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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 3, 2017 9:25:36 GMT -5
And lick her into Mondae? Sorry couldnt resist. tamara68 It would be amazingly fun to find all the sprinkles with my tongue. I don't see that working with the W either, but it would be fun with an AP. I could turn her body into a Sunday.🤤🍽️ Why stop at Mundae, I'm thinking at least Tuesdae or Wednesdae, maybe even Fridae. I have 10 years of no oral to makes up for missing.
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Post by tamara68 on Oct 3, 2017 11:45:31 GMT -5
tamara68 It would be amazingly fun to find all the sprinkles with my tongue. I don't see that working with the W either, but it would be fun with an AP. I could turn her body into a Sunday.🤤🍽️ The W for the stuffing and AP for the topping, not that bad
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 15, 2017 6:45:58 GMT -5
So mini update. The W keeps getting sick with what ever gems the kids at school have and we are down to 7 times on the past 5 weeks. Which is what happens every school year, and she will keep getting sick for a while.
I'm done with it, I'm not going to live my life with someone that chooses a job that keeps her sick. 2 years ago when she was constantly sick, I encouraged her to try and become a supervisor/department head, so she can stay in the same field but interact with the kids less.
I said something about it last night and she thought it was unfair that I was grumpy at her for something she doesn't have control over.
My November deadline still stands, I doubt she will wanting to do oral by then and if she checks the box, it is going to cement the eventual divorce.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 15, 2017 6:52:53 GMT -5
So mini update. The W keeps getting sick with what ever gems the kids at school have and we are down to 7 times on the past 5 weeks. Which is what happens every school year, and she will keep getting sick for a while. I'm done with it, I'm not going to live my life with someone that chooses a job that keeps her sick. 2 years ago when she was constantly sick, I encouraged her to try and become a supervisor/department head, so she can stay in the same field but interact with the kids less. I said something about it last night and she thought it was unfair that I was grumpy at her for something she doesn't have control over. My November deadline still stands, I doubt she will wanting to do oral by then and if she checks the box, it is going to cement the eventual divorce. I worked child care (part time) for a couple of years. All with one and two year olds. I was handed many a little one with runny noses. What I was told- and turned out to be true for myself- was that your body actually gets used to it and you build up an immunity to it. Your W's alibi sounds like a bunch of Barbara Streisand (B.S.)
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 15, 2017 7:03:41 GMT -5
So mini update. The W keeps getting sick with what ever gems the kids at school have and we are down to 7 times on the past 5 weeks. Which is what happens every school year, and she will keep getting sick for a while. I'm done with it, I'm not going to live my life with someone that chooses a job that keeps her sick. 2 years ago when she was constantly sick, I encouraged her to try and become a supervisor/department head, so she can stay in the same field but interact with the kids less. I said something about it last night and she thought it was unfair that I was grumpy at her for something she doesn't have control over. My November deadline still stands, I doubt she will wanting to do oral by then and if she checks the box, it is going to cement the eventual divorce. I worked child care (part time) for a couple of years. All with one and two year olds. I was handed many a little one with runny noses. What I was told- and turned out to be true for myself- was that your body actually gets used to it and you build up an immunity to it. Your W's alibi sounds like a bunch of Barbara Streisand (B.S.) Oh I agree, she should be use to it after teaching for a decade. I frogot to add the part that I told her to talk to get Dr when she went in on Friday and she has a referral to an immunologist that is part of the larger practice. If I have to be the adult and schedule the appointment I will.
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 15, 2017 7:25:34 GMT -5
Why stop at Mundae, I'm thinking at least Tuesdae or Wednesdae, maybe even Fridae. I have 10 years of no oral to makes up for missing. Haha, I'm not into that Fridae. While Tuesdae looks really good, she would look better with natural breasts.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Oct 17, 2017 0:19:54 GMT -5
Unfortunately it would seem you have some pretty hard decisions to make. Your November deadline is in 2 weeks. Have you visited a lawyer to find out where you stand? Have you got your exit strategy ready or will it take another 6 months to whack one into shape?
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 17, 2017 5:30:38 GMT -5
Unfortunately it would seem you have some pretty hard decisions to make. Your November deadline is in 2 weeks. Have you visited a lawyer to find out where you stand? Have you got your exit strategy ready or will it take another 6 months to whack one into shape? Well, the deadline is late November and I will take my time getting my exit strategy figured out. But I already know the lawyer I'm going to go to, he did a good job on my brothers divorce from his crazy xW.
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 17, 2017 7:05:10 GMT -5
Keep in mind that if your wife visits any lawyer before you do, that lawyer won't see you.
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 19, 2017 23:37:12 GMT -5
Well, tonight she brought up the conversation of, I'm tired of trying, of butting heads, of worrying that we're having enough sex. It sounds like we are coming up on the end. It was a civil conversation and respectful on both sides.
Having her bring it up was a complete blindsided, it was not the conversation I expected to have tonight.
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Post by h on Oct 19, 2017 23:49:41 GMT -5
Well, tonight she brought up the conversation of, I'm tired of trying, of butting heads, of worrying that we're having enough sex. It sounds like we are coming up on the end. It was a civil conversation and respectful on both sides. Having her bring it up was a complete blindsided, it was not the conversation I expected to have tonight. It's good that it was civil. Maybe she'll give you a peaceful parting of ways instead of a drawn out drama strewn mess.
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 20, 2017 6:20:00 GMT -5
We talked some more and resolved some things but I don't think we can fix the elephant in the room.
I need some courious, playful, fun, learning about each other and our selves sex. She likes to stick with what she knows and what works, she likes the routine. I'm not giving up oral.
I think we are going to sit on it for a few days before we decided if we are going to divorce.
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 20, 2017 7:41:44 GMT -5
So, I've been looking at Maryland's People's Law website and it looks like a divorce might shake out better then I thought, since we both have jobs and retirement plans. And alimony is usually just for large discrepancies in income levels, and rehabilitative (going back to school). It is surreal to be thinking the divorce might happen.
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Post by workingonit on Oct 20, 2017 7:44:05 GMT -5
Congrats on civil discussion! We had been there and then this week we started fighting. We have never fought before! It feels horrible but it also feels like movement. Your clarity is getting clearer! Good for you!
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 20, 2017 7:55:54 GMT -5
Well, tonight she brought up the conversation of, I'm tired of trying, of butting heads, of worrying that we're having enough sex. It sounds like we are coming up on the end. It was a civil conversation and respectful on both sides. Having her bring it up was a complete blindsided, it was not the conversation I expected to have tonight. First off ,I wasn't there, It's only one line, and I don't know your wife. So, with that said, the line "I am tired of trying,of butting heads, of worrying that we're having enough sex" sounds like DARVO. Denying that she as any problem at all. Arguing/avoiding. Reversing it "you are only interested in your self" Victim :you make me worry to much. Offender: this is all your fault, all you think about is sex. YES, they can be very civil about it. Spoken with a very honest, sincere, as a matter of fact tone. meanwhile they are distorting the truth and manipulating your words and actions to suit themselves only. Zero compromise, zero submission, zero trust given to you, leaving them in control. Doesn't end up being a very level playing field, does it? it can look that way, all wrapped in a nice pretty package, but the box is empty. I like putting things into word pictures or examples, think of it this way; Officer I am tired of driving the speed limit, of always butting head with you officers, of worrying about hitting other people, I am just going to drive the way that suits me best and do what i want and everyone else needs to just get out of my way.
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