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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 9, 2020 21:28:11 GMT -5
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Post by sadkat on Jun 9, 2020 22:27:47 GMT -5
This was very good. I could relate to most of this. Thanks for sharing! |
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Post by fish on Jun 10, 2020 1:36:35 GMT -5
Thank you so much for that greatcoastal, it was exactly what I needed. All the points in that article are exactly what my wife throws back at me. Particularly the one about relationships being 'hard work'. I always felt that it was a lie and found it hard to articulate exactly why but this puts my thoughts into words precisely. I have just arranged to see a solicitor to discuss where I stand with respect to a divorce, and already having doubts around all the things this discusses - have we really tried hard enough? will the children suffer? will I regret it? I was actually just about to write a post along those lines for a bit of support, might still do. Strange how something like this comes along just at the right time. Thanks again. |
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Post by baza on Jun 10, 2020 7:28:11 GMT -5
Good find Brother greatcoastal . The best article I've seen on here for many a day. Ought be compulsory reading for the membership. |
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Post by isthisit on Jun 10, 2020 16:31:53 GMT -5
Wow greatcoastal that certainly packed a punch, almost all of it reflected my thinking when I arrived here. It is sobering to find that those isolating feelings that feel unique to you and your lonely predicament are actually very normal responses to this horrible way to live. I could have saved myself more than a decade of unhappiness had I realised that I was avoiding and not accommodating. I agree essential reading for people who find themselves here. It should be taught in schools! |
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Post by gladifoundthisforum on Dec 4, 2020 11:02:24 GMT -5
I've just read it  I feel strangely .....scared? (like the feeling of 'walking up to the headmaster's office when you've misbehaved at school'- wobbly stomach feeling) Or possibly strangely 'lighter'? hmmmmmm.... great article. |
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Post by workingonit on Dec 7, 2020 13:34:09 GMT -5
This is one of the greatest articles I have read on the topic! Thanks for sharing. So so so many gems in here for me. I am going to read this weekly for awhile.
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 7, 2020 16:54:00 GMT -5
This is one of the greatest articles I have read on the topic! Thanks for sharing. So so so many gems in here for me. I am going to read this weekly for awhile. Great to hear back from you again!! Boy ... the beginning ,about the kids, really hit home. In short, my parents lived together and lived separate. There were times when they did separate and got back together, never divorcing. My ex W's parents separated and lived apart, never divorced. We lived the lie that "things where different and way better". When, in reality we chose to avoid how bad things where. Our marriage did not get better with time, it grew more and more distant. cold and fake. Time invested that you can't throw away? Time =Money. $$$ another power factor. The lack of authenticity! Got to love that part! (zero honest communication-why bother if it's just going to be manipulated against you?) Here's to an authentic, peaceful you, in the future!!! |
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