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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2017 19:13:18 GMT -5
Hi everyone!
I hope I'm posting in the right place. Newly 40 and married for 16 years to my college sweetheart. When our sex life dwindled from what was normal for us, I looked for signs and started thinking the worst. He wasn't cheating on me, he's asexual.
I don't know what direction I want to go. I heard about this site from someone in a local support group.
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Post by baza on Sept 4, 2017 19:41:42 GMT -5
Posts in this "welcome" group tend to get lost Sister @sexlessonthebeach .
If you are looking for some feedback, posting your story in the "SM issues" group is probably the way to go.
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 4, 2017 19:43:00 GMT -5
Hi everyone! I hope I'm posting in the right place. Newly 40 and married for 16 years to my college sweetheart. When our sex life dwindled from what was normal for us, I looked for signs and started thinking the worst. He wasn't cheating on me, he's asexual. I don't know what direction I want to go. I heard about this site from someone in a local support group. Welcome. You are in the right place. Read a lot and figure out what will make you happy. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2017 20:09:16 GMT -5
Posts in this "welcome" group tend to get lost Sister @sexlessonthebeach . If you are looking for some feedback, posting your story in the "SM issues" group is probably the way to go. Thank you, baza. I will go that route. I am only left with 2 questions. 1. Why is this welcome panel here if posts get lost? And 2. Do you call all the ladies Sister, or just the ones who seem out of place? |
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Post by baza on Sept 4, 2017 20:21:26 GMT -5
1. Why is this welcome panel here if posts get lost?
Good question, I don't know. The way the welcome group is set up makes it that way, like a chat room. For example, on the home page now, my name will appear as the most recent contributor, and your name (as the previous contributer) ain't there any more. The welcome group is like one long and confused thread. Very hard to find a particular post in it.
2. Do you call all the ladies Sister, or just the ones who seem out of place?
I think of this group as a group of siblings with a common interest, so I refer to Sister xxxxxx or Brother xxxxxx as a matter of course. And for what it is worth, it is pretty rare to see a post in here that "looks out of place".
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2017 20:36:24 GMT -5
Thank you, again baza. It's comforting.
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Post by h on Sept 5, 2017 4:29:57 GMT -5
Hi everyone! I hope I'm posting in the right place. Newly 40 and married for 16 years to my college sweetheart. When our sex life dwindled from what was normal for us, I looked for signs and started thinking the worst. He wasn't cheating on me, he's asexual. I don't know what direction I want to go. I heard about this site from someone in a local support group. Welcome. I'm sorry you have the need to find this group but hopefully it helps. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 5, 2017 7:43:50 GMT -5
Thank you, again baza. It's comforting. You aren't out of place at all. Too cool that a person IRL referred you. Welcome. I'm sorry you qualify but glad that you found us. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2017 12:31:40 GMT -5
Hi there....
It´s sad to know there´s so many people in the same situation, but I´m feeling relieved at the same time knowing that I´m not alone.
I´ve been reading a lot of your histories here in forum and I intend to tell mine soon cause I´m feeling so lost since I found out that I´m living in a SM.... I´m needing some advices...
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Post by h on Sept 5, 2017 12:52:49 GMT -5
Welcome @feelingrejected and I'm sorry you have the need to be here. I hope it helps.
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Post by pixie on Sept 5, 2017 22:26:02 GMT -5
Hello..
I'm new and lurking for a couple days now. I have been living in a sexless marriage for 7 years. It feels good to find a group of people going through the same thing only because here it can be discussed and hopefully no one will judge. It's difficult not being able to tell your friends and family. It can be draining to pretend all is fine. 😞
I have read quite a few posts, gave me hope, made sad, made me think. Eventually I will share my story.
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Post by obobfla on Sept 5, 2017 22:42:37 GMT -5
Hello.. I'm new and lurking for a couple days now. I have been living in a sexless marriage for 7 years. It feels good to find a group of people going through the same thing only because here it can be discussed and hopefully no one will judge. It's difficult not being able to tell your friends and family. It can be draining to pretend all is fine. 😞 I have read quite a few posts, gave me hope, made sad, made me think. Eventually I will share my story. Welcome to the club no one wants to join. Since we lack fun in the bedroom, we try to have fun here. I have found this site to be very therapeutic. |
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Post by JMX on Sept 5, 2017 22:43:15 GMT -5
Welcome pixie - none of us want to be here, but here we are  . Glad you found us! |
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Post by h on Sept 6, 2017 4:07:06 GMT -5
Hello.. I'm new and lurking for a couple days now. I have been living in a sexless marriage for 7 years. It feels good to find a group of people going through the same thing only because here it can be discussed and hopefully no one will judge. It's difficult not being able to tell your friends and family. It can be draining to pretend all is fine. 😞 I have read quite a few posts, gave me hope, made sad, made me think. Eventually I will share my story. Welcome pixie and I hope you find some comfort here. |
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Post by ditchsurfer on Sept 6, 2017 4:44:31 GMT -5
Morning all and thank you. I did not even know a forum of this nature existed. I think most of us can recall some of our friends joking about, once the ring is on... or number one cause of marital sexual disfunction is wedding cake, and we laughed and probably thought, that will never happen to me. And so your nightmare evolves. Oct 18, 2014 was my last day of sex with my spouse. I will not say intimacy, because it was not. The worst or non-intimate sexual experience of my life. I regretted even trying. I felt like a monster. She laid there like a lifeless doll for the 2 to 3 mins it lasted. I made up my mine then. That will never happen again. And it has not. Before 10-18-14, it was 15 sexless months going back to 7-4-12. So once in five years. So why do I stay. I do still love her. Second, finances. She makes more money and our retirement accounts are comingled and I am 58. Third, we took legal guardianship of our 5yo paternal grandson and I could not afford to raise him. So, although I could leave, I stick it out for the betterment of several situations. I take care of my personal issue, myself. You know what I mean. The 4x6 banner, I posted at the end of our driveway on our last anniversary, I got nothing in return, not even a card.  |
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