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greatcoastal Senior Members Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D dance with the ladies! Posts: 6,727 Age Range: 56-60	Confusing intensity for intimacy. Mar 11, 2020 19:16:31 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by greatcoastal on Mar 11, 2020 19:16:31 GMT -5 shrink4men.com/2020/03/11/sex-with-borderlines-confusing-intensity-for-intimacy-part-2/?fbclid=IwAR2rmf1SDKuA0bBHjOPJTXCWbyuCNGWunBl0kWG4zaFw4iWG3OvgxswEcY8
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Confusing intensity for intimacy. Mar 11, 2020 23:44:15 GMT -5

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Post by Handy on Mar 11, 2020 23:44:15 GMT -5

Based on my anecdotal clinical experiences, love to a BPD/NPD means:

“You won’t ever leave me no matter how badly I treat you.”
“It’s what people who love each other/are family do (i.e., keep the abuse secret, cover up/lie for me and tolerate/make excuses for my behavior).”
“If you love me, you accept me unconditionally without complaint and never hold me accountable.“
“You never expect or demand what I expect and demand from you. I do whatever I want and you do as I say.“
“You take care of me forever even if we’re no longer together and it hurts you.“

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Confusing intensity for intimacy.

Post by greatcoastal on Mar 11, 2020 19:16:31 GMT -5

Post by Handy on Mar 11, 2020 23:44:15 GMT -5

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