Magic Lists helping you get what you want
Mar 8, 2018 11:19:26 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on Mar 8, 2018 11:19:26 GMT -5
www.oprah.com/spirit/martha-beck-on-how-magic-lists-help-you-get-what-you-want/all
Okay, Okay, I know this is way too "foo-foo" for the majority of you. And it is crazy, hell, even the author (Martha Beck) admits it. But she also shares how she SEES things play out for people who tap into their deepest desires from that "deep place" (not the shallow place).
I have 10 sheets of yellow paper that I scribbled on after a horrible (face it, abusive) date with a very dysfunctional man. As I wrote, I was calm, but deeply focused and tapped into "something." My higher self? Don't laugh. I don't know, I had to have been tapped into something. It was a powerful moment and one I will never forget. I wrote and wrote and wrote. To someone reading it, it may sound crazy because I flipped from talking "to myself" and talking about myself. I gave myself a lot of pep talks "You just haven't met HIM yet, let the others go now." A part of me for a long time deeply believed I was being "punished" for still being single, that I wasn't good enough, but after this writing exercise I deeply believed I WAS worthy, I just hadn't MET HIM yet. That caused instant calmness in me - like, "chill... have fun with life, he will come along when he does." This is something others had told me again and again but until I told myself that and believed it, it wasn't effective. I deeply felt that change within me. It's hard to explain, but I know I had grasped it, finally. I think that's what Beck talks about -- I moved from the shallows to the deep core.
Then I wrote out all I desired in a man. I kid you not, my husband hits everything. I was very specific. I wanted blue collar, hardworking, internet ignorant, video-game hating, small town, loyal and faithful to the core, likes all music, etc. It's all my husband. All of it. I didn't share my list with him. I let him just be himself and SHOW ME who he was as I noticed in awe how he ticked everything off in my list. I finally showed it to him a couple years ago and at first he laughed it off like "coincidence" but then he said, "that's really weird." Because it is. (I only showed him the list part not all the other things because those are personal to me). The even "weirder" part is he texted me MOMENTS after I had written everything. I am not making this up, I wouldn't even know to make it up. MOMENTS after I deleted and blocked every man in my phone, deleted dating profiles, and deleted emails. I did that all that calmly, mind you, not in anger, but in an "I love myself" way, and "I just haven't met him yet" way. I was vowing to live life till I do.
Then... ding!!! Text from my future husband.
I literally looked at my phone, like "what?" Who the hell did I forget to delete/block. I almost didn't reply.
His text was "Hi! This is ___ ____. We met on Eharmony. Sorry it took me so long, but I have been busy."
We had exchanged emails on Eharmony three months prior and his account was ending so I gave him my number and said to text me if he wanted. Then he got busy and I forgot about him.
I know I shared all this before. But I feel it's got something to it. Maybe it is all just coincidence. But that night, RIGHT BEFORE he texted me I went through some powerful emotions and clarity. Like I hadn't felt before. I have those yellow sheets of paper to prove it.
He tells me right before he texted me that night that he was sitting on his couch sipping a beer, staring at the wall, feeling hopeless after working a 7 day string of 12 hour shifts and having nothing to look forward to for his upcoming five days off. Then "it hit him" ... he never texted me (he had just sold a house and was moving 3 months earlier when we started to communicate). He had to dig for the little notebook he wrote my number on, but he finally found it and then he texted me... ding... the rest is history.
Magic list?
I don't know.
But... there's something to be said for clarity, getting out of the shallows, living in deep knowing of who we are and what we want from that place instead of from our ego-wants (shallow wants).
There's something to be said for tapping into desires from a place of calm instead of fear.
Okay, Okay, I know this is way too "foo-foo" for the majority of you. And it is crazy, hell, even the author (Martha Beck) admits it. But she also shares how she SEES things play out for people who tap into their deepest desires from that "deep place" (not the shallow place).
I have 10 sheets of yellow paper that I scribbled on after a horrible (face it, abusive) date with a very dysfunctional man. As I wrote, I was calm, but deeply focused and tapped into "something." My higher self? Don't laugh. I don't know, I had to have been tapped into something. It was a powerful moment and one I will never forget. I wrote and wrote and wrote. To someone reading it, it may sound crazy because I flipped from talking "to myself" and talking about myself. I gave myself a lot of pep talks "You just haven't met HIM yet, let the others go now." A part of me for a long time deeply believed I was being "punished" for still being single, that I wasn't good enough, but after this writing exercise I deeply believed I WAS worthy, I just hadn't MET HIM yet. That caused instant calmness in me - like, "chill... have fun with life, he will come along when he does." This is something others had told me again and again but until I told myself that and believed it, it wasn't effective. I deeply felt that change within me. It's hard to explain, but I know I had grasped it, finally. I think that's what Beck talks about -- I moved from the shallows to the deep core.
Then I wrote out all I desired in a man. I kid you not, my husband hits everything. I was very specific. I wanted blue collar, hardworking, internet ignorant, video-game hating, small town, loyal and faithful to the core, likes all music, etc. It's all my husband. All of it. I didn't share my list with him. I let him just be himself and SHOW ME who he was as I noticed in awe how he ticked everything off in my list. I finally showed it to him a couple years ago and at first he laughed it off like "coincidence" but then he said, "that's really weird." Because it is. (I only showed him the list part not all the other things because those are personal to me). The even "weirder" part is he texted me MOMENTS after I had written everything. I am not making this up, I wouldn't even know to make it up. MOMENTS after I deleted and blocked every man in my phone, deleted dating profiles, and deleted emails. I did that all that calmly, mind you, not in anger, but in an "I love myself" way, and "I just haven't met him yet" way. I was vowing to live life till I do.
Then... ding!!! Text from my future husband.
I literally looked at my phone, like "what?" Who the hell did I forget to delete/block. I almost didn't reply.
His text was "Hi! This is ___ ____. We met on Eharmony. Sorry it took me so long, but I have been busy."
We had exchanged emails on Eharmony three months prior and his account was ending so I gave him my number and said to text me if he wanted. Then he got busy and I forgot about him.
I know I shared all this before. But I feel it's got something to it. Maybe it is all just coincidence. But that night, RIGHT BEFORE he texted me I went through some powerful emotions and clarity. Like I hadn't felt before. I have those yellow sheets of paper to prove it.
He tells me right before he texted me that night that he was sitting on his couch sipping a beer, staring at the wall, feeling hopeless after working a 7 day string of 12 hour shifts and having nothing to look forward to for his upcoming five days off. Then "it hit him" ... he never texted me (he had just sold a house and was moving 3 months earlier when we started to communicate). He had to dig for the little notebook he wrote my number on, but he finally found it and then he texted me... ding... the rest is history.
Magic list?
I don't know.
But... there's something to be said for clarity, getting out of the shallows, living in deep knowing of who we are and what we want from that place instead of from our ego-wants (shallow wants).
There's something to be said for tapping into desires from a place of calm instead of fear.
I can't explain this, I've just seen it—over and over and over. When my clients are in the Shallows, I can tell that the dreams they describe just won't fly; when they're speaking from their Core, I feel a kind of "click," like a puzzle piece fitting in place, and I know I'll see their dreams come true. I can feel the difference as they express the desire—and so can you. It's the same as the difference between a salesperson's flattery and the love of a faithful dog. One feels icky, the other pure. The sense of this may come from body language, vocal tone, or the vague New Age catchphrase "energy," but it's real. Scientifically measurable? Not yet. Tangible? Absolutely.
