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catlover Full Member Posts: 309 Age Range: 61-65	interesting article Nov 24, 2022 14:34:08 GMT -5 via mobile h, heelots, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by catlover on Nov 24, 2022 14:34:08 GMT -5 I thought this may be of benefit to some medium.com/@frejanjorden/they-never-initiate-sex-5126d7b4d92c
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I don't think it really applies to our SM situations and I left a reply on the article. Responsive desire is only relevant if the response is yes at least some of the time. If the answer is always no, there's no responsiveness.

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blunder8 Full Member Posts: 160 Age Range: 56-60	interesting article Jan 6, 2023 22:48:06 GMT -5 via mobile sweetplumeria likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by blunder8 on Jan 6, 2023 22:48:06 GMT -5 Arousal before desire (women) is something that men don't understand. It's good for both species to be mindful that this is normal in many women.

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Nov 24, 2022 14:34:08 GMT -5 catlover said:

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Dec 8, 2022 15:24:40 GMT -5 h said:

But don't you think you would learn earlier on that your in a sexless marriage? That your partner doesn't view it the same way? Does it provoke you to initiate conversation? I know it might not initiate sex, but what I am saying is if you learn the other person doesn't want sex with you that your afforded an opportunity to figure out how to meet your needs and if your needs are important to your partner?

Sorry I might be projecting a bit. I wish I had known before I handed over a quarter of a century to another person.

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