Why people overlook red flags in relationships
Feb 21, 2023 21:07:57 GMT -5
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 21, 2023 21:07:57 GMT -5
This explains why the why to chase is why you picked and/or decided to stay with your partner. Not answering this could mean that even if you leave the relationship, you'll end up witih another toxic partner.
"KEY POINTS
Due to their history of normalizing unhealthy behaviors, many family trauma survivors struggle to identify red flags in dating partners.
Many of the coping skills people learn in childhood are used in their first romantic relationships, continuing the same unhealthy patterns.
Red flags can be difficult to spot if they mimic behaviors that were considered normal or acceptable in your family of origin....
Are some of us more likely to attract toxic people?
Yes. However, an appropriate response to this question deserves a more complex answer. All of us are at risk of being on the receiving end of unhealthy relationships. Still, some seem to be more susceptible to intellectualizing the warning signs and continuing relationships with toxic individuals. To give a better explanation of human and relationship patterns of behavior, we must go back to our early experiences, where we originally learned these behaviors.
Not surprisingly, we learn certain behavior patterns and coping mechanisms during the developmental stages of life. And if those behavior patterns are unhealthy or dysfunctional, we then carry this with us into our adult relationships. Whether intended or not, the way we learn to interact with our caregivers is usually mimicked in our early relationships. If any of these interactions were dysfunctional, we could unknowingly carry on dysfunctional ways of engaging with the world.
Unless we intervene to develop more self-awareness of our behaviors, either through therapy or deep self-reflection, we usually continue to follow these same harmful patterns into adulthood. In summary, we ignore destructive behaviors because they do not register in our minds as unhealthy—but rather as tolerable. Or even as normal."
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202211/why-some-of-us-overlook-red-flags-in-toxic-relationships?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR3-okWHhYYqkAiOLwxX8oHWk_jplhHV6_hN1WO-CvCzTa9wWXZ0cH6ZbiE
"KEY POINTS
Due to their history of normalizing unhealthy behaviors, many family trauma survivors struggle to identify red flags in dating partners.
Many of the coping skills people learn in childhood are used in their first romantic relationships, continuing the same unhealthy patterns.
Red flags can be difficult to spot if they mimic behaviors that were considered normal or acceptable in your family of origin....
Are some of us more likely to attract toxic people?
Yes. However, an appropriate response to this question deserves a more complex answer. All of us are at risk of being on the receiving end of unhealthy relationships. Still, some seem to be more susceptible to intellectualizing the warning signs and continuing relationships with toxic individuals. To give a better explanation of human and relationship patterns of behavior, we must go back to our early experiences, where we originally learned these behaviors.
Not surprisingly, we learn certain behavior patterns and coping mechanisms during the developmental stages of life. And if those behavior patterns are unhealthy or dysfunctional, we then carry this with us into our adult relationships. Whether intended or not, the way we learn to interact with our caregivers is usually mimicked in our early relationships. If any of these interactions were dysfunctional, we could unknowingly carry on dysfunctional ways of engaging with the world.
Unless we intervene to develop more self-awareness of our behaviors, either through therapy or deep self-reflection, we usually continue to follow these same harmful patterns into adulthood. In summary, we ignore destructive behaviors because they do not register in our minds as unhealthy—but rather as tolerable. Or even as normal."
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202211/why-some-of-us-overlook-red-flags-in-toxic-relationships?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR3-okWHhYYqkAiOLwxX8oHWk_jplhHV6_hN1WO-CvCzTa9wWXZ0cH6ZbiE
