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bballgirl Senior Members Posts: 3,462	Good article - Mark Manson Apr 19, 2018 10:56:58 GMT -5 via mobile GeekGoddess, jim44444, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by bballgirl on Apr 19, 2018 10:56:58 GMT -5 Good article- Mark Manson markmanson.net/love?utm_source=facebook&utm_campaign=social-posts&utm_medium=social&utm_content=2018-04-12

GeekGoddess Senior Members The secret to being happy is having a great sense of humor and a dirty mind. I'm qualified! Posts: 1,528 Age Range: 51-55	Good article - Mark Manson Apr 19, 2018 12:15:46 GMT -5 via Tapatalk bballgirl likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by GeekGoddess on Apr 19, 2018 12:15:46 GMT -5 I think I’ve read that one before but it’s always good to have the info refreshed. Very good article!

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Good article - Mark Manson Apr 19, 2018 18:22:15 GMT -5 greatcoastal, bballgirl, and 2 more like this

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Post by baza on Apr 19, 2018 18:22:15 GMT -5

Quoting Mark Manson here -
"When we believe that “all we need is love,” then like Lennon, we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility and commitment towards the people we care about. After all, if love solves everything, then why bother with all the other stuff — all of the hard stuff?"

If, in your life you have "love" but you ain't got "respect" "humility" "commitment", then in reality you haven't got much of substance at all.

How many stories in here have you read where the member is still "in love" with a spouse who lacks respect, humility, commitment ?

Being "in love" doesn't resolve too much at all. In fact it can be a hugely bad thing unless it has other qualities backing it up.

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Good article - Mark Manson Apr 20, 2018 1:11:41 GMT -5 via mobile bballgirl likes this

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Apr 19, 2018 18:22:15 GMT -5 baza said:

If, in your life you have "love" but you ain't got "respect" "humility" "commitment", then in reality you haven't got much of substance at all.

How many stories in here have you read where the member is still "in love" with a spouse who lacks respect, humility, commitment ?

Being "in love" doesn't resolve too much at all. In fact it can be a hugely bad thing unless it has other qualities backing it up.

Actually, I don't see much posts from members here saying that they are in love with their spouses. Perhaps people are too shy. Perhaps they're cautious and wary. Instead we get more from those who love their spouse like a brother/sister, roommate, co-parent, business partner, video game addict, narcissist lifesucker, control freak, starfish actress,....
Cupid needs to tune and aim his bow and arrow better so there'll be more rejoicing and dancing to Age of Aquarius.

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Good article - Mark Manson

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