. He gets around with his walker to the door. He is supposed to be exercising.
My STBX is to proud to give up any control to have me build one. ( I have all the tools and experience)
Her minions praise her for being such a good person! The bottom line? Her daddy is a tax right off, and her new H that she can have complete control over. A tool and a weapon to use over the children as well.
It shows over and over again through her fakebook posts.
I can only imagine what it will be like after the divorce.
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Post by tamara68 on Mar 4, 2018 15:59:16 GMT -5
greatcoastal Everyone uses Facebook to make an impression of being a wonderful person. Your divorce is nearly done. You will need to cut her off as much as possible. You know you will never going to see anything good on her Facebook page. Avoid it. And if you use facebook yourself, it is probably best to not use it for displaying passive agression. That is her way of doing, you don't have to sink to her level. At the moment you are still very much hurt and effected by everything your wife does. Hopefully you can just ignore her as much as possible after the divorce. Best of luck! Big step tomorrow.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 4, 2018 16:51:33 GMT -5
greatcoastal Everyone uses Facebook to make an impression of being a wonderful person. Your divorce is nearly done. You will need to cut her off as much as possible. You know you will never going to see anything good on her Facebook page. Avoid it. And if you use facebook yourself, it is probably best to not use it for displaying passive agression. That is her way of doing, you don't have to sink to her level. At the moment you are still very much hurt and effected by everything your wife does. Hopefully you can just ignore her as much as possible after the divorce. Best of luck! Big step tomorrow. Thanks for that! I post my paintings on Fakebook, that's it. I expect her little group of minions to have little influence on me. |
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Post by northstarmom on Mar 5, 2018 15:22:18 GMT -5
“One day from the divorce and my STBX posts a tribute to fathers on fakebook?”
Don’t read her FB! Only remain FB friends with her if you have to for reasons related to your kids. Since you live near her, there are more efficient ways of sharing info about the kids. I remained FB friends with my ex only because we had an amicable divorce, have lots of mutual contacts, and FB is a easy way to share info about our adult kids. He and I live 7,000 miles apart. However, i seldom read his FB. The last time was more than a year ago when one son traveled halfway around the world to see him. I wanted to see how my son enjoyed Asia. I wasn’t trying to snoop on my ex.
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Post by WindSister on Mar 6, 2018 10:53:19 GMT -5
One day from the divorce and my STBX posts a tribute to fathers on fakebook? Just another example of living with a manipulative controller. her daddy has been living with us for 11 yrs. Her daddy is constantly showering her with words of praise and affection. She barely grunts at them. That would mean saying thank you or I love you.. That's giving up a tiny amount of control... it doesn't happen. Much safer to post a tribute on Fakebook. Her daddy's vision is so poor he'll never see it. But it makes her look and feel so "super daughter/mom". All for her handful of fakebook minions. The iriony of it all is, it's about being a good father. Well the man who she is getting divorced from (me) is the father to her 6 children! Oh, the manipulation, it's so twisted! Then there is a picture posted of a wheelchair ramp for our house,that was made by a church member for her daddy. It's hardly needed. The front step is 3 inches. He gets around with his walker to the door. He is supposed to be exercising. My STBX is to proud to give up any control to have me build one. ( I have all the tools and experience) Her minions praise her for being such a good person! The bottom line? Her daddy is a tax right off, and her new H that she can have complete control over. A tool and a weapon to use over the children as well. It shows over and over again through her fakebook posts. I can only imagine what it will be like after the divorce. Facebook and exes .... such a great combo! (sarcasm) No, Facebook is full of weirdness when it comes to exes. I actually really like Facebook for my own personal use because I love sharing ideas and communicating/connecting with others. I am part of some great private/closed groups from Motorcycles to Keto (eating Keto). Some I participate in more than others. I have great friends all over the US that I have actually met through Half Marathons, Day Care Provider conventions (back when I did day care), Healthy Lifestyle Living Conventions, etc. I question why I have friends all over the US but not so much in my own neighborhood, but I digress... (now I just don't have time for friends as I love my life with my husband and don't feel a need to hang out with others). BUT.. Facebook and EXES? Ugh. It just gets stupid sometimes and there is no better word for it. We are not friend's with my husband's ex on Facebook but we also didn't block her (didn't want to make a scene). So, she does pop up on our Timeline when she tags the kids or other people we are friends with or sometimes when they like or comment on her stuff. Not sure why we see some things and not others, but I am not a pro at Facebook settings, we have been trying different things now though. My husband's favorite was the article she shared and his sister "loved" about how Marriage almost killed her. Showed a picture of a woman hanging by a rope tied around her waist, limp. He got PISSED at that, actually. She shared it for all their shared family/friends to see. Nice. MY favorite was she shared a quote about music remembering good times from a page called "When you see your ex's new partner and realize they downgraded." Nice. Classy stuff there. Passive aggressive - it's her style. Facebook is the PERFECT PLAYGROUND for Passive Aggressive types. Or how she posts EVERY SINGLE TIME she is with the grand kids. Or posts EVERY GIFT she buys them. OR that they give her. She gets flowers from staff on "national bosses day" and yup.. it's on Facebook.... "look how loved I am!!" Well, that's my perspective. She can do what she wants, but yes, she has showed up on our news feed way too much. I think we have it figured out now, though, we started clicking "see less of...." And now it is rare she pops up. But if I post ANYTHING with the kids or grand kids she is "hearting" it. I really don't think she needs to be "hearting" pictures of her ex husband. EVER. Boundaries. Tact. (she lacks both on Facebook). I keep my interactions real on Facebook and always ask myself "would I do this, say this in real life?" If the answer is no, I don't do it. So I don't "Heart" her stuff with the kids. I might offer a like but usually let her have her moments without me marking it. She doesn't offer that in return, though. Hell, we were tagged in a picture with my husband's friends when were were on vacation two years ago and she hearted it, added a "smiley sticker" AND commented, "You look so great!!!" I was like, WTF?  WHO looks great and why the HELL is she commenting on this picture that has nothing to do with the kids? Eh.... She is showing the world how "cool" she is with divorce, creating the "unified front" for the kids, etc..... it's enough to make a person gag. But it's how it goes... facebook and exes... fun, fun stuff! lol Just keep it real on your end.  |
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WHO looks great and why the HELL is she commenting on this picture that has nothing to do with the kids? Eh.... She is showing the world how "cool" she is with divorce, creating the "unified front" for the kids, etc..... it's enough to make a person gag. 
