Post by elkclan2 on Jul 2, 2018 0:23:00 GMT -5
Soooo we're almost ready to put the house on the market. The house is transformed, major works have been done, stuff has been carted out and packed up, sold, chucked or given away. Just need a few touch-ups on paint and a good old clean and we're ready to go. Yay!
My mother knows we're trying to do this. She ought to know that I find moving a trauma. She laid it on heavy with wanting to visit THIS summer while the house is on the market. She says she'll be 'no trouble' - but actually she's a lot of trouble. She leaves her shit lying around everywhere. And then does weird shit like leaving half-eaten bananas on bookshelves. She says she'll be up and out when people come for viewings. She might be, who knows, but I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't. She says she can look after herself, but after years and years of visits, I KNOW that this isn't the case.
She said "This might be my last trip to Europe... And I really want to see Paris." Fair enough.
"I can't come in the Autumn like I usually do because Hatfield House isn't open except in the summer months and I've always, always wanted to see this." Rubbish. When I lived in NORTH LONDON - we could have visited Hatfield House any time - never mentioned. Never mentioned in any of the previous visits she's done IN THE SUMMER. Hatfield House for those who don't know (and why on earth would you?) is where Elizabeth I was staying when she found out she would be Queen, but otherwise it's like many an historical house of which we've seen many. My mom gets fixated on some minor place and then gets all upset if we don't pull out all the stops to make it happen.
For example, she really wanted to see the Lake District (fair enough!) but she said that she'd like to see a paint brush factory on the way. OK, so it turns out it wasn't on the way at all - did we mind making a two hour detour? Yes, yes we do. Does this even HAVE a visitor centre or a little outlet shop? She doesn't know. She just wants to see the factory where they make the paint brushes she uses to paint. I did manage to say no to this. But she was upset with me.
I'm struggling to say no to this summer visit. My partner said "Did you tell her no?" I said I didn't yet. I know I need to develop some backbone, but I struggle especially when she was already saying stuff like "This might be my last trip to Europe. And I really miss seeing you guys."
Ugh - she's a walking chaos storm and when she visits she consumes all my time.
My mother knows we're trying to do this. She ought to know that I find moving a trauma. She laid it on heavy with wanting to visit THIS summer while the house is on the market. She says she'll be 'no trouble' - but actually she's a lot of trouble. She leaves her shit lying around everywhere. And then does weird shit like leaving half-eaten bananas on bookshelves. She says she'll be up and out when people come for viewings. She might be, who knows, but I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't. She says she can look after herself, but after years and years of visits, I KNOW that this isn't the case.
She said "This might be my last trip to Europe... And I really want to see Paris." Fair enough.
"I can't come in the Autumn like I usually do because Hatfield House isn't open except in the summer months and I've always, always wanted to see this." Rubbish. When I lived in NORTH LONDON - we could have visited Hatfield House any time - never mentioned. Never mentioned in any of the previous visits she's done IN THE SUMMER. Hatfield House for those who don't know (and why on earth would you?) is where Elizabeth I was staying when she found out she would be Queen, but otherwise it's like many an historical house of which we've seen many. My mom gets fixated on some minor place and then gets all upset if we don't pull out all the stops to make it happen.
For example, she really wanted to see the Lake District (fair enough!) but she said that she'd like to see a paint brush factory on the way. OK, so it turns out it wasn't on the way at all - did we mind making a two hour detour? Yes, yes we do. Does this even HAVE a visitor centre or a little outlet shop? She doesn't know. She just wants to see the factory where they make the paint brushes she uses to paint. I did manage to say no to this. But she was upset with me.
I'm struggling to say no to this summer visit. My partner said "Did you tell her no?" I said I didn't yet. I know I need to develop some backbone, but I struggle especially when she was already saying stuff like "This might be my last trip to Europe. And I really miss seeing you guys."
Ugh - she's a walking chaos storm and when she visits she consumes all my time.
