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Post by hopingforachange on Sept 29, 2017 8:41:59 GMT -5
She even has issues with me performing it on her. Each time she has let us try she has found it pleasurable though, I think there is still issues with her and her view of sexual activities other then PIV.
She still has worries that I will leave her and "trade up." I'm not sure what exactly she means by that because, honestly if I'm going to be in another relationship I'm not going to go thru this crap again and it will be a trade up for someone that is a touch person and wants to have a healthy sexual relationship. I just hope the W is not still motivated by fear to have our current frequency because I don't think it is something that could be sustained over the long term.
Oh, and I have been eating so much pineapple, my sperm might as well come out singing the soundtrack from Moana.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 29, 2017 12:21:48 GMT -5
On oral sex....dont ask. Look for the right moment and position yourself in front of her face. Tell her you want her to put it in her mouth. Make sure your showered, clean, trimmed etc. You want to be presentable.
Worse case is you trigger a discussion. No amount of talking will convince IMO.
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Post by TMD on Sept 29, 2017 13:56:27 GMT -5
On oral sex....dont ask. Look for the right moment and position yourself in front of her face. Tell her you want her to put it in her mouth. Make sure your showered, clean, trimmed etc. You want to be presentable. Worse case is you trigger a discussion. No amount of talking will convince IMO. “Position yourself in front of her face?” As a woman, it would definitely have to be the “right” moment. A. Wrong moment: A dick appears in front of my face = I am turned off. And am not likely to want to engage in anything with that dick at anytime ever. IMO, it’s an aggressive move and not for me. B. Right moment: We are playful, teasing, getting it on, then YES PLEASE!
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Post by h on Sept 29, 2017 14:13:39 GMT -5
On oral sex....dont ask. Look for the right moment and position yourself in front of her face. Tell her you want her to put it in her mouth. Make sure your showered, clean, trimmed etc. You want to be presentable. Worse case is you trigger a discussion. No amount of talking will convince IMO. “Position yourself in front of her face?” As a woman, it would definitely have to be the “right” moment. A. Wrong moment: A dick appears in front of my face = I am turned off. And am not likely to want to engage in anything with that dick at anytime ever. IMO, it’s an aggressive move and not for me. B. Right moment: We are playful, teasing, getting it on, then YES PLEASE! Yeah, even as a guy, I can see that approach going south fast...
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Post by hopingforachange on Sept 29, 2017 14:31:19 GMT -5
I don't see that working at all on the W. She is 100% against any dominating things like that. Now, hypothetically speaking, if I say, had an AP that enjoyed being dominated, I would totally do that. But I'm also one that would enjoy being told to lick her clit.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 29, 2017 15:30:10 GMT -5
I wholeheartedly agree. The moment has to be right. Tricky!!! Ive got it wrong before. Didnt work out too bad. Intent is known by then Someone has to take the lead tho... On oral sex....dont ask. Look for the right moment and position yourself in front of her face. Tell her you want her to put it in her mouth. Make sure your showered, clean, trimmed etc. You want to be presentable. Worse case is you trigger a discussion. No amount of talking will convince IMO. “Position yourself in front of her face?” As a woman, it would definitely have to be the “right” moment. A. Wrong moment: A dick appears in front of my face = I am turned off. And am not likely to want to engage in anything with that dick at anytime ever. IMO, it’s an aggressive move and not for me. B. Right moment: We are playful, teasing, getting it on, then YES PLEASE!
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 29, 2017 15:45:21 GMT -5
Worse case is she is triggered by memories of some kind of assault or disrespectful activity and she doesn't trust you again to approach her sexually. That's why I do not suggest risking sticking your dick in the face of a woman who is timid or reluctant about oral.
Instead, I suggest bringing chocolate syrup or whipped cream into bed and having fun with those if those flavors would tempt her. Have towels to protect the sheets....
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 29, 2017 16:20:35 GMT -5
Maybe take a hypothetical approach. Ask her what her reaction would be if you tried that? Might be a worthwhile discussion. I don't see that working at all on the W. She is 100% against any dominating things like that. Now, hypothetically speaking, if I say, had an AP that enjoyed being dominated, I would totally do that. But I'm also one that would enjoy being told to lick her clit.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Sept 30, 2017 0:00:46 GMT -5
Love the update!!!! So much good news to be had here!
I am sure I can speak for all of us when I say that I am fucking jealous, but I'm sure you can appreciate that I we are happy/jealous for you.
As far as oral, that is a long road, one that I know you know that I am walking along as well... Keep at it!!
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Post by tirefire on Sept 30, 2017 9:52:10 GMT -5
You can't cajole, entreat, explain, counsel, etc. someone into sexually desiring you. This is the thing that makes so much sense but I have to keep trying to come to terms with and accept. Please keep repeating this.
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Post by hopingforachange on Sept 30, 2017 10:38:15 GMT -5
Worse case is she is triggered by memories of some kind of assault or disrespectful activity and she doesn't trust you again to approach her sexually. That's why I do not suggest risking sticking your dick in the face of a woman who is timid or reluctant about oral. Instead, I suggest bringing chocolate syrup or whipped cream into bed and having fun with those if those flavors would tempt her. Have towels to protect the sheets.... I have suggested chocolate syrup, Carmel sause, or whip cream but she doesn't do sticky stuff
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Post by tamara68 on Oct 3, 2017 5:28:18 GMT -5
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Post by h on Oct 3, 2017 6:13:22 GMT -5
I think there's a chocolate powder you can get too
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 3, 2017 6:24:22 GMT -5
tamara68 It would be amazingly fun to find all the sprinkles with my tongue. I don't see that working with the W either, but it would be fun with an AP. I could turn her body into a Sunday.🤤🍽️
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Oct 3, 2017 9:09:13 GMT -5
And lick her into Mondae? Sorry couldnt resist. tamara68 It would be amazingly fun to find all the sprinkles with my tongue. I don't see that working with the W either, but it would be fun with an AP. I could turn her body into a Sunday.🤤🍽️
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