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Post by wewbwb on Apr 20, 2016 16:34:51 GMT -5
Hi:) This is Ravenwind43 from EP so not really new but new to this forum. The quick version of my current sexless situation. Been "married" to my husband since 1999, though now I refer to him as my legally bound other in my said state. I knew I was in trouble with the intimacy on my honeymoon. We reside on the same property but live mostly apart and have not had sex since 2012. We do not share a bedroom but do share some duties that any roommates would share. I do have an exit plan. I was in a long term online relationship that lasted many years. We never met but it was loving and intimate in it's own way. That slowly and painfully ended when the intimacy eroded again due to varied reasons (on his end.) I found this man when I saw my husbands and mine relationship in the end stage and he brought happiness and meaning back to my life. To have both end back to back for basically the same reason has been really hard to swallow. I find myself now in a place of where I am honestly acknowledging the emotional damage I have experienced. I know that I want to experience a sexual and/or emotional relationship again, but worry that I have lost my ability to have a healthy one. I seem to have developed strange fears about sex that I can't fully explain and know that I need to work on them. I have taken steps to improve my mental and physical health and look forward to sharing and hopefully supporting others and getting support as I found on EP. Only people who live with this understand the impact it has on your whole being. Thanks for reading! Raven First - welcome. I found ep as it was closing and never was very active there. I like this place. The people are wonderful, caring, supportive, and -except for me- smart. I/we understand your concerns about going into a new relationship. I ask you to consider this: You know what you want - and what you don't want. You also know that sometimes even healthy relationships fail. Forge ahead. Be the strong woman I know is there- One does not face the challenges you did and NOT become strong- and above all, stay positive. You deserve better and do not settle for less then you want. Take a chance- trust your instincts - if it "feels" wrong - move on. But above all - dare to be you. Not just for your sake - but for the sake of the person that you will meet and you will bring more joy to their life then they ever knew. |
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Post by Pinkberry on Apr 21, 2016 10:16:45 GMT -5
Hello all, I'm Pinkberry, another refugee from EP. I am a member of the famed Class of '09 and love to pop my head in from time to time to offer support. I hope this forum will be as helpful to others as the original was to me and that content will be protected, not just for privacy, but for future folks who need help and want to read some BTDT experiences. Yay, PB! The little things in life... Reminiscing on EP, I noticed that you were the first friend I ever made there, 7 years ago. EP was a very different place then. Awwww, I never knew that. It's been a long time. We've all been through so much |
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Post by deleted on Apr 21, 2016 15:47:56 GMT -5
Hi All,
I am formerly mrniceguy61 from EP. When I moved over here, I decided a new username was in order. Deleted seemed to be a popular name in EP, when people would remove their accounts.
I found ILIASM after googling "surviving a sexless marriage". I have appreciated the support, feedback and sharing of experiences. I hope to continue that process here.
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Post by TMD on Apr 21, 2016 18:14:54 GMT -5
Hi All, I am formerly mrniceguy61 from EP. When I moved over here, I decided a new username was in order. Deleted seemed to be a popular name in EP, when people would remove their accounts. I found ILIASM after googling "surviving a sexless marriage". I have appreciated the support, feedback and sharing of experiences. I hope to continue that process here. So you exist? You're not actually "deleted?" |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2016 18:20:12 GMT -5
Hi All, I am formerly mrniceguy61 from EP. When I moved over here, I decided a new username was in order. Deleted seemed to be a popular name in EP, when people would remove their accounts. I found ILIASM after googling "surviving a sexless marriage". I have appreciated the support, feedback and sharing of experiences. I hope to continue that process here. You had me bamboozled with that one. "He's deleted, but his link still works?" |
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 21, 2016 23:13:57 GMT -5
I found ILIASM after googling "surviving a sexless marriage". I have appreciated the support, feedback and sharing of experiences. I hope to continue that process here. Deleted, you were like the most prolific writer ever on EP - incredible! Though it was forever confusing whether you were male / female / transgender or young / old... your stories were all over the map! It must be like Sybil in there. ;-) Welcome to the new ILIASM refugee camp. |
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Post by Stargaizer on Apr 22, 2016 6:16:58 GMT -5
Hey gang, came from EP. Nice to be here!
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Post by JMX on Apr 22, 2016 8:39:43 GMT -5
Bruce: Hello. My name is Bruce. Anchor, Chum: Hello, Bruce. Bruce: It has been three weeks since my last fish, on my honor, or may I be chopped up and made into soup. [Anchor and Chum applaud] Chum: You're an inspiration to us all! Anchor: Amen!  Hello everyone. I'm Fiery, formerly neeia and many other things. Someone once told me that being friend with me on the now-defunct EP was very much like being friend with the Mystique :-) I am here to chronicle my post SM journey, hoping that this provides helpful insights to those still aspiring to leave their SMs, while trying not to be very "sharky" with those who choose to stay. Repeat after me: Fish are our friends. We do not eat fish. (those who stay, being... the Fish) Sorry, you guys, can't help it. :-) I will, after all, always be... a little vicious. Part of my appeal, I guess. Yay Neeia! I have a hard time calling you anything else but I will! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2016 9:04:27 GMT -5
Welcome to all! I am so glad to see others who know what sexual refusal feels like.
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 22, 2016 14:50:03 GMT -5
Bruce: Hello. My name is Bruce. Anchor, Chum: Hello, Bruce. Bruce: It has been three weeks since my last fish, on my honor, or may I be chopped up and made into soup. [Anchor and Chum applaud] Chum: You're an inspiration to us all! Anchor: Amen! Hello everyone. I'm Fiery, formerly neeia and many other things. Someone once told me that being friend with me on the now-defunct EP was very much like being friend with the Mystique :-) I am here to chronicle my post SM journey, hoping that this provides helpful insights to those still aspiring to leave their SMs, while trying not to be very "sharky" with those who choose to stay. Repeat after me: Fish are our friends. We do not eat fish. (those who stay, being... the Fish) Sorry, you guys, can't help it. :-) I will, after all, always be... a little vicious. Part of my appeal, I guess. So glad you came to the party!! |
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Post by bonnie on Apr 22, 2016 15:10:14 GMT -5
Hello all. I am a crossover from the old EP page. I debated on coming thru but chose to do so simply because it was a nice place to be and hope for the same here. Over there, my signature was Lifeloveahhhh but I have decided to simplify and use my name, Bonnie. Take care all you wo nderful folks and remember, embrace the life you live. You owe it to yourself.
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Post by qcrash on Apr 22, 2016 19:48:18 GMT -5
Hello everyone. Made it, my PC was having issues registering, but the Mac comes thru again. I'm upstairs, wife's downstairs yelling at the kids (as usual), I'm just maximizing my distance to keep out of the cross-fire (as usual). Maybe after they go to bed... oh, who am I kidding? Sigh...
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 23, 2016 10:04:41 GMT -5
Hi guys this is Rhapsodee. I thought I'd test drive this one. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2016 10:35:18 GMT -5
Hooray! I'm glad you're finding your own name now!
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 23, 2016 12:20:00 GMT -5
This is difficult. Who the hell am I?
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