Ted talk on DESIRE

jamesbonding
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Ted talk on DESIRE Jul 12, 2020 17:36:37 GMT -5 itme likes this

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Post by jamesbonding on Jul 12, 2020 17:36:37 GMT -5

Jul 11, 2020 16:58:19 GMT -5 itme said:

There is one way this speaker is very different from the spouses of the membership here. Did you catch it???

Curiosity and a willingness to do something about her low libido? Willingness to talk about it with her husband?

Handy
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Ted talk on DESIRE Jul 12, 2020 18:07:58 GMT -5 itme likes this

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Post by Handy on Jul 12, 2020 18:07:58 GMT -5

Padgemi, good video. The up side is "IF" women talk about positive experiences, then I can see this would help. OTH if women talk mostly about negative sexual experiences, which direction does the experience of group lead to? I suspect it would be a negative experiences for the individuals.

I am for group discussions and meetings on the whole.

mirrororchid
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Ted talk on DESIRE Jul 16, 2020 17:11:52 GMT -5 itme likes this

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Post by mirrororchid on Jul 16, 2020 17:11:52 GMT -5

Jul 11, 2020 16:52:38 GMT -5 itme said:

Took a look at her statistics.

16% increase in desire
So if six low libido women get together to talk sex, one woman's desire doubles, the other 5 are unaffected.

She quotes those stats like she's discovered the holy grail.
I'm underwhelmed.

The introduction of an objective low libido woman seeing it as a biological puzzle to be tackled was worth the ticket though.
I was rooting for her.

Um, not that kind of rooting.

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Post by jamesbonding on Jul 12, 2020 17:36:37 GMT -5

Post by Handy on Jul 12, 2020 18:07:58 GMT -5

Post by mirrororchid on Jul 16, 2020 17:11:52 GMT -5

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