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mirrororchid
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Roommate swap (and other post-SM housing ideas) Mar 13, 2023 18:32:34 GMT -5 h and angeleyes65 like this

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Post by mirrororchid on Mar 13, 2023 18:32:34 GMT -5

Here's a longshot. Just so many factors to worry about, but... nothing ventured, nothing gained.

A dreadful part of divorce is figuring out where you'll live.
What if you had a roommate ready to replace your current roommate? (You know, the one you're supposed to be sleeping with but.. )

Finding a place you can afford after alimony eats a massive chunk of your check?
Child support?
I've no idea how anyone can pull it off.

I can see the financial horror preventing moving on with your life, oif you feel you must and inevitably will. (As always, I'd love to hear that anyone made it work instead.)
This thread is for people to say:

"I'm done.
Need a roomie in Denver/San Fran/Detroit/Minneapolis/Perth/Glasgow/Sydney/Dallas/etc.

Anyone else nearby or willing to move, rents run $xxx for a 2 bedroom.
I can pick up $xxx."

If you need someone to take the leap with you.
This is where you can double up.

EDIT: Baza related what he did for alternative housing. Such anecdotes may inspire answers for those unfortunately needing escape.

Last Edit: Mar 31, 2023 4:17:50 GMT -5 by mirrororchid

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Roommate swap (and other post-SM housing ideas) Mar 14, 2023 18:08:38 GMT -5 northstarmom, TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo, and 1 more like this

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Post by baza on Mar 14, 2023 18:08:38 GMT -5

In my case I had informed my Brother that I would likely be looking for somewhere to live for about 4 weeks whilst I figured out a more permanent arrangement for my future.

The arrangent was that I would look after his farm as he and his missus took a well deserved holiday.
Anyway, I left in late 2009 and off to the farm I went.

The deal was they charged me no rent, and I charged them nothing for my labour.

I had about $4k in cash, everything else was tied up in joint situations with my missus, so I was living very frugally until such time as we divvyed up the joint assets.

But that was my temporary solution at the time.
It wasn't much fun, but as well as a roof over my head it was a great opportunity for some introspection and sorting my own shit out.

As it turned out, I ended up choosing to stay in the area, I'm still there now, as is the delectable Ms enna.

Last Edit: Mar 14, 2023 19:05:49 GMT -5 by baza

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