Where do you see yourself at the end of this year?
I will be divorced for a year. My house will be sold and I will be debt free, living in a new home, with zero memories of either my first or second failed marriages. Hopefully I will be in a physically better place by then, too, and having shed the stress weight I have put on.
Post by saarinista on Feb 17, 2020 16:12:31 GMT -5
I expect to end 2020 working for a living. Thank God, I have finally figured out a new career direction after years of dithering. I'm actively interviewing and look forward to announcing something fairly soon.
There's nothing worse than not earning a living, IMHO. Let's hear it for personal responsibility!
Please forgive any typos or poor sentence structure. As I often say, you can have it perfect or you can have it now. Here, I choose now.
Post by ScottDinTN on Feb 17, 2020 18:43:47 GMT -5
Good to hear those wanting to pay down debt. I believe in debt free living. Paid off everything but the house 10 years ago and haven't charged anything since. Best thing I ever did!
There have been layoffs three different times since I started at my job 2 years ago. If they ever come to the I.T. department, I know I will be the first one out the door (last hired, first fired...). I've been preparing to start my own business in case I get laid off. Then I could hit the ground running. I'm tired of working for idiots. I want to be my own boss. Its a dream of mine and I think its time to get it started. Planning to start doing jobs on the side in April when my non-compete from my previous employer expires.
My youngest is still in school so I don't plan on moving out this year unless something big changes.
Planning to finish more of my basement apartment so I can live completely separate. I just finished part of my bathroom; just have to put in a shower next. After that a small kitchenette and I won't have any reason to ever go upstairs.
New Job. Maybe not travel so much (80%) I am tired of being on the road while my house implodes. I was traveling last week with my wife at home with the flu and my kid had to stay home from school for a day to take care of her..... sucks. I know however I have to travel or I will go crazy as well....
Where do you see yourself at the end of this year?
I hope to have more of my debts paid down. My income takes a dip in the summer so I normally pay bills ahead where I can to minimize the hit in July and August. My goal is to have as many small debts as possible paid off by June to minimize the number of bills overall. Then I will have more of my income to whittle away at the larger debts this Fall. Improving my debt to income ratio is part of my long term goal towards getting out and not going bankrupt from it.
Bits of me are dying but others are growing. One step at a time.
I know it’s been a while. Here’s a question for today: What is one positive thing that you’ve experienced as a result of the shelter-in-place/social distancing guidelines?
I know it’s probably hard to find a silver lining in this mess. It certainly has been for me. But this morning, as I was drinking my tea and contemplating the day ahead of me, I realized that this was the very first time in a very long time that I allowed myself to take the time to just do nothing. Since my split, I’d followed all of the advice. I filled my days with work, the gym, getting out there to meet people, reaching out to the people I loved, being as social as possible. I kept myself so busy trying to silence the noise of the anxieties that plagued me so much. I lost track of the fact that this introvert really needs time to get lost in a good sappy book and allow herself to be lazy for a full day. Would I have allowed myself this luxury had it not been forced on me? Likely not- so there’s my positive. The stresses, anxieties, and worries that plague me these days will still be there but I’m going to take a break today and lose myself in a world where life is good and endings are happy. Stay safe, stay home, and do what makes you happy.
Post by worksforme2 on Apr 11, 2020 12:13:13 GMT -5
Actually a couple things....I have thrown myself into catching up on the maintenance on my home and yard, stuff I ignored for far too long. Now the place is looking pretty spiffy again Even one of my neighbors commented on how good the place is looking. And I am not done yet. Also I spent a half day thinning out my long neglected strawberry beds. I had 4 large flats of plants that I have distributed around the neighborhood. So if I croak my strawberries will live on. I have however been a constant violator of the "shelter in place directive" for NC. My Harley doesn't understand pandemics so I have been compelled to ride it. And to be honest, I am not sorry. So my apologies to all those who follow the rules about staying home, I just gotta go 2 wheeling.
Great to see QOTD back, and an excellent question sadkat . Despite the horrible rationale for the social distancing I can see several silver linings. Most obviously I do not miss my dreadful commute to work through crappy traffic which just in itself gives me 1 1/2 to 2 hours per day, more sleep and less stress. I cook more and have been able to get out and walk in some unusual early spring sunshine. Like worksforme2 I have spruced up my large garden during downtime when “working from home” 😉 My children are off school so we have been hanging together in the house and garden, watching movies and cooking. They have each had state exams cancelled so we have all been spared the anxieties of GCSE & A levels. Like sadkat I have also used the time to simply ask less of myself in terms of rushing around and being superwoman. But best of all, as most people are at home at the same time I have been able to spend long periods of time to remotely connect with a special person to me which has brought me much happiness.
I never thought I’d say this, but I miss sitting in Nashville traffic. At least I could sing Merle Haggard as loud as I want and bother no one.
As for the QOTD: before the Corona hangover, the STBX took over the kitchen and became the chef [food heater upper] every evening, excluding me from the dinner table. Meanwhile I was feeling more and more socially-isolated from my 2 daughters, even before COVID-19 hit the US.
Only last week did it get through my thick skull that the fact that the girls were skipping breakfast and lunch/eating junk while mom works away in the living room presented an opportunity.
Enter Dad, the AM chef. Before quarantine, they always wanted hash browns from Burger King. This morning? Two large russet potatoes, shredded in a box grater, 1 egg, salt, fried in oil, w/o stirring, until golden, in a serving-sized mini skillet, 2-1/2 minutes, flip, drain on paper towel (if you can find any), more salt. Feeds (3). 😁
They say the way to a girl’s heart is through her stomach. I believe this may be Dad’s salvation...