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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 7, 2024 7:52:58 GMT -5
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Post by toughtiger on Mar 9, 2024 23:12:23 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync ....
people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down....
the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect.
i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match.
my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing.
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Post by m76 on Mar 9, 2024 23:33:58 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing. I've started to not like a lot of this guys videos. Maybe i'm wrong but his approach feels like manipulation with him controlling everything. |
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Post by lonelyhubby on Mar 10, 2024 11:01:14 GMT -5
A lot of what drove my Wife's withholding was based on a lot of mood issues, coupled with anger towards me - couple that with Perimenopause setting in hard and libido went away and it worked as a combination effect. A lot of times the "kitchen is closed" just because it is a conscious decision to do so. I think that's what he is getting at
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 12, 2024 21:09:31 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing. I've started to not like a lot of this guys videos. Maybe i'm wrong but his approach feels like manipulation with him controlling everything. I'm starting to receive only negative feedback for what I find to be helpful advice. So, from now on i will leave space for others to post whatever articles they want to share,and share my choice of articles on other forums and with friends. |
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 31, 2024 17:08:47 GMT -5
I actually do like this guy. He has some great insights.
This, in essence, is the "right of first refusal," and it can apply to a woman just as easily as a man. While I think it is reasonable, my ex considered it a reason to end the marriage and walk away with cash and prizes.
Negotiating these things up front works in a normal relationship, as it sets everyone's expectations up for meeting their partner's needs. I have cautions about marriage, though, since courts do throw out prenuptial agreements.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 18, 2024 7:15:08 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing.
i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match.
The sad part ( reality) is the delusional partner who has no idea what the honest truth is anymore. ( their world is denial, and avoidance) it's a really difficult pill to swallow for the honest spouse to come to that reality, and take action by leaving and moving forward. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 18, 2024 10:16:37 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing. As I listened to this video I had mixed thoughts. I agree that early in a relationship there is a lot of negoitiating about a lot of things, not just sex. For most of us here I think the restaurant example has come to be accurate. But we aren't talking about just one missed meal. After being refused so many times many of us begin to think in terms of finding another source to satisfy our wants and needs. So we begin looking at the possibility of outsourcesing. Just as a restaurant patron would consider another diner if the hours at his favorite restaurant no longer worked for him/her. While this video seems to be direced at those in the early stage of the relationship if the business is closed to us too often then it seems reasonable to look for another venue to get a good meal. And so it is with intimacy in a marriage. |
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