Post by mirrororchid on Feb 21, 2024 19:57:49 GMT -5
tamara68 has generously offered to illustrate greeting cards for us.
ILIASM members could really use a place to shop for cards that don't involve the usual mush that just doesn't apply to an SM.
Some preliminary suggestions began on the thread:
iliasm.org/thread/6037/valentines-day?page=3
I have reposted some of the content below:
We can categorize based on level of engagement or detachment, how much hope there is, funny or sentimental, or a dash of romantic.
What could we say in greeting cards that's sincere and nice? Even if we split, nourishing good terms is wise.
Avoid: Lucky, Perfect
Promising: Mother/Father, Dedicated/Devoted (in their limited way), Steady/Solid, Smart, Funny, Handsome/Beautiful, History/Past together
Nuance: Loving
A few cards I found or fodder for cards were posted on the Valentines guide but would apply to birthday and anniversary cards too.
iliasm.org/thread/5848/iliasm-survivalist-guide-valentines-day
What wording is a message you could convey to fulfill the traditional gesture and not eyeroll?
When we get a critical mass we can place an order. Maybe half a dozen cards for birthday, anniversary, Valentines to provide two years worth of cards in a single blow.
Moo may be a good choice:
www.moo.com/us/greeting-cards?gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4Iq68aKohAMVHHNHAR3mhAp8EAAYASAAEgLdoPD_BwE
A card that says
“you are a great roommate”
Or,
“We make great pretenders”
Or
“Lets post deceptive photos of us toasting our love on social media”
Valentines day makes me salty. Not sweet.
Post by greatcoastal on Feb 13, 2024 at 2:31pm
"How do I love thee?"
"let me count the ways!"
"Oops! Can't! My phone needs charging! LOL"
Happy VD!! -(Valentines Day)
week5of35years
recognising something is happening is not the same as embracing it and taking part..........
m76 said:
My theory is they like the status quo and don't want to change it.
In my relationship I make the majority of our household income and if we split I don't think she could live on her own comfortably.
She goes through the motions knowing that if we split it would be devastating to both of us and the kids.
Totally agree with this theory and reasoning…our marriage has become one of convenience and consideration for the kids and grandkids.
I pay the mortgage and household bills while she grocery shops and does most of the cooking.
While we exchanged Valentines Day gifts and I will take her out to dinner tonite, I won’t expect sexual intimacy from my 67 year old wife…but hope springs eternal!
While the late great Tina Turner sang “What’s love got to do with it?”, I’d be curious to know “What’s AGE got to do with it?”
Do most women lose their libido after menopause…and am I being unreasonable to expect sexual intimacy from my 67 year old wife?
ILIASM members could really use a place to shop for cards that don't involve the usual mush that just doesn't apply to an SM.
Some preliminary suggestions began on the thread:
iliasm.org/thread/6037/valentines-day?page=3
I have reposted some of the content below:
We can categorize based on level of engagement or detachment, how much hope there is, funny or sentimental, or a dash of romantic.
What could we say in greeting cards that's sincere and nice? Even if we split, nourishing good terms is wise.
Avoid: Lucky, Perfect
Promising: Mother/Father, Dedicated/Devoted (in their limited way), Steady/Solid, Smart, Funny, Handsome/Beautiful, History/Past together
Nuance: Loving
A few cards I found or fodder for cards were posted on the Valentines guide but would apply to birthday and anniversary cards too.
iliasm.org/thread/5848/iliasm-survivalist-guide-valentines-day
What wording is a message you could convey to fulfill the traditional gesture and not eyeroll?
When we get a critical mass we can place an order. Maybe half a dozen cards for birthday, anniversary, Valentines to provide two years worth of cards in a single blow.
Moo may be a good choice:
www.moo.com/us/greeting-cards?gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4Iq68aKohAMVHHNHAR3mhAp8EAAYASAAEgLdoPD_BwE
A card that says
“you are a great roommate”
Or,
“We make great pretenders”
Or
“Lets post deceptive photos of us toasting our love on social media”
Valentines day makes me salty. Not sweet.
Post by greatcoastal on Feb 13, 2024 at 2:31pm
"How do I love thee?"
"let me count the ways!"
"Oops! Can't! My phone needs charging! LOL"
Happy VD!! -(Valentines Day)
week5of35years
recognising something is happening is not the same as embracing it and taking part..........
m76 said:
My theory is they like the status quo and don't want to change it.
In my relationship I make the majority of our household income and if we split I don't think she could live on her own comfortably.
She goes through the motions knowing that if we split it would be devastating to both of us and the kids.
Totally agree with this theory and reasoning…our marriage has become one of convenience and consideration for the kids and grandkids.
I pay the mortgage and household bills while she grocery shops and does most of the cooking.
While we exchanged Valentines Day gifts and I will take her out to dinner tonite, I won’t expect sexual intimacy from my 67 year old wife…but hope springs eternal!
While the late great Tina Turner sang “What’s love got to do with it?”, I’d be curious to know “What’s AGE got to do with it?”
Do most women lose their libido after menopause…and am I being unreasonable to expect sexual intimacy from my 67 year old wife?
