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Post by itsjustus on Apr 6, 2016 14:37:49 GMT -5
Just checked back in at EP and saw the news. As I occasionally lurked on the other site from time to time when I was at my wits end, I made the transition over to this site with the rest of you. I don't believe I ever posted on EP, but have read many of your stories and certainly feel the same pains and frustrations that most of you do. I hope to eventually add my story to all of yours. But for now, I will leave you with this bit of insight into my life - I am walking through a store today and said "maybe some day I will buy one of these <whatevers>". My wife said "You know I never say no". I looked at her and she said then added: "...to purchases." Ha ha she laughed. I gave her a polite pat on the shoulder. The struggle... A micro-tragedy is the perfect description. I like that. I had those...... One issue with the ex, I did all the bills and finances, once a week, while she watched tv. A part of our "trying to repair" effort, she offered to do a few on "bill night". 1st time...she came in, laid them on the desk and asked, with a little bit of attitude...."It's ok if I watch some tv now, right?" Me (laughingly) "That's a shock...." Her (laughingly) - "Kiss my ass" Me (not laughingly) - "I wish........" She laughed....and went to watch tv. |
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 13, 2016 0:32:39 GMT -5
Introducing myself again, wdftbc is a screen name that I use elsewhere, and decided I did not want to use it here. My new name is Moetse Tau.
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 13, 2016 2:28:23 GMT -5
Introducing myself again, wdftbc is a screen name that I use elsewhere, and decided I did not want to use it here. My new name is Moetse Tau. Well, welcome again! ;-) So, how is this pronounced? And what is its origin? (Presuming it's not your name. Mine's not DryCreek, in case you wondered.) |
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Post by pattycakey on Apr 13, 2016 2:45:58 GMT -5
Hi there,
I'm Pattycakey...an EP alum...so so glad that there is somewhere else for me to find help, advice, solace and empathy. Yay.
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 13, 2016 2:58:30 GMT -5
Introducing myself again, wdftbc is a screen name that I use elsewhere, and decided I did not want to use it here. My new name is Moetse Tau. Well, welcome again! ;-) So, how is this pronounced? And what is its origin? (Presuming it's not your name. Mine's not DryCreek, in case you wondered.) Haha. No. It is not my real name. It is a translation of a name I used in the past that I rather liked. As far as origin it is from a language from south africa. As far as pronounciation, not sure, but after reading about the language, i think there is some tongue pops and clicks in it. I liked how it looked, and learned something about the world. |
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Post by Moetse Tau on Apr 13, 2016 2:59:55 GMT -5
Hi there, I'm Pattycakey...an EP alum...so so glad that there is somewhere else for me to find help, advice, solace and empathy. Yay. Welcome pattycakey. Good to see you join us in our new home. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Apr 13, 2016 10:55:24 GMT -5
Novembercomingfire here. I am in the process of making the slow migration over to this site from our previous refuge.
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Post by ravenwind43 on Apr 14, 2016 21:54:41 GMT -5
Hi:) This is Ravenwind43 from EP so not really new but new to this forum.
The quick version of my current sexless situation.
Been "married" to my husband since 1999, though now I refer to him as my legally bound other in my said state. I knew I was in trouble with the intimacy on my honeymoon. We reside on the same property but live mostly apart and have not had sex since 2012. We do not share a bedroom but do share some duties that any roommates would share. I do have an exit plan.
I was in a long term online relationship that lasted many years. We never met but it was loving and intimate in it's own way. That slowly and painfully ended when the intimacy eroded again due to varied reasons (on his end.) I found this man when I saw my husbands and mine relationship in the end stage and he brought happiness and meaning back to my life. To have both end back to back for basically the same reason has been really hard to swallow.
I find myself now in a place of where I am honestly acknowledging the emotional damage I have experienced. I know that I want to experience a sexual and/or emotional relationship again, but worry that I have lost my ability to have a healthy one. I seem to have developed strange fears about sex that I can't fully explain and know that I need to work on them.
I have taken steps to improve my mental and physical health and look forward to sharing and hopefully supporting others and getting support as I found on EP. Only people who live with this understand the impact it has on your whole being.
Thanks for reading!
Raven
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Post by Val on Apr 14, 2016 23:12:13 GMT -5
Hi all. I had a few usernames at EP. One was laivalentaailmassa. I wasn't around much the last year or two (or three, I can't remember).
I'm happy to report I'm planning my way out. In June I plan to tell my husband I will not be staying. Hoping for an amicable DIY divorce (which can be done in my state) with just lawyers to look over and approve paperwork after going through my state's DIY system.
I suspect it will take me a while to recover. 16 years is a long time.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2016 2:18:42 GMT -5
Hi all. I had a few usernames at EP. One was laivalentaailmassa. I wasn't around much the last year or two (or three, I can't remember). I'm happy to report I'm planning my way out. In June I plan to tell my husband I will not be staying. Hoping for an amicable DIY divorce (which can be done in my state) with just lawyers to look over and approve paperwork after going through my state's DIY system. I suspect it will take me a while to recover. 16 years is a long time. Congratulations on making the move forward! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2016 11:03:49 GMT -5
Welcome to all of you. You have found a place with a lot of people who understand how devastating sexual refusal can be.
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Post by Pinkberry on Apr 19, 2016 14:13:38 GMT -5
Hello all, I'm Pinkberry, another refugee from EP. I am a member of the famed Class of '09 and love to pop my head in from time to time to offer support. I hope this forum will be as helpful to others as the original was to me and that content will be protected, not just for privacy, but for future folks who need help and want to read some BTDT experiences.
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 19, 2016 16:42:09 GMT -5
Hello all, I'm Pinkberry, another refugee from EP. I am a member of the famed Class of '09 and love to pop my head in from time to time to offer support. I hope this forum will be as helpful to others as the original was to me and that content will be protected, not just for privacy, but for future folks who need help and want to read some BTDT experiences. Yay, PB! The little things in life... Reminiscing on EP, I noticed that you were the first friend I ever made there, 7 years ago. EP was a very different place then. |
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Post by lass1 on Apr 19, 2016 20:24:29 GMT -5
Hi.......it's Lass1. Thought I'd check this out as it was recommended by a friend. Got to say I'm missing EP but I can see some familiar names already. It's going to take me a bit to get used to this but I hope to be chatting with those that I have been soon. X  |
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 20, 2016 7:45:35 GMT -5
Hi.......it's Lass1. Thought I'd check this out as it was recommended by a friend. Got to say I'm missing EP but I can see some familiar names already. It's going to take me a bit to get used to this but I hope to be chatting with those that I have been soon. X Glad you made it here. Great people and great support! No trolls!! |
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