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Post by javba on Aug 31, 2018 11:54:40 GMT -5
Got an anniversary dinner coming up - Unsure how to handle this
Truthfully the most honest thing she's done is not accept any gifts about 3 years now,
She's a lovely person, and the best mother my kids could have.
I just feel broken at this point, perhaps I should bear this thru, got kids to raise.
I am not much for words - so that's the short of it.
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 31, 2018 13:23:59 GMT -5
The last anniversary dinner I “celebrated” with Mr Bballgirl, we went out to dinner with the kids. We exchanged cards I bought a humorous card, no gift, no different than any other time we went out as a family.
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Post by javba on Aug 31, 2018 13:49:20 GMT -5
The last anniversary dinner I “celebrated” with Mr Bballgirl, we went out to dinner with the kids. We exchanged cards I bought a humorous card, no gift, no different than any other time we went out as a family. Thanks for writing, Over the last few years' the biggest achievement I've had in my personal space is understanding and letting go of expectations, It's like asking your car to fly - wont happen and will cause damage. I do not want her damaged, she's the mother of my kids and it's not her fault that she's not sexually inclined to me ?anymore - shit happens. I think that's what i'll do as well - go have a dinner avoid confrontation. She's not stupid she knows what the problem is but afraid because we both want a home for our kids |
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Post by h on Sept 5, 2018 13:30:39 GMT -5
You could choose not to celebrate it. Be honest and tell her that you don't see any reason to celebrate since your marriage isn't making you happy. Treat it just like any regular day.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 5, 2018 23:49:16 GMT -5
The last few anniversaries for my wife and I have been a joke. There hasn't been an intimate moment with her in years. I can't even tell you the last time we kissed. Our anniversary was back in May. We went out to dinner and had small talk over a meal, then went right back home. It doesn't help matters that she keeps getting bigger. I like a BBW, but she's become so big now that she's bordering SSBBW, and that's just too much.
Sorry, I got off track there. I don't see any point in "celebrating" a wedding anniversary for a marriage that is going nowhere.
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Post by baza on Sept 6, 2018 3:09:30 GMT -5
Hard to see any point in you putting any effort into it Brother javba |
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Post by javba on Sept 6, 2018 5:35:07 GMT -5
Thanks guys for writing.
My efforts prioritize "first doing little or no harm", to the mother of my kids in an ethnic arranged marriage, where we're both past our BEST spousal efforts, but still have kids needs ie a home to grow in, grandparents to care for etc.
So it was a table for 2 at an upscale joint where at 52 I was among the youngest of the crowd. We had a great steak and an early night.
No fish, feelings, spouses, kids or grandparents were harmed in this production, no gifts, kisses or hugs were exchanged,
Phew another one under the belt.
Special thanks to open table app and Visa, as well as my friends here for their support. With a table spoon of humor I can get thru most days. Rock on
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